Ngexesha lesigaba sokuthandana sobudlelwane, ufumana umfazi ukuba ngubani. Enye yezinto oza kuzibona xa udibana naye uzimisele kangakanani ukutshata. Oku kunokuba yi-turnoff ngokukhawuleza ukuba unako ukuyithatha. Okanye, unokuba ungaziboni ezinye zeempawu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba, ufanele uqhubeke uqaphele ukuba umfazi othandanayo usebenza ngokugqithiseleyo ukutshata.
Nazi izibonakaliso ezithandathu ezithandanayo nomfazi oqabaneyo Ngaba unqwenela ukutshata
- Uhlala ekhuluma ngabazali bakhe ixesha elide kunye nolonwabileyo lomtshato
Ukuba umfazi othandana naye uvelisa umtshato wakhe umtshato obonwabileyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye uthetha indlela umama wakhe sele esele watshata ngayo ubudala bakhe, unokusebenzisana nomfazi onqwenela ukutshata. Akukho nto ephosakeleyo ngaye ofuna ukulinganisa umtshato womzali wakhe, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka akuphephe. Ukuba unqwenela ukutshata, uya kuhlala ethetha malunga nabo bonke abanobini abatshatayo abatshatileyo abaziyo nendlela afuna ngayo into abanayo. - Uyakudonsela kwiivenkile zokuthengisa ekhaya
Ukuba umfazi othandana naye ucinga ngokujonga ifenitshala, izitya kunye nokuzikhusela ekhaya, unokuzama ukukwenza ukuba ucinge malunga nokwenza ikhaya naye. Uya kucela imbono yakho apho i-bedspread okanye umbhede othanda ngayo. Ngokwenza oku, ukwazisa ukuba ulungele ukudala ikhaya kunye nawe, mhlawumbi kuquka ukutshata. Ibhinqa elinesifiso sokutshata linokukudonsa kwisitorethi "ukuze ukhangele," kodwa oko akwenzayo uyayicinga ukuba ufuna enye.
- Usebenze kaninzi
Ibhinqa eliye lazibandakanya kakhulu, nokuba liye lehla okanye lingahambi, mhlawumbi lifuna ukutshata. Xa ibhinqa lifuna ukutshata, unokunyanzelisa umntu ode naye ade anike. Umfazi onqwenela ukutshata angenakho ukufumana imigangatho efanelekileyo xa efika ekukhetheni umyeni. Oku akuthethi kukho into ephosakeleyo ngayo, kodwa umfazi oye wahlala eninzi ucinga ukuba umntu ngamnye "unokuthi".
- Ukhuthaza ukulala ngesondo esingakhuselekanga
Umfazi onqwenela umtshato angenayo ingxaki yokuqhawula nayiphi na uhlobo lokulawula ukuzalwa. Uyakubona ukukhulelwa okungalindelekanga njengento eyoyinyathela ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba awufuni umntwana kunye naye, kubalulekile ukuba uhlale unxibe ikhondom, nokuba ufungela uphantsi phantsi kolawulo lwakhe lokuzalwa. Ukuba unyanzelekile akudingeki ukuba usebenzise ukhuseleko ngenxa yokuba ude udibana naye, oku kuwuphawu olubi omele ulunake. Into ebalulekileyo njengokukhulelwa yinto efuna ingxoxo. Akusiyo isiphumo somzuzu. - Uthetha ngephupha lakhe elizayo njengokungathi liyinyani
Uvele esayazi apho indawo yokutshata kufuneka ibe yintoni, yintoni eyenxibayo kwaye mhlawumbi sele iqeshwe ngabantwana bakhe abangakazalwa! Kuya kubonakala ngathi uyimpahla yokumnceda ukuba afinyelele le njongo. - Ngokukhawuleza ufuna ukukwazisa wonke umntu kwintsapho yakhe
Oku kunokwenza umntu akhathazeke ngokukhawuleza kubudlelwane njengoko kufanele. Akukho sizathu sokuba abe noxinzelelo kuwe ukuze uhlangane nomntu okwamanje. Kwakhona, ukuba uyammisa aze akhathazeke, oku kubakho ubungqina bokuba ukhawuleza ukubopha iqhina.
Ukuba ibhinqa olalitshatileyo ibonisa iimpawu ezingentla apha, mhlawumbi ufuna ukutshata ngokukhawuleza. Umtshato awuyinto into ofuna ukuyiphumela kuyo kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungamthanda kangakanani. Kufuneka ibhekwe njengeflegi-ebomvu ukuba iziphatha ngale ndlela. Kufuneka abe nje ngocalucalulo njengoko ubona ukuba ngubani owenza ukuzinikela kwakhe konke. Qiniseka ukuba uthathe ixesha lakho njengento yokuthandana ngexesha elibalulekileyo lokufunda okuninzi ngomntu!