Ukuthetha koluntu kunjengomsebenzi othile-ukulungiswa ngcono kukulingana nokusebenza okungcono. Ngelo xesha, ukuxhalaba malunga nokuthetha esidlangalaleni kunokukunceda. Enye indlela yokucima uxhalaba kukuba uzilungiselele kakuhle ukuthetha kuluntu. Xa ulungele kangcono, kuya kukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye kwenze kube lula ukugxila ekuhambiseni umyalezo wakho.
Khetha isihloko esineenzala kuwe
Ukuba unako, khetha isihloko ovuyayo ngayo.
Ukuba awukwazi ukukhetha isihloko, zama ukusebenzisa indlela ofumana umdla. Umzekelo, unokuxelela ibali lakho ebomini bakho elibhekiselele kwisihloko, njengendlela yokuzisa intetho yakho. Oku kuya kuqinisekisa ukuba usebenza ngesihloko sakho kwaye ukhuthazwa ukuphanda nokulungiselela. Xa ubeka, abanye baya kuziva ukuba banomdla kwaye banomdla kwizinto oza kuthetha.
Yiba nolwazi ngeNdawo
Ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka uzame ukutyelela igumbi leenkomfa, igumbi lokufundela, iholo, okanye iholo yokuhlala apho uza kubakho ngaphambi kokuba unike intetho yakho. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, zama ukwenza ubuncinane kanye kwimeko apho uya kugqitha ukuthetha kuyo. Ukuqhelana nendawo kunye nokwazi apho kufuneka khona izixhobo ezibonakalayo eziphambi kwexesha kuya kuthetha into encinane kunokukhathazeka malunga nexesha lokuthetha kwakho .
Buza indawo yokuhlala
Hayi, andithethi igumbi e-Hilton (nangona oko kuya kuba kuhle).
Izibonelelo zitshintshe kwindawo yakho yomsebenzi ekukunceda ukulawula uxhala. Ukuba uye wafumanisa ukuba unesifo sokuxhalabisa njengengxaki yokukhathazeka kwentlalo (SAD) , unokukwazi ukufumana ezi zinto ngokusebenzisa ama-American abakhubazekileyo Act (ADA).
Ukuba kukho into enokukwenza ukhululeke xa uthetha okanye intetho yakho, khangela ukuba kukho utshintsho olwenziweyo.
Cela isiqendu, ube nomngciphe wamanzi e-icebo, ulethe izixhobo ezibonwayo zomsindo, okanye ukhethe ukuhlala phantsi ukuba kufanelekile-nokuba yintoni enokwenza kube lula kuwe ukulawula uxhalaba lwakho.
Ungayibhalisi
Ngaba uke wahlala entlanganisweni apho umntu efunda kwisigcaziso esilungisiweyo ngegama? Ukuba ufana nathi sonke, mhlawumbi awukhumbuli into eninzi. Ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka ulungise uluhlu lwamanqaku aphambili kwiphepha le-8.5 "X 11" ongayibhekisela kuyo. Nangona ukusebenzisa amakhadi okuqhayisa kunokusilingela, ukunyuka kwekhadi lamakhadi kungabangela ukuphazamiseka kwabaphulaphuli bakho.
Lungiselela iiHecklers
Nangona kungenakwenzeka ukuba uya kuba nabakhohlisi emtshatweni wakho okanye kwiminyaka engama-50 yomcimbi wokugxekwa, ithuba lokugxeka okanye imibuzo enzima iphakamileyo kwindawo yokushishina. Indlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nelungu elibuhlungu labaphulaphuli kukumhlawula okanye ukufumana into onokuvumelana nayo.
Yithi into enjengaleyo, "Ndiyabulela umbuzo omkhulu" okanye "Ndiyayixabisa kakhulu izimvo zakho". Oku kuya kukunceda uvele ubonakale evulekile kubaphulaphuli bakho. Ukuba awukwazi ukuphendula umbuzo, vumelani uze utshele umntu ukuba uya kujonga kuyo. Ngaphambi kwenkcazo yakho, zama ukukulindela imibuzo enzima kunye nezimvo eziphambili ezinokuvela kwaye uzilungiselele iimpendulo ngaphambi kwexesha.
Ziqhelise, Ziqhelise, Ziqhelise!
Nangona abantu abakhululekile ukuthetha esidlangalaleni bahlaziya iintetho zabo ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba bafumane kakuhle. Ukusebenzisa inkulumo yakho 10, 20, okanye kwimizuzu engama-30 iya kukunika ukuzithemba ngokukwazi kwakho ukuhambisa. Ukuba intetho yakho inomda wexesha, qiniseka ukuba uzinike ngexesha lokusebenza kwaye ulungele umxholo wakho njengoko kufuneka ukuba ulungele ngexesha elikhoyo. Izinto ezininzi ziya kunceda ukwandise ukuzithemba kwakho.
Fumana ezinye iinjongo
Oku kunokuba nzima kakhulu kubantu abane-SAD, njengoko kubandakanya ukuziqwalasela xa uthetha. Ngethuba linye ukuqhuba ukuqhuba, thetha ngethuba phambi kwesibuko okanye ube nomhlobo uqhuba i-videotape.
Qaphela indlela ovela ngayo. Le yindlela efanelekileyo yokujonga imikhwa yokutya.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, uvakalelwa kukuba ukwenza lo msebenzi kunokukwenza ube nexhala kakhulu, yiyeke ngoku. Abantu abanenkinga yokuxhalaba kwintlalo kufuneka bafunde indlela yokugxila ngaphandle kunabo. Eli nyathelo mhlawumbi lilungele ukuyenza xa unemisebenzi embalwa ephumelelayo phantsi kwebhanti yakho.
Khawucinge ukuba Uphumelele
Ubunzima bethu buyizitho ezihlekisayo-abazikwazi ukuchazela umahluko phakathi komsebenzi ocingwayo kunye nenene. Yingakho abagijimi be-elite basebenzise ukubonakalisa ukuphucula ukusebenza kwezemidlalo. Njengoko uqhuba intetho yakho (khumbula i-10, 20, okanye amaxesha angama-30!), Cinga ukuba unokuphazamisa abaphulaphuli ngezakhono zakho zokumangalisa.
Emva kwexesha, ucinga ukuba uya kutshintshwa kwizinto okwazi ukuzenza. Andiqinisekanga ukuba oku kuya kusebenza? Ewe, makhe sicinge ngokuchaseneyo. Ukuba ucinga ukunika intetho ekhohlakeleyo kunye nokuxhalabisa-ocinga ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni? Umjikelezo wokuxhalabisa kwi-SAD uninzi isiprofeto esizifezekisa njengokuba sisabela kwisiganeko. Funda ukujonga ngempumelelo kwaye umzimba wakho uya kulandela.
ILizwi
Ekugqibeleni, ukulungiselela kakuhle intetho okanye inkulumo kukunika ithemba lokuba wenze konke okusemandleni ukuze uphumelele. Zinike izixhobo kunye nekhono lokuphumelela, engeza kwezinye iindlela zokulawula uxhalaba kwaye ubone indlela owenza ngayo kakuhle. Kulabo bahlaziywa kwi- disability disorder disorder (SAD) , ezi ngcebiso kufuneka zisetyenziselwe ukuxhasa iindlela zonyango ezifana ne- désensitization echanekileyo okanye unyango lwe-ctnitive behavior (CBT) .
Umthombo:
Abalawuli DD, uStevens S, uHermann C, uGerlach AL. Ingqalelo yangaphakathi kunye yangaphandle kwiNtetho yokuxhalabisa. J Behav Ther Exp Psychiatry. 2013; 44 (2): 143-149.
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