Wonke umntu Ulwa Neentembelo
Ukuzithemba kuchazwa njengentembelo yokuthembela kumakhono, iimpawu kunye nokugwetywa komntu. Ukuzithemba kubalulekile kwimpilo yakho kunye nentlalo yengqondo.
Ukuba neqondo elifanelekileyo lokuzithemba kunokukunceda ukuba uphumelele ebomini bakho bobuqu kunye nobungcali.
Iinzuzo Zokuzimela
Xa ukholelwa kuwe, uya kuba uzimisele ukuzama izinto ezintsha. Ingaba ufaka isicelo sokuphakanyiswa okanye ubhalisele kwiklasi yokupheka, ukukholelwa kuwe kukubalulekileyo ukuze uzibeke apho.
Xa uziva uzikholose kuwe, unako ukunikezela izixhobo zakho emsebenzini. Kunokuba uchithe ixesha kunye namandla okukhathazeka ukuba awukho kakuhle, unako ukunikela amandla akho kwimigudu yakho. Ngoko ekugqibeleni, uya kwenza ngcono xa uziva uqinisekile.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unesiqinisekiso malunga nomboniso oza kuyenza, uya kugxila ekuhambiseni umyalezo wakho kubaphulaphuli bakho. Ukuba kunjalo, ungenakho ukuzithemba ekunxibelelaneni kwakho, unokhathazeka ukuba akukho mntu uphulaphulayo okanye unokuba uxakekile xa udibanisa.
Ngenxa yoko, unokuba nzima ukugxininisa kwaye unokukhubeka ngamazwi akho-anokunyanisekisa inkolelo yakho yokuba ungendawo ekunikezeni iintetho.
Ngethamsanqa, kukho izinto onokuzenza ukuze ukhulise ukuzithemba kwakho. Ingaba unganamathemba kwindawo ethile okanye unzima ukuzithemba ukuba nantoni na, ezi zicwangciso zinokukunceda.
1 - Yeka ukuziqhathanisa nabanye
Ingaba uqhathanisa indlela ojonga ngayo kubahlobo bakho kwi-Facebook okanye uthelekisa umvuzo wakho kumvuzo wakho womngane, ukuthelekiswa akuphiliswanga. Enyanisweni, uphando olwenziwa ngo-2018 olupapashwe ngoBuntu kunye noLwazi lwaBanye lufumene unxibelelwano oluchanekileyo phakathi komona kunye nendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo.
Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba abantu bazithelekisa nabanye , abanomona. Kwaye kwaba nomona omkhulu kunabo bonke, ababenzima ngakumbi. Ingaba ngumjikelo onobungozi.
Namela amaxesha xa uthelekisa ubutyebi bakho, izinto, izakhono, impumelelo, kunye neempawu. Ukucinga ukuba abanye abantu bangcono okanye baninzi baya kutshabalalisa ukuzithemba kwakho.
Xa uqaphela ukuba uqhathanisa, zikhumbuze ukuba ukwenza oko akuncedi. Wonke umntu uqhuba uhlanga lwakhe kunye nobomi alukhuphiswano.
2 - Unakekele umzimba wakho
Kunzima ukuziva ulungile malunga nawe xa usebenzisa kakubi umzimba wakho. Ukuzilalisa ubuthongo, ukutya ukutya okunempilo, kunye nokuyeka ukuzivocavoca kuya kuthatha umonakalo kwimpilo yakho.
Izifundo zibonisa ngokuqhubekayo ukunyusa umzimba kumanyanisa ukuzithemba. I-2016 yokufundwa kwi- Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatmen t yafumana ukuba umsebenzi oqhelekileyo wokuzilolonga umzimba wenza ngcono umzimbeni womziqela. Kwaye xa umzimba wabo uphucule, baziva benethemba.
Yenza ukuzinakekela okubalulekileyo. Xa uvakalelwa kukusemandleni akho, ngokuqhelekileyo uya kuziva ukhululekile ngokwakho.
3 - Ziqhelise ukuzithanda
Ukuzithemba kuqukwa kukuphatha ngenceba xa wenza iphutha, ushiywe, okanye ufumane impendulo. Ukuthetha ngokwakho ngenyameko, akusayi kukushukumisela ukuba wenze ngcono. Enyanisweni, uphando lubonisa ukuba lunefuthe elichaseneyo.
Uphononongo olwenziwe ngo-2009 kwi- Journal of Personality lubonise ukuba ukuzithembela kunomthelela ekuthembekeni okuqhubekayo. Ukucinga, "Wonke umntu uhlaziya ngamanye amaxesha," ngokuchaseneyo, "Ndiyindoda. Ndiwonakalise konke, "kunokukunceda uzive ulungile nokuba xa ungakhange usebenze kunye nokuthembela kwakho.
Kunokuba uzibethe okanye uzibize amagama, zama ukuthetha nawe njengokuba uthetha nomhlobo othembekileyo. Zinqumle ukulahla, uzihlekise, kwaye ukhumbuze ukuba akukho mntu uphelele.
4 - Yamkele ukuzithemba
Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu bayeka ukwenza izinto-njengokumema umntu ngomhla okanye ukufaka isicelo sokukhushulwa-de baziva beqinisekile. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, indlela engcono yokufumana ithemba kukuba ngokwenza.
Ukuziqhelana nokujongene neentlonelo zakho ezibangelwa ukungabi nantembelo. Ukuba uyika ukuba uya kuhlazisa okanye ucinga ukuba uya kuhlambalaza, zama njalo.
Oko akuthethi ukuba akufanele ulungiselele okanye usebenzise, ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuba unentetho enkulu ezayo, yenza phambi kwabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho ukuze ufumane ukuzithemba.
Kodwa ungalindelanga uze uzive u-100 ekhulwini uthembele ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke. Awuze ufike khona.
Ngethamsanqa, ukuvuma ukungathandabuzeki kunokukunceda ukuba wenze ngcono. Uphando olwenziwa ngo-2010 olupapashwe kwi- Psychology of Sport and Exercise lwafumanisa ukuba abagijimi abavuma ukuzithemba kwabo ababetheleleke kwiimidlalo ezazingama-100 ekhulwini.
5 - Yenza iimvavanyo zokuziphatha
Xa ubuchopho bakho buxelela ukuba awunanto yokuthetha intlanganiso kwintlanganiso okanye ukuba awukho umgangatho wokusebenza, zikhumbuze ukuba iingcinga zakho azihlali zichanekile. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, indlela engcono yokujongana nomntu ongeyakho ukuthetha-ngcokola yinkomfa yezo ngxelo.
Zama ukwenza izinto ubuchopho bakho buxelela ukuba awukwazi. Zixelele nje ukuzama kwaye ubone oko kwenzekayo.
Unokufunda ukuba ukukhathazeka okufutshane okanye ukwenza iimpazamo ezimbalwa akubi njengokuba wacinga. Njalo xa uhamba phambili unako ukuzithemba ngakumbi.
ILizwi
Wonke umntu ulwa nemiba yokuzithemba ngexesha elinye. Kodwa ukuba izinto zakho zokuzithemba ziphazamisa umsebenzi wakho, impilo yakho yentlalo, okanye imfundo yakho, funa uncedo lochwepheshe.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuzithemba okuphantsi kuvela kumbandela omkhulu, njengesiganeko esibuhlungu esivela kwixesha elidlulileyo . Ngamanye amaxesha, kunokuthi kube uphawu lweengxaki zempilo yengqondo.
Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba neentembelo ezininzi. Ukuba uthembele kakhulu kwiimpawu zakho, awukwazi ukuthatha inyathelo.
Ukuzithemba ngokweqile malunga nokukwazi kwakho ukuvavanya kungakukhusela ukuba ufunde. Okanye ucinga ukuba akudingeki ukuba wenze umboniso kunokubangela ukuba ungalungiselele.
Ngoko kubalulekile ukuba ube nomthamo ophilileyo wokuzithemba okukukunceda ukwenze kwinqanaba lakho.
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