Ukusetyenziswa kwezithombe zoonografi kunokuchaphazela ukuthandana komtshato kwiindlela ezinzulu kakhulu.
Uonografi kunye nempembelelo yaso kumntu omdala wobudlelwane bezocansi unengxabano. Iphonografi naluphi na uhlobo lweendaba ezidalwa ukuvuselela umsebenzisi ngesini, ngokukodwa iindaba ezinjalo ezipapashwa ngokuthengisa. Ngeli xesha, imifanekiso engamanyala iyimveliso yezigidi zama dollar. Imifanekiso engamanyala engundoqo yinkxalabo ekhethekileyo ngenxa yemifanekiso ebonisa ukungena, ugonyamelo kunye nokusebenzisana kobulili obukhulu phakathi kwabantu abadala.
Ukususela ekugqibeleni iifoto zoonografi ezivela kumaphephancwadi nakwividiyo ukuya kwifomati yedijithali, ifikeleleka kalula, igcinwe ngokuzimeleyo kwaye ingaziwa. Amaxesha amaxesha amabhinqa abukela imifanekiso engamanyala, kodwa amadoda aphakathi kobasebenzisi abakhulu kakhulu. Ngelishwa, ukusetyenziswa kwezithombe ezingamanyala kunokuchaphazela ukuthandana komtshato ngezindlela ezibalulekileyo.
Ziziphi iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba umntu unokufumana ingxaki ngeentlekisa?
"Idatha ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, ukukhusela isondo kunye kwezinye izihlandlo ngokuphindaphindiweyo izicelo zokusebenzisa ubundlobongela ngesondo" zibonakalisa imiqondiso, ngokutsho kukaMichael Taylor, Umtshato weMvume yoMtshato kunye neNtsapho yaseLouisville, eKentucky. NgokukaTaylor, ukusetyenziswa kobugcisa obuzimeleyo kweekhomputha kunye nezinye i-electronics enye ifulegi ebomvu. UJanie Lacy, uMcebisi wezeMpilo weMental kunye neCredit Addiction Specialist e-Orlando, eFlorida nayo iyaxhalaba xa iqabane lihle "lilahlekelwe ngumdla kwintsebenziswano ngokwesondo okanye, enye ingxenyeni yokufuna isondo.
Kukho noxinzelelo ukuba uzame izenzo ezintsha zesondo okanye ezingavamile ezingaxutywanga ngaphambili okanye ziqhutywe kulwalamano. "Bobabini abaphengululi baqaphele ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kunokubambisana nokunyuka kwengqondo ngokugqithiseleyo ngumsebenzisi. lomlingane wakho ukufikelela kwiimifanekiso engamanyala ngaphambili kwimpilo yakhe (umzekelo, ngexesha elimncinci kakhulu) kunye nokusetyenziswa jikelele ngaphambi komtshato.
Ziziphi iimpawu zokuba uonografi ngoku uwonakalisa umtshato?
UDkt. Barbara Winter, isazi sezengqondo kunye neNgcululwazi yezoLwazi eViweyo kwiBoca Raton, eFlorida, ithi, "Ukunyuka ngokuthe gqolo okanye okuphawulekayo kwi-cyberpace kufuneka kuthathe into ethile, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo yunxulunano emtshatweni kunye / okanye kwintsapho. I-detachment iphumela ekufikeleleni kwenye into, njengononophelo, ukuhlaziya okanye ukulinganisela isimo sengqondo. " Uthi kule ngongoma, "Umtshato uyayinakwa.
ULacy ukholelwa ukuba "Iifoto zoonografi zinganciphisa ukuzithemba nokuzixabisa komfazi kuba unokuzifanisa nabesifazane abakhangela umyeni wakhe kwisikrini." Uyabona nje ngokuba ngumthamo otyhafazayo wokuba umlutha. Kwakhona kunokukhokelela "ukwandiswa kokuqhubela phambili kwesini okanye ngaphezulu kwesini." Oku kuncedisa ukuba indoda ibe neyona nto igxininise kwiimfuno zayo kungekhona yowomfazi.
Zonke iingcali ziyavuma ukuba i-detachment yeimvakalelo ngexesha lesini, kunye ne-detachment ebudlelwaneni ngokupheleleyo, iyingozi kakhulu ekusebenzeni komtshato. "Iifoto zoonografi yindawo engafanelekanga yenguqu yezocansi. Ubuncitshiswa buyasuswa kwizithombe zoonografi, kwaye oko kwenza kube lula kakhulu ukuvelisa ukhuseleko kunye nokubambisana okuyingxenye ebalulekileyo yokusebenzisana ngokomzimba wesibini," utshilo uCharles.
Uxhatshazwa ngokuxhaphazwa kwabasetyhini kwi-pornography kunye "nokunyaniseka okukhawuleza" umntu ofumana ekusebenziseni ubulili. Amadoda angaba "unomonde" okanye "angabonakali" ngexesha lesini, angayihoyi i-foreplay efunekayo okanye imini ngemihla ebonisa ukutshatyalaliswa kwezesondo. Ezi "zixhamla ixesha elininzi ebomini bomtshato" elingafanele lithathwe ngokungenanto. Ugxininisa, "Amadoda ayingozi kakhulu ekusebenziseni ubulili njengenxalenye yokuba basebenzise izakhono zengqondo abaziqinisekanga okanye abazikhathaziyo, kunye neefostile ziqinisa oko."
Ngaba abafazi bazama ukujonga iifostile kunye nabayeni babo ukuba 'bawacekise'?
Oku akunjalo, "Ukuba awukwazi ukubetha, bajoyine." Oku akusebenzi ukuxazulula le ngxaki.
Abafazi abahlala bejonga iifoto kunye nabayeni babo ngenxa yokuba bakholelwa ukuba baya kwenza amadoda abo bavuyiswe kuba nemiphumo emibi. Ngokuqhelekileyo bavakalelwa kukuba "ukudabuka, ukunyeliswa, ukuchaswa, ukufutheka, ukungathembeki, ukusetyenziswa, ukungonelanga," ngokutsho kukaLacy. Uyaqaphela ukuba oku akufanele kube ngumkhuba wokuphindaphinda emtshatweni. U-Taylor ubona kwinto yakhe yokuba abafazi bahlala bekulungele "ukucoca" ubuhlobo kodwa abafuni ukusebenzisa i-porn "njengengomso olula." Ucinga ukuba "ukuzama" kuyaqondakala, kodwa apho kunokwenzeka ukuba umlutha, "ukukholisa kunokomeleza okanye ukuzithethelela ukuphepha okanye ukuxhaphaza."
Yintoni umfazi angayenza xa ekholelwa ukuba i-pornography ngoku ingxaki?
Abafazi kufuneka baqiniseke. Ukuba kubonakala ngathi yingxaki encinci, umfazi kufanele "Xoxa ngendlela azive engabalulekanga, ahlaziyiweyo, anganqanyuli okanye aphuculwe kwaye amncede abuyele kwiimfuno zakhe eziphambili zothando, ukhuseleko kunye nokhuseleko" kusho uTaylor. Ukuba kukho umlutha osebenzayo, lindele ukuphika. Kulungile ukugxininisa ukuba indoda iya kwiingcebiso zokujongana nemicimbi. Kukulungele ukufuna isicatshulwa sokuxhatshazwa ngokwesini okanye isifo somzimba wezesondo, nokuba ngaba umfazi ufanele aqhube ibhola. Ukucebisa umtshato kuya kuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuphulukisa kwakhona. Bobabini uToylor noBusika bacinga ukuba ukuya kumqeqeshi oqeqeshiweyo, kunye kunye ekuqaleni, kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esihle. Ubusika bulumkisa "Uninzi lwamaqabane aluphika, alukhanyela, alukhanye, kwaye luhlala lusisongela (ukushiya) ukufumana umntu ukuba avume kwimibandela yakhe. bukrakra. "
Ngokubanzi, ukusetyenziswa koonografi kusetyenziso oluyimngcipheko olunokubangela ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane xa lusetshenzisiwe. Indlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nemiba yesondo kukuthetha kunye nokuhlola kunye nendlela yokuphucula ubomi bakho bobulili. Kukho ezinye izinto ezinokuzikhethela ezinokuthi uzame ukubeka umtshato wakho engozini. Ukugcina uxhulumano kunye nomnxeba womtshato wakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba iifoto zoonografi zityalo, kunokubhekwa njengethuba lokubonisa iimfuno zesondo okanye ukuvavanya ukuba ingxaki efuna uncedo lobuchwepheshe. Musa "ukuwuqhawula phantsi kombhoxo." Lo ngumntu ohlala ekhanyela umlutha ongaphazamisa umtshato wakho ukuba awuyi kubuyiselwa.