Ukunciphisa Ukwesaba Nokuxhalabisa Ngokulungisa Iingcamango Zakho
Kukho iingxaki ezingabininzi ebomini ezinokugqithiswa ngcamango engafanelekanga. Xa unesifo sokuphazamiseka , kunokuba lula ukuphazamiseka ngenxa yokungabi nantoni kunye nokwesaba kwakho. Nangona ungenayo inkathazo okanye ingxaki yokuxhalabisa kodwa ujamelana nokukhathazeka kwansuku zonke, unokudala ukunyuka koxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalabisa ngeengcamango ezingenayo. Ukuze uqhube phambili, kubalulekile ukuyeka ukucinga kwizinto ezixhalabisa uxhalaba lwakho kwaye zithathele ezo ngcamango ingqiqo, ezintle.
Xa uqikelela ukucinga ngokuthe tye kunye nosuku ngalunye, le ngcamango iphuculweyo ingafika kuwe ngokulula nangokuzenzekelayo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, unokwenza umendo omtsha wokucinga kwaye wenze imizamo yokubuyela.
Yeka i ingcamango ezimbi
Okokuqala, vumela ukungabi nongxaki ngokukhawuleza xa kungena engqondweni yakho. Esikhundleni sokucinga "Ndiya kubukeka ndisichukumisa ukuba ndiya kwindibano yedwa", zilungise ngokwangoku. Oko akusiyo ingcamango encedo okanye echanekileyo kwaye iya kukuphazamisa kuphela. Qaphela ukuba unqume ukuhamba kwindlela efanelekileyo. Khumbuza ukuba abanye abantu abaninzi baya kufika bebodwa kwaye kulindeleke ukuba baye khona. Zixelele ukuba uza kubona abahlobo bakho kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuba nexesha elihle. Oku kuya kunceda ukubeka ingqondo engcono.
Unokufumana kukunceda ukufunda iziqinisekiso ezintle ngaphambi kwexesha ukwenzela ukuba uzilungiselele xa iimeko zenzeka. Ngezantsi zikhetho zikhetho zezinto eziqhelekileyo:
Xa usondela kwiimeko ezixhalabisayo
Xa ubhekene nemeko ebangela ukwesaba, njengokuhamba okanye ukuhlangana nabantu abatsha, sebenzisa ezinye zeengcinga ezilandelayo ukulungisa umgca wakho wokucinga:
- Ukuxhalabisa akuyingozi. Andiyonto nje. Ndiza kuyenza ngoku.
- Umfanekiso entloko yam unempilo okanye unengqiqo. Nguye nje ongeyonto.
- Ndiziva ndixhalabile , kodwa kunjalo? Ndiyazi oko kuvakalelwa kwaye ndiya kufikelela kuyo
- Ndiza kugxila kwizinto endizithandayo ukuba ndifumane kule nto.
- Ndiya kulungile.
Ukulungiselela Isiganeko Esixinezelekileyo
Inkathazo ye-Panic ingaba nzima nakakhulu ngexesha loxinzelelo, njengokuba xa ufuna ukunikezela inxaxheba kuluntu okanye uya kukhangelo lomnxeba emsebenzini. Ngelixa unokuba ulingwe ukuba ugxeke ugula okanye ugweme imeko yonke, leyo inokulimaza wena kunye nomsebenzi wakho. Endaweni yoko, zikhumbuze ezi ziqinisekiso:
- Ndenze iintetho phambi kwaye ndiyakwenza oku.
- Xa kuphelile, ndiya kuzingca ngam.
- Ukuba ndiqhubeka ndiyenza, kuya kuba lula.
- Ekugqibeleni ndathi ndinikela, wonke umntu wathi ndenze kakuhle.
- Ukuba ndiza kuphefumula, oko kuya kundinceda ngaphambi kokuba ndingene.
Hlalani Ngo kwenene
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukucinga okulungileyo kungathathwa kakhulu, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba uhlale ungqiqo. Xa iingxelo ezithembekileyo zingenangqiqo, inokubangela ukuba uxhalabise ngakumbi njengoko ingqondo yakho engathethekiyo ichaza ukuba ezi ngcamango aziyiyo. Uxinzelelo olungakumbi luya kwenzeka xa uqala ukuzithemba ukuba unokwenza izinto ongenakulungelelwanga, kwaye ukunyaniseka kokungaphumeleli kunzima.
Qaphela ukuba imizekelo enikwe apha ngasentla ijolise kwiingxelo ezichanekileyo kunye neenyaniso ezilungileyo: oko uza kuzuza, oko uyenzile kwangaphambili, oko uza kufezekisa ngokuqinisekileyo. Olu lukhokelo olufunekayo lokuthabatha ngeentetho eziqinisekisiweyo kunye nezitatimende zokuzimela. Bomelele ngakumbi xa bebakala.
Ukuhlaselwa kweentlanzi kungonakalisa kakhulu kwaye kukuphazamise. Baya kunkwantya kwaye bangenza uzive ngathi ulahlekelwa nguwe. Kodwa ngeendlela zokuziphucula kunye nokuqinisekiswa okulungileyo, unokuzikhumbuza oko kuqiqweni ukuze ukwazi ukujamelana neempawu zakho.
Ukuba ufumene iimpawu zokuphazamiseka kwentsholongwane ayengaphathwa kakuhle, ingaba yinto efanelekileyo ukubonisana nomboneleli wezempilo ojongene nokukhathazeka nokukhathazeka.
Ngonyango kunye namachiza, ukuphazamiseka kwengxaki yimeko egule kakhulu. Isicwangciso sonyango esibanzi sinokukunceda ukuphucula umgangatho wobomi.
Umthombo:
Richards, T. "Ukunyamekela iingxelo zeengxaki". Inethiwekhi yokuxhalabisa, ngo-2014.