Ubugqretha, ukuSalathisa, ukuShatshazwa, kunye neeAgendas
1 - I-4 Njengoko Umtshato Owona Uninzi Okhokelela Ekuqhawuleni
Ingxaki enkulu kwimingeni yomtshato iquka into ebizwa ngokuthi "4 Njengaye." Ezi ziphinga, ukuxhatshazwa, ukusetyenziswa kakubi, kunye neendlunkulu. Kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwezizathu ezinjengeengxaki "ezinzima" (ezifana ne-4 A) ngokubhekiselele kwizizathu "ezithambileyo" kuba abantu bahlala bethetha xa beyeka kwimitshato yabo. Izizathu "ezihlambulukileyo" azihambelani nezizathu "ezingenanto". Izizathu ezinzulu ziquka zonke izinto ngaphandle kwe-4 A. Imizekelo ikhula ngaphandle, ukuxhalaba, ukuthetha ngokugqithiseleyo okanye ukuziva ungananto efanayo kunye neqabane lakho. Xa kuthelekiswa nezizathu ezithambileyo, i-4 A ibe nemingeni emikhulu yokusebenza komtshato wakho kwaye iyakwazi ukukholisa umtshato.
2 - Ukunyelisa
Ubuhenyuka bubudlelwane bobulili obungaphantsi komtshato obuthatyathwa ngokungathandekiyo kwiindawo ezininzi kuquka intlalo, inkolo, ukuziphatha kunye nokuba ngumthetho. Kwezinye iimeko, kuthathwa njengoluphulo-mthetho, kodwa akunjalo nakwi-US nakumazwe amaninzi aseNtshona. Ukuhenyuka kuyinkathazo enzulu kumtshato obizwa ngokuba ngumtshato omnye. Kukho ingxoxo malunga nokuba yintoni imisebenzi yezocansi ngaphandle kokulala nomzimba ngokukrexezayo. Yintoni enokuhlonela ngakumbi ukugxila kwinto yokuba elinye iqabane ligcina izimfihlelo kunye nokuba nolwalamano olungalunganga olunokuthi luqhube ukuqhubela phambili kwiimvakalelo ukuya emzimbeni, kwaye ukuba xa kuvela oku kubonakala kubangela ukuba kubekho ingxaki enkulu emtshatweni. Ukungathembeki kudla ngokubangela ezinye iingxaki, iingxaki ezingaphendulwanga kumtshato. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu abaqhathayo banokuxhatshazwa ngokwesini okanye ukuziphatha ngokunyanzela ngokwesondo. Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba abaculi banalo "uhlobo olubi."
3 - Umlutha
Umlutha ngumngcipheko ochaphazelayo xa umntu usebenzisa i-substance efana notywala, i-cocaine okanye i-heroin okanye uqhuba umsebenzi ofana nesondo , ukugembula, ukubukela iphonografi okanye ukuthenga , okuqhubekayo ukuziphatha kuya kuba nzima kwaye kuphazamise uxanduva lokuphila ngokuqhelekileyo. Ubunzima bobunzima buchaphazelekayo kubandakanya ubudlelwane obuthile, umsebenzi, kunye / okanye impilo. Kukho ukuxhomekeke kwimizimba xa uxeliswe kwizinto. Oku kuthetha ukuba umzimba ulungelelaniswe nenkunkuma ukuze kubekho okufunekayo ukuze kufezwe umphumo ofanayo. Oku kwaziwa nangokuthi "ukunyamezela." Ukwehlwaya kudla ngokuba njengokuba umlutha kaninzi akaqapheli ukuba ukuziphatha kwabo kuwonakalisa, kungabikho kolawulo kwaye kubangela iingxaki ezinkulu kubo bobabini kunye nabo bajikeleze. Phakathi kwezona zinto zichaphazelekileyo ziyinkwenkwezi kunye nabantwana. Iqabane lomlingane onomlutha unokuwela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kungenangqondo, kwindima yokunika inkxaso-ngaphezu kokuncedisa kunye nokuthintela iqabane lakhe ukuba lithinteke imiphumo yomlutha. Ukuziphatha okungahambelaniyo, okunyanzelekayo kuya kuba negalelo elifanelekileyo kumlingane ovumelekayo.
4 - Ukusetyenziswa kakubi
Ukusetyenziswa kakubi emtshatweni kunokuthi kube ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, ngomlomo, nakwezoqoqosho. Ukuxhaphaza ngokwenyama, kwaziwa nangokuthi "ubundlobongela basekhaya," kucacile njengoko kubandakanya ukunyanzeliswa kwentlungu (isib. Ukushaya, ukunyusa, ukuthatha, njl). Ngokuchasene noko, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwemvakalelo kudla ngokufihlakeleyo. Olu xhatshazo lwenzeka xa iqabane lakho lihlala "lihamba phezu kwama-eggshell" okanye livakalelwa. Imizekelo ingaba ngumlingani okhwele kakhulu okanye olawulayo, ohlala ehlekisa ngawe, uhambo olutyala, uhoxisa okanye uyalula, phakathi kwezinye izenzo. Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kwezoqoqosho kubandakanya umlingane olawula ngokugqithiseleyo imali. Ukuzithemba komlingane olawulwayo kubanjwe ngumlingani ohlukumezayo obashiya beziva bengenamandla, bavale, besaba, kwaye ekugqibeleni bajabuli kakhulu emtshatweni.
5 - IiAgenda
Abantu batshintsha ngokuqhubekayo. Ingaba kukho ukukhula komntu okanye iimeko ezintsha ezifunekayo ukuzilungelelanisa, wena kunye nomlingane wakho akunakwenzeka ngokufanayo nomhla otshatileyo. Impumelelo yomtshato wakho iya kuxhomekeka, ngokwengxenye, ngendlela ozozilungelelanisa ngayo ngalezi zinguqu. Ukuxhaswa kweenjongo zabanye kubalulekile, kodwa kwenzekani xa bechasene kakhulu? Umzekelo, iqabane lifuna ukuqala umsebenzi omtsha ukususela ekuqaleni, unqume ukuba uphila ubomi besixeko akusekho kuwe kwaye ufuna ukufudukela kweli lizwe, okanye omnye wenu ufuna ukutshintsha inkolo yakho? Xa ama-ajenda akho asemaphepheni ahlukeneyo, uya kuba neengxaki ezinzima okanye ezingenakuxolisa kwizandla zakho.
6 - Isehlukaniso ngokuchasene nokuxhatshazwa
I-4A yimiqobo enzima yokuzinza umtshato wakho. Baza kudla ngokukhawuleza baze bafumane umtshato. Ukuba akayi kuqhawula umtshato, umtshato ongenakonwaba kwaye onqatshelwe. Ngokukodwa ukuba nonke nifumana uncedo oluyingcali ekusebenzeni kule miba. Uncedo lufumaneka kunye neengcali zengqingili ezifanelekileyo kwaye zineenkcukacha , kwaye oku kuya kukunika ithuba lokulwa nokusebenza ngala mabhayiselo.