Ukwabelana ngemvakalelo kunye neqabane lakho kukufanelekile ukuba ube ngumngcipheko
Kulula kakhulu ukwabelana ngeengcamango zakho, ulwazi lwengqondo olusekhompilini yakho, kuneemvakalelo zakho. Ukuxelela ubunzulu beemvakalelo zakho ezisentliziyweni yakho kuthatha umngcipheko wemoya kunye nesibindi. Oku kukukwenza uzive utyhilekile kwaye usengozini, kodwa, yinto eyona nto iya kudala ukusondelana kunye nokuxhamla kumtshato wakho. Ngokwabelana ngezinto ezisentliziyweni yakho kunye neqabane lakho, unokufumana ubungqina obusondeleyo.
Indlela yokwabelana ngayo neemvakalelo zakho neqabane lakho:
- Phawula umehluko phakathi kweengcamango neemvakalelo zengqondo. Ukucinga, kwaziwa nangokuthi "ukuqonda" yinkqubo eyenzeka ezintloko zethu. Idibanisa izinto zethu kunye neenkolelo zethu malunga nento ethile. Imvakalelo, ngakolunye uhlangothi idlulisela isimo sethu sengqondo kwaye idla ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba ivela entliziyweni. Imvakalelo inokukwazi ukuvalelwa ngokomzimba.
- Sebenzisa 'Ndiyicinga kwaye ndiziva' . Ukuba unako ukufaka amagama athi 'Ndiyicinga' ngokuba 'ndiziva' kwisivakalisi, ngoko uvakalise ingcamango kungekhona. Umzekelo, "Ndiva buhlungu" kuchanekile ngenxa yokuba awuyi kuthi, "Ndicinga ukuba buhlungu," kunene? "Omnye unokuthi," Ndivakalelwa kukuba ungeyonto ".
- Yithi igama. Sebenzisa uluhlu lwamagama xa kunzima. Khumbula ukuba iimvakalelo ziyilizwi elinye: lusizi, lusizi, luhlungu, luvuyo, luvuyo, luhlazo, njalo njalo.
- Chaza indlela ovakalelwa ngayo ngokuyithetha okanye ukuyibhala ngendlela enokuthi umlingane wakho abe nemizwa yakho kwizinga elifanayo. Injongo enye kukunceda iqabane lakho liqonde ukuba lifana njani ukuhamba ezinqabeni zakho. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukuvelana nokuqonda ngokubuyisela ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho.
- Qinisekisa le mvakalelo kunye neqabane lakho ngokuthe ngqo . Umlingane wakho akakwazi ukufunda ingqondo yakho. Unako ukuthabatha kwi-vibe yakho, kodwa abanakho indlela yokukwazi into ekhoyo entloko ngaphandle kokuba uyichaze!
- Yamkela ukuba iimvakalelo azilungile okanye ziphosakeleyo . Yiyo yokuziphatha ephumela ekubeni ngenxa yokuvakalelwa. Kungenxa yokuba unomsindo awukuniki ilungelo lokugonyamelo. Iimvakalelo ezingafanelekanga kufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngokufanelekileyo.
- Yamkela ukuba iimvakalelo zize zize zitshintshe ngokukhawuleza. Oku kwahlukileyo kunokuba "isimo sengqondo" esilixesha eliqhubekayo leemeko zengqondo.
- Zama ukugweba wena okanye lakho iqabane ngenxa yemvakalelo. Ukuba ufuna ukuba iqabane lakho liqhubeke nokuhlanganyela kule nqanaba, kubalulekile ukuba ungacasuli okanye uzikhusele ngokuvakalelwa kwakho.
Yabelana ngokuvakalelwa kwakho, kungekhona nje ukuvakalelwa komntu. Unokuba ubonisa umsindo kodwa uziva uhlungu okanye uhlazekile. Oku kubaluleke nakakhulu ukuzithetha kumlingane wakho ukuhlalisana kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Ukusebenza kunceda. Ukuba awuyena mntu usetyenziselwa ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo, oku kunokuvakalelwa ekuqaleni. Ukuziqhelanisa ngamanyathelo amancinci kuya kwenza kube lula.
Ezinye ezimbalwa iinkcukacha ukukhumbula:
- Ukwenqaba ukuvakalelwa kukuba umntu uyawuva. Musa ukuthetha izinto ezifana 'Ungakhathazeki, ujabule' okanye 'Akufanele uzive ngale ndlela.'
- Musa ukwenza izigqibo ngokusekelwe kwiimvakalelo. Xa ukwenza izigqibo, iimvakalelo ziya kuba yinxalenye yenkqubo, kodwa kufuneka ucinge ngokuchanekileyo nangokulinganayo.
- Yabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho omnye nomnye. Akudingeki ukuba ube neengxoxo ezinzulu, ezinzulu malunga nobuhlobo bakho nsuku zonke. Kodwa, kufuneka uhlanganyele iimvakalelo zakho kungekhona nje iingcamango zakho malunga nento eyenzekayo nawe imihla ngemihla. Ukuthi 'uye emva kweentlanganiso' kunika ulwazi oluyisiseko kuphela. Kodwa ukutsho ukuba 'uhlazekile ukukhawuleza kwintlanganiso' kukunceda uqhagamshelane nomntu othetha naye!
Oku kufuneka kube yinkqubo yokulungelelanisa. Nina bobabini nifanele nihlanganyele kwinqanaba elisondelene kunye. Akunakuba nje ngomnye wenu!
Ukuze uphumelele ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho kufuneka uvulekele, uthembeke, uzimisele ukwenza ixesha lomnye nomnye, kwaye uwamkela ezi ntetho.
* I-Article ihlaziywe nguMarni Feuerman