Ukuziphatha okunyanzelisayo yilezo zinto ezibandakanya ukuziphatha ngokungathandabuzekiyo kunokuzitshutshisa ngqo. Abantu abanomdla-banobukrakra bahlala bebonisa ukuchasana nezicelo okanye iimfuno ezivela kwintsapho kunye nabanye abantu ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokubambezela, ukukhupha okanye ukunyanzela.
Imizekelo ye-Passive-Aggressive behavior
Ukuziphatha okungenangqumbo kungabonakalisa kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo.
Ngokomzekelo, umntu unokuziphindaphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba aphephe abantu abathile njengendlela yokubonisa ukungathandi kwabo okanye umsindo kubo.
Kwiimeko apho umntu onobudlova obuthukuthele, banokuthi bahlale besithi bangekho buhlungu okanye ukuba bahamba kakuhle-nangona babonakala becaphukile kwaye bengafanelekanga. Ukukhanyela oko bakuvakalelwayo kwaye benqabile ukuba bavule ngokomzwelo , bavala uchulumaniso oluthe gqolo kwaye bayenqaba ukuxubusha umba.
Ukuzigweba ngokuzithandela ngenye indlela ebonisa ukuziphatha okubi. Xa bejamelana nemisebenzi abangenayo ukwenza okanye ukuqeshwa kwabo abafuni ukuyigcina, umntu onobukrakra uya kudibanisa inyawo. Ukuba baye bacelwa ukuba bazalise umsebenzi emsebenzini, umzekelo, baya kuwuyeka kude kube ngowesibini wokugqibela okanye bawuguqule ngokukhawuleza ukuze bagwebe umntu obanike umsebenzi.
Yintoni Ebangelwa Ngamaqhinga-Ukuziphatha Okubuhlungu?
Ukuziphatha okunyanzelisayo kunokuba nemiphumo emibi phakathi kobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kwiintsapho, imithando, kunye nakwiindawo zokusebenza. Kutheni le nto ihlala iziphatha kakubi kangaka? Kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezinokuthi zenze igalelo ekutshatyalaliseni.
- Ukukhuliswa: Abanye bacacisa ukuba ukuziphatha okungenangqondo kunokususela ekukhuliseni kwimeko apho ukubonakalisa ngokuthe ngqo iimvakalelo kuphazamiseke okanye kungavunyelwe. Abantu banokuvakalelwa kukuba abakwazi ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo zangempela ngokucacileyo, ngoko kunokuthi bafumane iindlela zokungqinela ingqumbo yabo okanye ukukhungatheka.
- Iimpawu zesimo: Iimeko zineempembelelo ekuziphatheni okubi. Xa usesimweni apho ukubonakaliswa kobudlova kungekho kuluntu olwamkelekileyo, njengomsebenzi wezoshishino okanye weentsapho, unokuba uzimisele ukuphendula ngendlela ekhuselekileyo xa umntu ekuthukuthelisa.
- Ukuthatha indlela elula: Ukuzimela kunye nokuvakalayo ngokomzimba akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Xa ukuzimela kunzima okanye kukhwankqisa, ukunyanzelana-kungabonakali njengendlela elula yokujongana neemvakalelo zakho ngaphandle kokujongana nomthombo wakho womsindo.
Indlela Yokujongana Nendlela Yokuziphatha-Ebudanga
Ngoko unokwenza ntoni xa ujongene nomhlobo, umlingani-mlingane, okanye umlingane othandana naye ohlala ehlala ehlasele?
Isinyathelo sokuqala kukubona iimpawu zendlela yokuziphatha. Ukuxubha, ukuncoma, ukukhawuleza, ukuhoxiswa, kunye nokukhanyela ukunxibelelana nazo zonke iimpawu zokungahambi.
Xa omnye umntu eqala ukwenza ngendlela enjalo, zama ukugcina umsindo wakho. Esikhundleni saloo nto, phawula iimvakalelo zomntu ngeendlela ezingengomgwebo kodwa okwenyaniso. Ukuba ujongana nomntwana ocacile ngokukrakra malunga nokwenza imisebenzi: "Ubonakala unomsindo kum ngokukucela ukuba uhlambulule igumbi lakho."
Inyani yinto yokuba umntu uya kukhanyela wakhe umsindo. Kule ngongoma, kuluvo oluhle ukubuyela emva kwaye unike umntu ithuba lokusebenzisa le miva.
Ukuziphatha kakubi-mthetho kunokusonakalisa, kodwa amathuba kukuba sonke siphendule ngeendlela ngezinye izihlandlo.
Ngokuqonda oko kubangela ukuba izenzo ezinjalo kunye nendlela yokujongana nazo, unokunciphisa umonakalo onokubakho kwimibutho yakho.
Iingxelo
Whitson, S. (2013). Ukujamelana nokuziphatha okubi. Psychology Namhlanje. Kubuyiselwa kwi-https: //www.psychologytoday.com/blog/passive-aggressive-diaries/201305/confronting-passive-aggressive-behavior
Iingcali ezininzi zeengqondo: I-Psychology Dictionary