Kutheni Umtshato Wakho Uthabatha?
Nangona kuthethwa kwinto ehlekisayo, amahlaya kunye nezinye iindidi zokukloloda nje azihlezi. Kwabaninzi kuni, ezinye iinkalo zobomi benu ziyeke umda xa kuziwa ekuhlekeleni nasekuhlekeleni. Ewe, ungathatha ihlaya. Ewe, unesizathu sokuhleka. Kodwa amanye amahlaya okanye ukuklolokra awanamdlalo.
Nangona uyamazi kakuhle iqabane lakho, ukukloloda kwakho kusenokuba kakubi kwaye kunokulimaza ubudlelwane.
Ukukhawula amazwi kunokulimaza kakhulu.
Kutheni Umtshato Wakho Uthabatha?
- Ukuhlaziya kuyindlela yokubonisa uthando nothando kwabanye abantu. Kwabanye, ukukloloda ngumkhwa kunye nendlela yokusebenzisana nabantu.
- Kwezinye iimeko, ukugculela mhlawumbi umdlalo wamandla okanye indlela yokuzama ukubeka ingqalelo.
- Abanye abantu banokuyidlala ukuze baxoxise ingxoxo engathandekiyo okanye bazame ukufumana kunye nobuqili.
- Kukho abantu abasebenzisa ukukrakra njengesikrini sokutshaya ukugcina ugxininiso kwabanye ngaphandle kwabo.
- Abanye bahlekisa umlingane wabo xa kukho abanye abantu ngenxa yokuba bacinga ukuba yindlela ekhuselekileyo yokuthetha into engalunganga abayifunayo.
Ezinye izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukukrazula kuyisisitye esibalulekileyo ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuhle. Xa baneliseke ngakumbi isibini sinezomtshato wabo, xa bebaninzi ukudlala.
Nangona kunjalo, ekubeni ukuhleka kungenangqiqo, umphumo onqwenelekayo unokubuya. Ukongezelela, abantu baphendula ngokungafaniyo ukukloloda.
"Ukuhlaziya abanye abantu ngenjongo kunokuthiwa 'ukuhleka.' Ukuhlambalaza kunokuxhatshazwa xa kuqhutywa ngokuphindaphindiweyo. "
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UkuHlola iZikhokelo
- Musa ukuhlaselwa okanye ubenobungozi ngokukhethekileyo xa kuziwa kwiikhono lomlingane wakho, ukubonakala, ubunzima, okanye into oyibona ukuba yinto engafanelekanga. Akumangalisi abo bakuva oko uthethile, kwaye akumangalisi kumlingane wakho.
- Ungadluli i-humor bit. Ewe, yonke intsebenziswano idinga ukuzonwabisa kunye nokuhleka. Nangona kunjalo, unako ukunika izipho ezininzi zegag, wenze amaninzi amaninzi okuthiwa ngamaqhinga, xela ambalwa amabali ahlekisayo, kwaye ujoyine ininzi yokudlala. Gcina ukulinganisela kunye nabanye phantsi komhlaba, ingxoxo, ingxoxo, kunye neqabane lakho.
- Qinisekisa ukuba ukugxeka kwakho akuyindlela ekhohlisayo okanye ekhohlisayo yokugxeka kunye nokuhlaselwa kwiqabane lakho.
- Qaphela ukuba ukukrokra kunokwenza i-snowball ebudlelwaneni kunye nesinye iqabane elifuna ukugqwesa enye ingxelo yokugqibela.
- Sonke sinemihlaba evelele okanye indawo ebuthathaka ekuziphatheni kwethu. Akuyinto ekhoyo ngokulula. Ngoko ukuba lakho iqabane lifuna ukuklolokra, vumelani ukuba ukukhwabanisa akuthandi okanye kuyanconywa kwaye uyayigxotha! Ungazami ukuphosa xa utsho ukuba udlala nje kuphela okanye ukuba iqabane lakho lidlala embi.
Yintoni oyenzayo xa ukulingwa kungavumi
- Ukuba uhlaselwa ngumlingane wakho kwaye ungayithandi, yithetha njalo. Ziqinisekise. Buza iqabane lakho, "Kutheni ungatsho oko?" okanye "Kutheni ufuna ukuphazamisa iimvakalelo zam?"
- Ukuba ukugxeka kuyinkathazo ngokukodwa xa uphakathi kwabahlobo, cinga kwangaphambili indlela ofuna ukujongana ngayo nale meko. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukujonga ixesha elide, ukuhamba kude kuya kufumana umyalezo. Abanye abantu baye bashiya ivenkile okanye ikhefu baze bahamba ekhaya baqiqa iqabane labo bafumana indlela yokubuyela ekhaya.
- Xa udibana kamva ukuba kutheni uphendule ngendlela oyenzayo, uhulumeni kwakhona ukuba ukukrokra akukhatyanga kwaye awuyi kuphinda uyithabathe.
Isihluthulelo sikwazi ukuqonda ukulungelelanisa, ukukrakra okunempilo ngokuhlekisa ukuhlaselwa. Ukuba wakho umlingani akayeke ukukloloda xa ucela, okanye ukuba ukukloloda kuya kuba yinto ekhuselekileyo kwaye yenzakalisa emva kokuba uyixubushe ngako, kubekho iingxaki ezinzulu emtshatweni wakho, kubandakanywa nokuphathwa kakubi ngokomzimba, okufuna uncedo lobuchwepheshe.