Iingxaki eziqhelekileyo zoLwaphulo loSondo
Encwadini yakhe, Ungabibizi Uthando , ingcali yoxhatshazo ngokwesini uDkt. Patrick Carnes uchaza ukuhluke phakathi kweentlobo ezili-10 zokuziphatha kakubi ngokwesondo kunye nolwalamano oluza kukufumana ngalo nento athi "uthando lwangempela."
Iingcamango malunga nento eyenza ingxaki yokuziphatha ngokwesini ihluka phakathi koogqirha kunye noluntu. Ngokucacileyo, ezinye zezi ziphatha, ezifana nobulili befantastiki, zenzeka ngobudlelwane bobulili obufanelekileyo, kanti ezinye, ezifana nokuxhaphazwa ngokwesini, zixakeke kakhulu kunoma imuphi umongo.
1 - Izesondo zengqondo
Ubulili obuthusayo buyinto engathandabuzekiyo kunye neengcamango zesondo, kunokuba yintoni imvakalelo yesini yokwenene, ukuziphatha ngokwesini, kunye nolwabelana ngesondo. Inokukunqanda ukuba uvelise iimvakalelo zothando zisekelwe ekuthandeni abanye ngendlela abayiyo.
2 - Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokwahlukileyo
Ukulala ngokwesondo kugxile ekuthandeni, ukukholisa okanye ukuxhaphaza abanye ekudibaneni ngokwesondo. Uphatha umntu oza kumlingana naye ngokuthi "ukunqoba" okanye umngeni ukukwenza uzive unamandla ngakumbi.
3 - Ulwabelana ngesondo
Ubunqunu obungabonakaliyo bulalana nabantu abangabaziyo, kuquka ubusuku obubodwa ufumana kwiTinder. Ubunqunu obungabonakaliyo lunceda ukuba umlutha ungaphepheli ukuvelisa iimvakalelo zothando.
4 - Ukuhlawula ngesondo
Ukuhlawula ngesondo kuphazamisa uxhumano loqobo, ngenxa yelungiselelo loshishino oluchaziweyo. Umntu ohlawulayo ufuna ukufumana imali, kungekhona ubuhlobo bothando.
5 - Ukuthengisa ngesondo
Olunye uhlangothi lwesenzo sokuhlawula ngesini ukufumana imali okanye iimpahla zesini okanye ukusebenzisa isondo njengeshishini. Ubundlobongela buba yimpahla, kunokuba ngamava, kwaye uxhumo lwangokomzwelo luyancipha.
6 - I-Voyeuristic Sex
I-voyeuristic ngesondo igxininise ekubukeni abanye bathatha umsebenzi wesondo. Ufumana isondo ngovuyo ngokujonga iiposografi ukusuka:
- iincwadi kunye neemagazini
- ikhomputer kunye namafilimu
- bonisa
- ukujonga ngokufihlakeleyo abanye abantu, njengoTom obalalisa
- ukuya kwiiklabhu zesini ukujonga umntu
Ukugqithisa ngokugqithisileyo, kwesa kwinqanaba lokulimala, kuqhelekile kwizandi. Bahlanganyela kwimisebenzi yodwa, kunokuba baxhamle nomnye umntu, ukuqinisekisa ukutshata kunye nothando akukhethi.
7 - I-Sex Exhibitionism
Ubundlobongela bobugcisa buquka ukutshisa "indawo" emzimbeni emzimbeni, ngamanye amaxesha ngxibe iingubo ezenzelwe ukubonisa. Ezinye iintlobo zesini zobungqina zibandakanya ukubeka imifanekiso yobunono kunye nokulala ngesondo apho abanye bayakubona khona.
Imiboniso ingaphaya koqhagamshelwano olunothando lokwenene ngenxa yokuba umonakalo uvela ekuphenduleni, kungekhona kwintsebenziswano yesondo kunye neqabane lakho.
8 - Ulwabelana ngesondo
Ukulala ngokwesondo kubandakanya ukuthinta abanye ngaphandle kwemvume. Kungabandakanya ukusebenzisa kakubi isikhundla sakho samandla okanye igunya, njengendima yombingeleli, umphathi okanye utitshala, ukuxhaphaza abanye.
Ubundlobongela obuqhenqileyo bubuthakathaka, bukwenza kube nzima ukwenza isiseko sokuthembela okanye ukuthanda. Amaxhoba anokufumana iimvakalelo zokunyaniseka kumenzi wobubi.
9 - Ukubuyiswa kobuhlungu
Ukunikezwa okanye ukufumana intlungu, eyaziwa nangokuthi i- sadomasochism okanye i-S & M, yindlela yokuziphatha ngomlingo apho abathathi-nxaxheba ababandakanya intlungu kunye nolonwabo lwesondo.
Njengazo zesini, amaxhoba angayibona indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngothando.
I-10 - Ulwabelana ngesondo
Ukudlwengula nokuguqulwa kweentlobo zintlobo zesini sokuxhaphaza. Ngenxa yokuba umntu omnye uphula amalungelo omntu omnye, akukho nto inokwenzeka ukuba uluthando lokwenene okanye ukuthandana.