Kubonakala ngathi imiba yeemvakalelo iyakhutshwa. Sichitha ixesha elininzi nabanye ngaphandle kwendlu yethu, emsebenzini, kwi-gym okanye xa senza izinto ezithandwayo. Siphinde sidibanise kalula nabanye kumajelo asekuhlaleni. Olunye ulwalamano lwe-platonic lunganciphisa ubuncwane bobudlelwane obukhulu. Xa lo mntu ekhangeleka kuwe okanye i-chemistry yezocansi ikhona, ubhekane nomthambeko oshukumisayo ukukususa kumtshato wakho.
Imicimbi yeemvakalelo ingabangela ingxaki yomtshato wakho kunye nosapho lwakho. Unomlinganiselo othile "wamandla angokomzwelo." Xa ungagxininise la magunya kumlingane wakho, ingaba phi na? Imininzi yemicimbi yeemvakalelo kunye nemicimbi yomzimba iqala njengobungane obuhle. Kukho njalo akukho njongo yokuba ezi zibophelelo zibe yinto engaphezulu. Kungakhathaliseki, umgca ungcini phakathi kobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nemicimbi yeemvakalelo. Ukongezelela, imiba yeemvakalelo inokukhokelela ngokukhawuleza kwintlalontle kunye neentlobano zesini.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba unesifo sengqondo, zilapha iimpawu ezisibhozo ezibonisa ukuba ngaba:
- Ukuqhagamshelana rhoqo xa ungekho ndawonye. Uhlala uqhagamshelana nalo mntu kunye neeyure eziphazamisayo. Unika ixesha elininzi lokuthumela imiyalezo, ukuthumela i-imeyile, okanye ividiyo ebiza lo mntu.
- Uxoxa ngezihloko zomntu siqu, ezinjengeengxaki ebudlelwaneni bakho obukhoyo. Ukwabelana ngako konke okanye ezininzi iingxaki zakho kunye nokukhathazeka kwalo mntu. Njengoko ukwenza oku, ukhulisa ngakumbi ukunganeliseki neqabane lakho.
- Lo mntu uthatha iingcinga zakho. Ucinga ngaye rhoqo. Lo mntu usengqondweni yakho xa uvuka ekuseni, xa ulala ebusuku, kunye nexesha elininzi phakathi. Unomntu engqondweni xa uhamba ugqoke, enethemba lokuba uya kujonga ukubonakala kwakho.
- Uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye. Ufumana izizathu okanye udale izizathu zokuchitha ixesha naye.
- Uba ngumntu wokuqala ofuna ukubiza kunye naliphi "iindaba." Unolwazi oluthile olunomdla ukuzabelana okanye unemini embi kwaye lo ngumntu onibizayo. Awukwazi ukwabelana ngokubanzi kunye neqabane lakho kwakhona.
- Uyakholelwa ukuba lo mntu "uyakufumana" ngokwenene. Uqala ukuziva ngathi uyaziqonda ngokwenene, ngakumbi kunomlingane wakho.
- Uqala ukuqamba amanga okanye ukugcina iimfihlelo. Oku ngokuqhelekileyo kubandakanya ukulala ngokungenzi. Ukuba ngenjongo yokuba ungatsheli lakho iqabane malunga neentetho zakho, iintlanganiso, iintsuku, iitekisi kunye nefowuni, i-alarm bell kufanele ikhale! Ngaba ususa imiyalezo esuka kwifowuni okanye ngaba uyayiphika inxibelelwano onayo kunye naye xa ebuzwa? Ukuba ufihle izinto okanye uxoxe xa uyazi ngokujulile ukuba ukuziphatha akulungile. Ingaba uya kuhlanjululwa ukuba lakho iqabane livile ingxoxo edibeneyo phakathi kwakho?
- Uhlala uqhathanisa umlingane wakho naye. Unokuthukuthela iqabane lakho ngokungenzi izinto ezifana nomnye umntu. Uqala ukucamngca lo mntu ngelixa iqabane lakho liqala ukubonakala libi emehlweni akho. Unokufumanisa ukuba uxabisa ngakumbi iqabane lakho. Oku kuqinisekileyo ukudala umntu omhle / onobuqili obubi phakathi kwaba bantu babini.
- Umlingane wakho ufumana ngaphantsi kwakho xa umntu wakho okhethekileyo efumana ngaphezulu. Ingaba kunxibelelwano oluncinci, uthando, iingcamango zakho, okanye ihlabathi lakho eliphakathi, ixesha lakho kunye nokugxilwa kuthathwa kumlingane wakho kwaye udluliselwe kulo mntu mntu.
Nangona iimeko ezinjalo zingadluli umgca ngokuba ngumzimba, impembelelo inokuba yingozi nje kwaye ibeka umtshato wakho kwindawo yengozi. Ubusondelelwano obandakanyekayo kwimicimbi yeemvakalelo lunokuhlala luba neqondo elithile elinzulu kunokuba isondo sezinto zesondo ngenxa yokuba utyalomali. Ezi ntlobo zemiba zinokubonakala ngathi liholide ukusuka ebomini bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Ufumana kuphela okulungileyo komnye umntu kwaye babona okusemandleni akho. Awuboni "24/7" kwaye ufunde ngemikhwa emibi kunye nezinto ezingathandekiyo. Umfanekiso wakho kubo ngokusekelwe kwimfesane kunye neengcinga ezibonakalayo, eziya kwenza ukuba olu budlelwane lube lukhulu kakhulu. Ukuba ucinga ukuba unesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, kusenokuba ixesha lokuba uhlolisise imeko yomtshato wakho.