Ukutshata kwinkwenkwana yamama akusoloko kuyinto embi. Indoda esondelene nonina ayiyinkwenkwe yamama ngendlela engafanelekanga. Kodwa umntu oqhotyoshelwe kunina kumkhwa, nokuba kunjalo, unokuba yingxaki enkulu. Oku kukodwa ukuba akabonakali ukuba asebenze ngaphandle kwakhe.
1. Musa ukunikela kwiimfuno zakhe.
Indoda yakho ingasetyenziselwa unina ukutya kwayo yonke imfuno kunye nokufuna, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ufuna kwakhona.
Kubalulekile ukuba ubeke imida kwaye umxelele ukuba awuyi kuziphatha njengomama. Unako ukwenza njengenkwenkwe nonina konke akufunayo, kodwa xa ehleli nawe, kufuneka enze njengendoda enokuzinyamekela.
Angasebenzisa ukunyanzeliswa kuwe ukuze ahambe ngendlela yakhe, ngoko kufuneka ube namandla xa ekumangalela ngokungamthandi nokufuna into engcono kuye. Mhlawumbi asithethi izinto azithethayo, kodwa uya kuthi bathathe oko akufunayo. Ukuba uyangena, uya kuqhubeka nokusebenzisa ukunyanzelisa ukufumana indlela yakhe.
2. Musa ukuvuma ukungena endlwini yakhe.
Ukuba uyinkwenkwe yamama, akusiyo into efanelekileyo ukunyuka endlwini yakhe. Amathuba kukuba, ubudlelwane babo njengomama nendodana baya kuza phambi kobudlelwane bakho naye. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuncika kunye nonina kwisifundo ngasinye ukuze angamcaphukisi. Unokuze abuyele kunina xa obabini enokungavumelani. Nangona ekwazi ukwenza ezi zinto nangona uhlala ngaphandle kwekhaya lakhe, umgama uya kunceda abanye.
Awufuni ukuvakalelwa njengevili lesithathu xa uhlala nomlingane wakho.
Ukuba nonke ningeke nithengise indawo yakho, mhlawumbi mhlawumbi akufanele ube utshatile okwamanje. Ukuba unobungozi bemali kwaye abazali bakhe bancede ukukunceda ngokukuvumela ukuba uhambe, qiniseka ukuba umhla wokugqibela usengqondweni.
Ukuba uyenza ukuze ulondoloze ikhaya lakho, qaphela ukuba usengozini ngokukhawuleza umonakalo wakho umtshato.
3. Gwema ukujongana nomama wakhe.
Akuyona indawo yakho ukuya kumamazala wakho umcele ukuba abuyele. Ukuba ufuna ukuthetha nabani na malunga nale meko, yindoda yakho ofuna ukuthetha nayo. Musa ukuvela kwindawo yomsindo, nangona kunjalo. Xa usondela kwesihloko, qaphela kwaye umxelele ukuba unomona omncinane kwaye ufuna ukuchitha ixesha elide kunye naye. Mkhumbuze ukuba uthanda unina kwaye akayi kukuya endlwini yakhe ukuba udle kanye emva kwenyanga, kodwa akufanele afike kuyo yonke imisebenzi yakho kunye nemihla nje ngenxa yokuba unesizungu okanye unemiqathango embi. Chaza ukuba awufuni ukuba uphume ebomini bakho, kodwa nonke nidinga ixesha lokuxhuma kunye nokukhula njengendoda esibini.
4. Musa ukuvumela unina ukuba enze ukhetho lwakho lokuphila.
Enye into yokuba umama-mkhwenkwe enze ukhetho lwakhe ukuba yilokho akukhululekileyo. Unokukhetha iingubo zakhe, ukutya kwakhe, kunye nomsebenzi wakhe. Ukuba akakwazi ukwenza ezi zigqibo ngaphandle kwegalelo lakhe, oko kungaba yinto yokuqwalasela ukuzama ukutsala. Awufuni ukuba unina abe ngumenzi wesigqibo malunga nokukhetha okwenzayo okanye njengomntu wesibini.
Umama-mkhwenkwe akufanele abe yinxalenye yezigqibo zakho zobuqu malunga nemali, iindlela zokufunda, ukubeletha, okanye ukuphumla ngaphandle kokuba ucele ngokuthe ngqo ukufakelwa kwayo. Akufanele umbandakanye naye kwimibandela yakho yomtshato.
Ukuba umlingane wakho unamathele kunina, kubalulekile ukujonga indlela oku kumonakalisa ngayo umtshato wakho. Mhlawumbi unganamkeli iiflegi ezibomvu malunga nale nto xa udibana, ngoko ke ukuba uyayibona kwimtshato wakho, kufuneka udibanise ngokukhawuleza kunokuba emva koko. Ukuba ukuzama ukuthetha kunye nokusombulula iingxaki ezikujikeleza oku akuhambisani nezinto ngendlela elungileyo, uncedo lobugcisa lunokwenzeka ngokufanelekileyo.