Ngelishwa, ukuxinezeleka kudla ngokungafunyanwa kwintsha. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali abayizi iimpawu kuba ukudandatheka kwintsholongwane kubonakala kukuhluke ngakumbi kunokudandatheka kubantu abadala. Ngenxa yoko, abaninzi abaselula abahlupheki ngokungafanelekileyo.
Kukho iintlobo ezine zokudakumba ezixhaphaza kakhulu abantwana . Ukuxinezeleka kunokuchaphazela bonke abatsha kungakhathaliseki ubulili, ukuthandwa, impumelelo yezemfundo, okanye ubuchule bezemidlalo.
Kubalulekile ukuziqonda ngeempawu eziqhelekileyo zokudandatheka kwintsha.
Iingxaki zeMpilo
Nangona abantu abadala bexinezelekile bahlala bethetha ngeentlungu zentlungu, intsha ecindezelekileyo ijwayele ukubika imizimba kunye neentlungu. Bangabika iingxaki zeentloko, iingxaki zesisu okanye bathi baziva bengacingi. Noko ke, iimviwo zenyama, aziyi kubonakalisa naziphi na iziphumo.
Ukutshatyalaliswa
Abantu abadala baqhele ukuchaza bazive bebuhlungu xa bexinezelekile, kodwa abantwana abaselula bavakala kakhulu. Basenokuzihlonela okanye bangabi nomonde ongaphantsi. Kananjalo banokungcola. Nangona iinguqu zengqondo ziqhelekile ngexesha leminyaka yeshumi elivisayo, inani elingaqhelekanga lokukhubeka kufuneka libhekiswe njengesilumkiso soxinzelelo lwentlungu.
Utshintsho lwezifundo
Iintsholongwane ziyakwazi ukuhla kwehla kwiibakala zazo xa uxinzelelo luhlasela. Kodwa, akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abanye abaselula banomgangatho ophakamileyo wezinga nakwiimeko eziphazamisayo.
Enyanisweni, ngamanye amaxesha uxinzelelo lokugcina amabakala amahle luba yinto ebangela ukudandatheka. Umntwana ovelayo ovakalelwa kukuba kufuneka adunywe kwiikholeji ze-Ivy League, okanye umntu obambelela kwisicatshulwa esiphukileyo SAT angayonakalisa ubomi bakhe, unokuhlala eqhutywe ukuphumeza nangona ecinezelekile.
Ukuqonda ukunyanzelisa
Ukudandatheka kunokukhokelela ekuveleleni okukhulu ukugxeka.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwaba bajongene nobubele obuninzi ngokukhusela imisebenzi apho besaba ukuhluleka. Intombazana ingayenqaba ukuzama iqela lebhola okanye inokungafuni ukumema umda kumdaniso ngenzame yokuphepha ukulahlwa.
Ngamanye amaxesha, intsha iyakwazi ukujongana noloyiko ngokuba yinto engaphezulu. Umntwana ogxininisekile unokuba ngumfezekisi kwizame zokuphepha umngcipheko wokugatywa. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela indlela umntwana wakho ophendula ngayo umngcipheko, ukugxeka kunye nokungaphumeleli njengoko utshintsho lwayo lwentombazana lungabonakalisa ukuba umntwana wakho ucinezelekile.
UkuSuswa koLuntu
Ukuhlukaniswa kwezenhlalakahle yinto eqhelekileyo kubo bonke abantu abanexinezeleko, kodwa abafana abasayi kuhoxisa kuwo wonke umntu xa bexinezelekile. Ngamanye amaxesha bayashintsha amaqela oontanga. Umntwana onokuqala uqala ukuxhoma kunye nesihlwele esingalunganga okanye unokuyeka ukuthetha nabahlobo abathile okanye amalungu omndeni.
Ngamanye amaxesha, intsha ihoxisa kwimisebenzi yobomi bokwenene kwaye igxininise ingqalelo kwihlabathi le-intanethi xa ziziva zixinezelekile. Umntwana ogxininisekile unokudala i-inton online kwaye angabandakanyeka kwiingxoxo ze-intanethi okanye imidlalo yokudlala indima yokudlala iiyure ekugqibeleni ukubaleka kwizinto ezikhoyo zobomi.
Funa Uncedo Kwintsapho Exinezelekileyo
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho oneminyaka engama-10 unokudandatheka, funa uncedo lobuchwepheshe.
Cwangcisa i-aphoyintimenti kunye nezingane zakudala okanye ufikelele kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo. Unyango lwexinzelelo lwentsha lunokubandakanya unyango, amayeza okanye ukudibanisa ezimbini. Kubalulekile ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kwonyango lakho.
Akuqhelekanga ukuba intsha inqabe ukufumana uncedo. Ukuba umntwana wakho wenqaba ukuya kumcebisi , udibana neengcali zempilo yengqondo ngokwakho. I-psychotherapist inokukwazi ukunikela ingqiqo kunye nezicwangciso ongazisebenzisa ukukunceda umntwana osulelwe phantsi .