Ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo, unike uAl-Anon uzame
Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala kuye kwagqitywa imitshato eminye kwaye yaphulwa ngakumbi kwiintsapho kunokuba sisazi. Ukuba ucinga ukuba ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato ngenxa yengxaki yokusela, qamba! Kukho ezinye iindlela ezikhoyo.
Ukuba uyagula nje kwaye ukhathele ukugula nokukhathala kwaye ungazi ukuba wenzeni - ukuba yonke into oyenzileyo ukunceda umntu onxilisayo ubonakala ngathi wenza izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu - kwaye usuphelile, uqhawule umtshato kunokubonakala ngathi yindlela ekhethekileyo yokukhetha.
Ndidla ngokufumana ii-imeyile ezivela kubafundi besithi:
Ndiyazi ukuba ndiyakwenza ntoni, andiyi kuphinda ndiyithinte! Ndicinga ukuba ndimshiye, kodwa ndiyamthanda. Ngaphandle koko, xa engasayi kusela, yindoda enhle ... "
Nika u-Anon ukuba uzame
Ukuba le nkcazo ingentla ichaza imeko yakho, unokuzuza kwesi siluleko: "Yiya kwintlanganiso yeqela le-Al Anon Family."
Ngoba? Ngenxa yokuba abantu oya kufumana kwiindawo zokuhlangana ze-Al-Anon baqonde, njengokuba mhlawumbi abanye bambalwa, banokuziva njani. Baye belapho, kodwa baye bafumanisa ukuba banokufumana ukwaneliseka kunye nolonwabo, nokuba utywala useyaphuza okanye ayenayo . Njengoko kuthi kumxholo wokuvula, funda kwiintlanganiso ezininzi ze-Al-Anon Family Group:
"Siyakhuthaza ukuba uzame inkqubo yethu. Incede abaninzi bethu ukuba bafumane izicombululo ezikhokelela ekuzinzileyo. Kuninzi kuxhomekeka kwisimo sethu sengqondo, kwaye njengoko sifunda ukubeka ingxaki yethu kwindlela yokujonga ngayo, siyifumana ilahlekelwe amandla lawula iingcinga zethu kunye nobomi bethu.
Imeko yentsapho iya kuphucula njengoko sisebenzisa i-Al-Anon imibono. Ngaphandle kokuba uncedo olungokomoya oluphila nomnxila lukhulu kuninzi lwethu. Ukucinga kwethu kuphazamiseka ngokuzama ukunyanzela izisombululo, kwaye siyacaphuka kwaye singenangqiqo ngaphandle kokwazi. "
Igalelo kwiNgxaki Yentsapho
Ukubeka ingxaki "kwindlela yeyona ndlela" u-Al-Anon uye wanceda amaninzi amaninzi awo amalungu ukuba aqonde isifo esinobuqili, esiqhayisayo nesamandla esinxilisayo kunye nendlela eye yathintela ngayo ilungu lentsapho , nendlela uAl-Anon alondoloze ngayo baninzi umtshato.
Kukho amawaka amabali malunga nendlela abafazi ababecinga ngayo ukuba akukho nethemba lomtshato wabo okanye utywala obomini babo, baye bafumana "isipho esingenasiphelo sokuthula" ngokusebenzisa izixhobo u-Al-Anon abanike zona.
Amalungu amaninzi ase-Al-Anon afumana, emva kokufunda iincwadi ze-Al-Anon nokuya ezintlanganisweni nokuthetha nabanye, ukuba umdakwayena wayengeyena yedwa kwintsapho eyenezela kwingxabano. Abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba iimpendulo zabo, ukuziphatha kunye nesimo sengqondo malunga neengxaki sele ziyingxenye yengxaki ngaphandle kwabo.
Akukho nto eza kulahlekela
Xa batshintshe isimo sengqondo malunga neengxaki kunye nokuphendula kwabo kutywala, benza umehluko omkhulu ebomini babo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha emtshatweni wabo.
Mhlawumbi ushiya utywala kwaye ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato kuyona ndlela ingcono kwiimeko ezithile. Kodwa, ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinyathelo esinzima, unike uAl-Anon ithuba.
Kunconywa ukuba uye ezintlanganisweni ezintandathu ngaphambi kokuba wenze ingqondo yakho ngo-Al-Anon, kuba intlanganiso nganye iyahluke - kwindlu enye.
Ngaphandle koko, kufuneka ulahlekelwe yintoni? Akukho mali kunye nemirhumo e-Al-Anon kwaye, njengoko inkulumo endala ithi, "Ukuba emva kweintlanganiso ezintandathu uthatha isigqibo sokuba u-Al-Anon akayenawe, siya kubuyiselwa imali yakho."