Awunako Ukuxinezeleka Kwiintlanganiso Zentsapho
Nangona ulwalamano lwentsapho lunokuba luncedo, ulonwabo kunye nezinye izibonelelo ezintle ebomini bethu, olu lwalamano lunokubangela uxinzelelo, ingakumbi xa kukho ingxabano engaxazululwanga. Ngenxa yokuba kunzima ukuvumela ulwalamano olusondeleyo kunye nosapho kunokuba lube luba ngaba ubuhlobo bebuhlobo nje kuphela, ukungquzululwa nokungabikho ngxabano kunye namalungu entsapho kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu.
Sinethemba elilindelekileyo lokuthembela kunye nokusondelana kumalungu entsapho, kwaye kunokuba ngaphezu kokudanisa ukuba uqaphele ukuba oku akunakwenzeka nawo onke amalungu omndeni.
Inkxalabo yeengxabano ezingaphendulwanga
Ukungquzulana kweentsapho ezingaphendulwanga kuzisa uxinzelelo olongezelelweyo kwiintlanganiso zentsapho ngokukodwa. Impikiswano engaphendululwanga ingaphendulwanga ingaba yindlovu egumbini, evezwa ngumntu wonke, kodwa ingabhekiswa ngqo kwiimeko. Oku kunokubangela uxinzelelo kuwo wonke umntu ngaphambili nangethuba lokubuthana kweentsapho, ngamanye amaxesha ushiya ingqondo engapheliyo emva koko.
Ngaphandle kwengxoxo esuka entliziyweni, ukuxolisa okanye olunye uhlobo lokusombulula, ukuthembela kumacala omabini kuya kuphazamiseka, kwaye unokungazi ukuba ungalindela ntoni kulo mntu kwixesha elizayo. (Ngokomzekelo, ngelinye ixesha umama-mkhwenkwe wakho ugxeke ukupheka kwakho unokuvela engqondweni yakho rhoqo xa efika ukutyelela, kwaye abanye banokuziva ukuxhatshazwa kwakho.) Oku kukukhokelela abantu abaninzi ukuba bacinge ngakumbi xa bethetha indlela yokuziphatha ngayo ekusebenzisaneni kwanamhlanje nangokuza kunika inzuzo yokungathandabuzeki njengokuba abaninzi bethu besenza nabantu esiba thembileyo.
Kwakhona, iingxelo okanye izikhumbuzo zeengxabano ezidlulileyo ziyakwazi ukugquma nokudala intlungu entsha.
Xa ukuxabana kuqhutywe kwithuba elide, nangona ukuba zombini amaqela ahamba kwaye ahlale ehloniphekile, iimvakalelo kunye nokungathembeki zihlala zihlala phantsi, kwaye kunzima ukuzinyulula: ukukhupha umonakalo omdala kumzamo wokuzixazulula unokuthi uphinde uphenduke , njengoko elinye iqela lingathi lihlaselwe; ukuphepha ingxaki ngokupheleleyo kodwa ukubambelela entukuthelweni kungenza iimvakalelo zityhefu ngoku.
Into Ongayenza Kwiintlanganiso Zentsapho
Ngoko wenza ntoni kwintsapho xa kubakho umntu ohlala naye onokungqubana naye? Hlonipha nje. Ngokuchasene nokuba bangaphi abantu abavakalelwa, ukuqokelela kwintsapho akusiyo ixesha lokuvuselela iingxabano ezindala, njengoko iingxoxo zihlala zihlaziyekile phambi kokuba zixazulule- ukuba ziyazisombulula. Ndiphinda: yibani neentlonelo, nilungiselele iingxoxo eziya kwiindawo ezinokubangela ukungquzulana, kwaye uzame ukuphepha umntu njengoko unako ngokusemandleni. Nangona bonke abantu behluleka ukulandela le ngcebiso, ukuba unako ukugxila ekupheliseni ukuphela kwakho kwengxabano ngendlela enokuthula, unokuhamba ixesha elide ekunciphiseni iimfazwe kwiintlanganiso zentsapho nokukhuthaza uxolo. Unokumangalisa ukuba unjani umdahluko onokuwenza ngokuvakalelwa kwintsapho yakho, kunye nakwiimvakalelo zakho kunye nenqanaba lokucindezeleka elikhokelela kubo. Kwizenzo ezizayo kunye nalo mntu, unokuthatha enye yeendlela ezintathu:
- Zama Ukuxazulula Ulwaphulo: Ngexesha apho yonke intsapho ingabuthene khona, cela umntu ukuba angathanda ukuxoxa nokulungisa oko kwenzekayo ngaphambili. Ukuba (kunye kuphela ukuba) wena kunye nomnye umntu ubonakala ufuna ukulungisa izinto kwaye uvulekile ekuboneni imbono yomnye nomnye, le nto ingaba ngcamango eyakhayo. Ukubona apho omnye wenu angazange amqonde omnye okanye aziphathe ngendlela oya kuzitshintsha ukuba unako, ukucela uxolo ngokunyanisekileyo , kwaye ngezinye iindlela ukuxazulula ingxabano kunokunyanga ubuhlobo bokamva. Zama Ezi Zakhono zoNxibelelwano oluPheleleyo .
- Ukuxolela kwaye Ulibale: Ukuba kubonakala ngathi intlanganiso yomphakathi yeengqondo ayinakwenzeka, musa ukuyichukumisa. Mhlawumbi into efanelekileyo ukuzama ukuxolela omnye umntu kwaye uyivumele. Ukuxolela akuthethi ukuvula ukuba uzive uphosakele kwakhona; oko kuthetha ukuba uvumelekile ukuba uhambe ngeemvakalelo zakho nentukuthelo. Unokuyilumkela kwizinto ozilindele kulo mntu kwixesha elizayo ngaphandle kokuzibandakanya ngokucaphuka, kwaye uya kuba yinzuzo enkulu. Jonga ezi ziCwangciso malunga nendlela yokuxolela
- Nciphise umnxibelelwano okanye Sika Umntu Ebomini Bakho: Ukuba into eyenziwa ngumnye umntu yayikuxhaphaza kwaye akukho nakanjani ukuzisola okanye isizathu sokulindela izinto ukuba zihluke kwixesha elizayo, unako ukukhawuleza ukukhawuleza ukusebenzelana nalo mntu, okanye unqumle umnxeba ngokupheleleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kukhethwa kokugqibela, kodwa kwiimeko zokuxhaphazwa, ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko yokwenza impilo yakho yempilo. Nantsi indlela yokuLawula ulwalamano olunobungozi