UkuLawula ukuLawula kunye nokuvuma ukulinganiselwa kwakho
Kubonakala ngathi kulula kakhulu ukuba yinyani, kodwa ukuvuma ukuba utywala ngumzimba ongapheliyo kwaye awuyikuphululeka komntu - yinto ebalulekileyo ekuzuzeni ukufumana ixesha elide.
Ngamanye amagama, unqande ukulawula kwakho, uqaphele ukulinganiselwa kwakho, kwaye ubhekane nenyaniso (ukuba unenkcenkceshelo yotywala) yona nyathelo ebalulekileyo ekuphumeni.
Emva koko, emva kokwamkelwa kokungenamandla, unako ukuqhubela phambili ngokutshintsha oko unokukwazi (okukuloo ndawo yokulawula).
Ukwamkela Utywala
Le ngcaciso emfutshane malunga nokwamkela inokuba yinye yeendima ezicatshulwe kwiincwadi. Kuvela kwi-4 ye- Alcoholics Engaziwayo okanye Incwadi Enkulu njengoko iyaziwa ngokubanzi.
Isahluko sabhalwa nguDkt. Paul Ohliger, owafa ngoLwesihlanu, ngoMeyi 19, 2000, kwi-Mission Viejo, eCalifornia eneminyaka eyi-83.
"Ukwamkela kuyimpendulo kuzo zonke iingxaki zam namhlanje. Xa ndiphazamiseka, kuba ndifumana umntu, indawo, into okanye imeko - inyaniso ebomini bam - ayimkelekile kum, kwaye andinakufumana ukuthula kude ndide ndivume loo mntu, indawo, into okanye imeko njengendlela emele ukuba yile mzuzu.
"Akukho nto, akukho nto iyenzekayo kwihlabathi likaThixo ngephutha." Ngaphambi kokuba ndibe lwamkele utywala lwam, andinakuhlala ndingenangqondo, ngaphandle kokuba ndiyamkele ubomi ngokupheleleyo kwiimeko zobomi, andinakuvuyela. kutshintshwa kwihlabathi njengoko kufuneke ukuba utshintshwe kum kunye nakwimo simo sengqondo. "
Umyalezo osisigxina-ekhaya apha kukuba uvakalelo (kungengqiqweni nje) ukwamukelwa kotywala kotywala kunyanzelekile ukuba uphumelele kwaye ukhusele ukuphindaphinda.
Kwiphepha le-flip, ukungabikho kwemimoya yokungavumi kotywala, njengoko kuxhaswa ukukhanyela, ityala, ukulwa okanye ukusinda esi sigulini, kubeka umntu engozini enkulu yokuphinda abuyele, nangona umntu enokumkela isifo.
Ezinye iimpawu zokungavumi kwemvakalelo zingabandakanya iimvakalelo zomsindo okanye iintloni malunga nokuphuhliswa kotywala. Uloyiko kunye novelwano lunezinye iimvakalelo ezibini ezithintela ukwamkelwa nokuthula kwengqondo.
Ngokusebenzisa iingcebiso ngeengcali okanye unyango (ngamnye umntu, iqela, okanye zombini), umntu unokufunda ukuqonda izicwangciso zokuxhatshazwa ngokomzimba kunye nalapho zivela khona (umzekelo, ngokuhlola izinto ezingabonakaliyo ezinkumbulo zabantwana). Emva koko, unokukwazi ukucwangcisa izicwangciso eziphilileyo ezikhuthaza ukwamkelwa, njengokuhlakulela ingqondo efanelekileyo.
Inkxaso evela koontanga nayo ibalulekileyo ebalulekileyo yokwamkela.
Enyanisweni, ngokutsho kwesinye isifundo, ukuya kwiqela elixhasa ukuxiliswa kotywala kunomthelela onamandla ekubeni umntu angakwazi ukufumana ukuthotyelwa kokwamkelwa kotywala. Kule sifundo esifanayo, ukuba nesimo sengqondo esifaneleko kwathintela kakhulu ukwamkelwa kwesifo.
Ukufumana Ukwamkela Ngonyango
Emva kokuba uqonda ukubaluleka kokwamkela utywala, kubalulekile ukufikelela uncedo, ukuba awukho. Kukho uninzi lweendlela zokwelapha ezikhoyo ukukunceda ukuba uphinde ufumane ingxaki yakho yobunxila. Isinyathelo sakho sokuqala kufuneka sibe kukuthetha nodokotela wakho oyintloko.
Unokukubonelela ngonyango lokudlulisela unyango kwaye unqume ukuba ngaba unyango luyinkokhelo kuwe.
Ngaphandle kwamachiza anokukunceda ukumisa okanye ukunciphisa ukusela kwakho, kukho iindlela zonyango ezinjenge-cognitive-behavioral treatment okanye unyango olushukumisayo lokuphucula. Ukususela ekuncedeni kwentsapho eqinile kwandisa amathuba omntu wokuhlala esilawulekileyo, ukululekwa komtshato kunye nosapho kudla ukuhlanganiswa kunyango.
Ekugqibeleni, amaqela enkxaso-ntsebenziswano afana ne- Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) okanye ezinye iiprogram ezi-12 zinikezela ngenkxaso yontanga, enokuba luncedo kakhulu ekukhuseleni ukuphindaphinda nokugcina ukuziyeka.
ILizwi
Ekugqibeleni, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ukwamkelwa kwesifo akuthethi ukuba ufanele uyithande, umxhomeke, okanye ungayihoyi. Oko kuthetha ukuthini ukuvuma ukungena namandla kunye nokunciphisa kwakho - uvumela ukuba uyeke, ngoko unokuqalisa ukuphinda uphilise.
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