Ukuba ucinga ngokuphelisa umtshato wakho, mhlawumbi ujongene nesinye sezigqibo ezinzima kunabo bonke abantu abadala. Amaqabane amaninzi alwela ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba enze ukhetho oluqinileyo malunga nokuba uhlala okanye uhambe. Ngaba unesidima ngenxa yesigqibo sokuba okanye ungayifaki iifayile zomtshato? Ukuba ukhona, ezinye iinkalo zobomi bakho mhlawumbi zichaphazeleke kakubi ngelixa ulapha kwimeko ye-limbo.
IiNdawo zoBomi bakho zichaphazelekanga ngokungathintekiyo
- Umsebenzi wakho: Umsebenzi wakho usenokuba usengozini ngenxa yobutyebi kunye nokungabikho kwengqalelo.
- Ulwalamano lwakho olunye: Abantwana bakho, abahlobo kunye namanye amalungu entsapho banokuvakalelwa, ukukhathazeka, ukunyamezela, ukwesaba, umsindo kunye nokungahambi kakuhle.
- Impilo yakho: Impilo yakho iyancitshiswa xa ungalali kakuhle, okanye ukuba uyayihoxisa ukufumana umzimba kunye nokutya ukutya okunempilo.
Izizathu eziPhambili Abantu bahlala
Kwiibini ezithandanayo, inani elithile sele liye lafaka imali kwimitshato yabo lininzi malunga nesigqibo sokuhlala okanye ukuhamba. Ngokuqhelekileyo kulula ukuba isibini esitshatileyo siqhawule umtshato kwaye siqalise ubomi babo kwakhona kunokuba kubalingane abaye bahlala kunye iminyaka elishumi okanye ngaphezulu.
Ngaba Ulunge ngakumbi kuMtshato okanye Utshatile?
Uyazi njani ukuba ubhetele ukuhlala utshatile okanye utyhawule? Uyazi kuphela impendulo yalo mbuzo.
Ngamanye amaxesha umtshato ufanelekile ukugcina kwaye ngamanye amaxesha awunjalo. Kubalulekile ukujamelana neengxaki zokuqhawula umtshato kwaye kungekhona nje imbali yokuqhawula umtshato.
Yintoni ongayenza ngaphambi kokwenza naziphi na izigqibo ezinkulu
- Ukuzama ukunciphisa uxinzelelo ebomini bakho.
- Yiba kwindawo ezinzile ukuze ukwazi ukusingatha nayiphi na indlela ehamba ngayo.
- Yenza isicwangciso sokusindisa okanye isicwangciso sokugcina ukuzinika ngokwakho umlinganiselo wokulawula ubomi bakho. Awunakuze usebenzise oko, kodwa unako.
- Ukuba ukhuseleko lwakho lomzimba okanye lwengqondo luxhomekeke ekuhlukaneni nomlingane wakho, kufuneka wenze okokuqala.
Izinto oza kuziqwalasela
Xa wenza olu hlobo lwesigqibo esitshintsha ubomi, qaphela oko uya kulahleka kwaye ungabali ukuba ungayifumana.
Ukuba isizathu sakho sokufuna ukuqhawula umtshato kukuba ungonwabi, ukuba ungatshatanga kwakhona akunakukuvuyisa.
Imibuzo Yokuzibuza
- Ngaba uvakalelwa ngathi akukho nto ekhoyo ekunikezeni umtshato wakho?
- Ingaba kukho konke ukuxolelwa, ithemba, nomonde entliziyweni yakho?
- Ngaba uzive ungathandabuzeki kumlingane wakho?
- Ngaba iqabane lakho likuphatha kakubi okanye libonisa ukunganakwa?
- Ngaba kukho ukungabikho ngokusondelene (kungekhona nje ngesondo, kodwa ukutshatyalaliswa ngokomzwelo, uthando kunye nokuhleka?)
- Ingaba kukho imbali ende yomlutha, ukuxhaphazwa okanye ukungathembeki?
Ukuba uthe u-ewe kule mibuzo, usenokuba ungasayi kubuya ebudlelwaneni bakho bomtshato. Ukuziva ukungakhathaleli okanye ukuvalelwa ngokomoya kukubonakalisa ukuba umtshato wakho usuphelile.
Unokufuna ixesha elide ukujonga umtshato wakho ngokucacileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhamba, nokuba ngeveki, ukulungisa izinto ngokwakho kunokukunceda ubone imeko yakho ngokucacileyo. Kubantu abaninzi, oku kungukuthi kukho uhlobo lokuchofoza ngaphakathi kwaye bayazi ukuba benzeni.
Funa UluNcedo lwezakhono
Qiniseka ukuba ubone umcebisi onelungelo lokuqeqeshelwa ilayisenisi osebenza kunye nezibini nokuba uhamba wedwa. Ngamanye amaxesha umgqirha ongenakho ukuqonda ukusebenzisana ngokuthandana naye uya kunceda ukubeka isikhonkwane kwiqhendi lomtshato. Kumelwe ubone umntu onobuchule obuhle kwiibinibini ezisebenza. Kulungile nokho, nonke ningazama ukuqonda iingcebiso ngokukhokelwa kulo mgaqo obalulekileyo wobomi.
Ukuqhubeka
Xa lixesha lokuphosa ithawula, amathuba oya kuba uyazi. Uza kuba nexesha elithi "aha" elicacileyo malunga noko kufuneka uyenze.
Ukuba wenza isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato, zilungile kuwe. Khumbula ukuba xa umtshato wakho uphela, akuthethi ukuba uyaphumeleli. Ulwalamano oluthile olungalunganga aluhlosile ukuphumelela. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu baqhubeka bezama ukwenza ingqiqo kwizinto ezingenangqiqo okanye ezingasombululwa.