Ngaba uyamthanda kodwa usithandi umlingane wakho ngexesha elinye?
Kwenzeka kubantu abaninzi. Sithandana. Isigaba sokuthandana singakuphazamisa ukungapheleli komlingane wakho. Ngelishwa, kamva unokuqonda ukuba iqabane lakho liyinto ehle.
Ucinga ukuba lakho iqabane liya kutshintsha. Okanye, ukuba unokunceda ukuvelisa okulungileyo kuye. Unethemba lokuba ngexesha elide ubunzima bomntu wakho obubi buya kuhamba.
Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, akwenzeki nje.
Isiphumo kukuba ungazifumana emthandweni nomntu ongeke ukwazi ukuma kwaye ungathandi. Amazwana avela kwabanye abanjengokuthi, "Umele uwazi ngokubhetele ..." okanye "Ngaba awuzange uyibone xa udibana ..." akuyi kunceda xa uhlala nejerk. Kunokwenzeka ukuba unyanisekileyo ukuba uyayigatya iiflegi ezibomvu. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uye wawahoya nabahlobo kunye nosapho owenza iinzame zokuzama ukukuxwayisa.
Umbuzo ngoku, ngaba ufanele ugqibe umtshato wakho xa isikhulu esithandekayo sijika sibe yintonga? Okanye ngaba kukho ithemba lomtshato onjalo? Impendulo kukuba kukho ithemba lolu hlobo lwesimo. Nangona kunjalo, kuthatha inxibelelwano ethembekileyo kunye nenkathalo.
Iintlobo Zabafazi Abanzima
- Ukwazi-konke
- I-Thinking Thinker
- Umcebisi
- Uhlobo lwe-Wishy-Washy
- I-Silent Clam
- Bully
- Ubuntu obuhle bokugula
- Procrastinator
- Umntu ozimeleyo kunye noMntu ozidla
- Uhlobo olufunayo
- I-Joker
- Umlingani wokuxhamla
Ukuhambelana komntu kubaluleke kakhulu kwiibinibini ezonwabileyo. Imikhwa evuthayo nemisebenzi ye-jerk inokukuqhubelela udonga njengendlela yokugubha, ukuxubha, ukuqhuma kwebhodi lokuvuza. Ukuba ayinakunyuswa, iya kuba yimbi. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqale uqaphele ukuba usele nkxwaleko, thatha inyathelo ngokukhawuleza.
Ungavumeli ukuba intukuthelo ibe yakha uze uqhube.
Amanqwanqwa okuCombulula ukuba Utshatile iJerk
- Qaphela ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha Umlingani wakho. Ungatshintsha kuphela iimpendulo zakho kunye nezimpendulo. Umgca wokuqwalasela oku kukuba ukuba utshintshe ukuziphatha kwakho, kunokubangela ukuba iqabane lakho lifune ukutshintsha. Okanye unokubona ukuphendula okuhlukile kunokuba usetyenzisiweyo kwaye unethemba lokuba ungcono.
- Zama ukugxininisa kwizinto ezintle. Ukujonga kuphela iimpawu ezingalunganga kwiqabane lakho kunokuzifeza. Ukuba uzifumana kulo mgibe, sebenza kuyo. Yenza umhlwa omnye, isidlo esinye, okanye iyure enye ukhangele ezilungileyo. Ngexesha elizayo, jonga ukuba unako ukugxila kwizinto ezintle ngokuphindwe kabini.
- Ukuqinisa ukuziphatha okulungileyo. Xa iqabane lakho lenza into efanelekileyo, yithetha njalo! Yitsho ngokunyanisekileyo, ngendlela efanelekileyo. Thetha nomlingane wakho ngendlela onokufuna ukuthetha ngayo, kungekhona ngokukrakra okanye ukugxekwa kwindlela umlingane wakho odla ngayo.
- Gcinana noQhagamshelwano lwemehlo Xa Uchaza iingcamango zakho kunye nemivo. Yilungiselele ukuba uza kwenza isitatimenti, ngoko uyazi ukuba ufuna ukuthini ngaphambi kokuba usitsho.
- Jongana neCacile kwiNxibelelwano yakho nomlingani wakho. Iingcebiso, izimvo ezifihlakeleyo kunye neengxelo ezingenangqondo ezichasayo azikho ngqo.
- Yenza Isikhathi Sokuba Sodwa Ngomnye Njengoko Uthatha Ukuhamba. Ukuhamba kunye yindlela engokwemvelo yokukhupha ingxoxo enhle. Ukuhamba, ngokukodwa kwisimo sendalo, kunokukunceda bobabini banciphisa uxinzelelo.
- Musa ukubeka ityala. Kudala kuphela ukukhusela. Sebenzisa "I" ingxelo. Esikhundleni sokuba, "Ufanele," qalisa isitatimenti sakho ngokuthi, "Ndiyayifuna," "Ndiyathanda," "Ndiziva." Gxininisa kwizinto ozifunayo ukuba uzibone utshintshile kwaye zenza njani uzive. Uvunyelwe ukukhalaza kumlingane wakho, yenza oku kuphumelelayo ukuze unciphise amathuba okuthetha incinci.
- Ukunyaniseka Ngakho Kunokuba Uzikhusele. Ukuba wenza iphutha, vuma. Unokuze ucele iqabane lakho ukuba yintoni utshintsho omele ulwenze.
- Kukulungele ukubeka iMida. Ukuba ukuziphatha komlingani wakho kuxhaphaza nayiphi na indlela, qiniseka ukuba oku kwamkelekanga. Yiba nesicwangciso sento oya kuyenza xa engayinqumi.
Umtshato unzima. Abantu bavame ukuzithengela ukutshatana kwabo kwaye bavumeleke ukuba baxhomeke xa betshatile. Nangona kunjalo, ukuziphatha kakubi, ukuzikhukhumeza, ukuthetha, okanye i-cocky kuzokwenza ukuba ubudlelwane buhlupheke. Sebenzisa ezi ngcebiso ukuze ubone ukuba unako ukwenza izinto zibe zikhokelo ezilungileyo.