Ukukhula kwimeko ebonakalayo njengokungavumelekanga yinto enye exutyushwa ngokubanzi njengengenelelo ekuphuhliseni ukuphazamiseka komntu (BPD). Ukudibana nomoya wokutyeba ngokwemvelo, iimeko ezingenakulungelelaniswa kuthiwa enye yezona zimbini ezibangela i-BPD.
Yiyiphi imeko engabonakaliyo
Ngaloo ngqiqo, ukungabikho mthethweni ukuhlaselwa okanye ukubuza umgaqo okanye inyaniso yemvakalelo yomntu.
Oku kunokwenziwa ngokukhanyela, ukuhlekisa, ukungahoywa, okanye ukugweba iimvakalelo zomnye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, umphumo ucacile: iimvakalelo zomntu "ziphosakele."
Imeko ebonakalayo njengokungagcini ngokubanzi kuthetha ukuba umntwana ukhula evakalelwa kukuba iimpendulo zakhe zengqondo azichanekanga okanye ziqwalaselwe kwixesha eliqhelekileyo lezinto. Emva kwexesha, oku kungakhokelela ekudidekeni kunye nokungathembeki ngokubanzi kwemvakalelo yomntu.
Ukungavunyelwanga Kungabonakala
Indawo engabonakaliyo ayikho into efana neyokuxhaphaza , nangona ubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo ngokuqinisekileyo bukhubaza. Ukungavunyelwanga kungabonakali kwaye kungabonakalisa indlela yokusebenzisana ngokubanzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo ibonakaliswe ukunganyanzelwanga kwintetho yeemvakalelo zengqondo, ezidla ngokubakhokelela ekubonakalisweni okukhulu kwemvakalelo.
UMarsha M. Linehan, ugulo lomntu ogqithiseleyo umgulane kunye nomphandi, uphakamise ingcamango yokuba ukuphuhliswa kwe-BPD kwenzeka ngexesha leminyaka yophuhliso, apho umntwana efumana umyalezo ukuba kufuneka afunde ukujamelana neemvakalelo ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwenkxaso yakhe bazali.
Ngenxa yoko, umntwana akaze afunde indlela yokulawula okanye ukunyamezela iimvakalelo zakhe, kwaye uhluleka ukufunda indlela yokusombulula iingxaki ezivuselela le mvakalelo.
Ezinye Iifom Zokudumisa Ngamana Kungabonakali
Ukuqinisekiswa akuyona into efanayo nokudumisa; kuba kukuvuma komntu, kanti ukudumisa kungumncoma nje.
Ukuqinisekisa umntu ukuvuma iimvakalelo ezibandakanyekayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyavumelana nendlela omnye umntu azivakalelwa ngayo okanye akunjalo.
Dumisani iidilesi zenzo okanye ukuziphatha ngaphandle kokujongana nemvakalelo emva kwayo. Ukudumisa kungenakulungiswa, kuba nangona ukuziphatha komntwana kuvunyelwa kwaye kuqiniswa, umzamo okanye ukuziva kakubi abanakho akubhekiselelwanga. Oku kungenza umntwana abe nomuvo lokuba amava akhe apheleleyo ayamkelekanga, okanye akhutshwe.
Umzekelo wokungavumelekanga ogugulekayo njengokudumisa
Imizekelo embalwa inokukunceda ukucacisa ngakumbi ngakumbi indlela ukuqinisekiswa okuhluke ngayo kwindumiso kunye nendlela ukungasebenzi ngayo kungabonakaliswa njengendumiso.
Umntwana omncinci uyena eklasini ngokwakhe ngosuku lokuqala lwesikolo, nangona esaba. Ukumdumisa kwakuya kuba lula, "Umsebenzi omuhle!" Ngakolunye uhlangothi, "Waba nesibindi ukuba ungene nangona uyika. Kwakungekho lula. Nguwuphi umsebenzi omhle owakwenzayo, "uqinisekisa iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo, ukuthetha ngomzamo onokuyithatha loo mvakalelo, kwaye udumisa umzamo.
Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba adumise ngelixa ekhubaza ngexesha elifanayo: "Umsebenzi omhle. Ngoku awuboni ukuba ubuqhetseba obunjani? "Le mpendulo iyanciphisa iimvakalelo umntwana ayenayo ngokuzibiza ngokuthi" ubuqili, "naphezu kokudumisa ukuziphatha.
"Efihliweyo" Ukungavumelekanga
Abo bakhula ngamagqabaza angabonakaliyo, ngakumbi abo aguqulwe njengendumiso nenkxaso, banokufumana kunzima ukubona umehluko phakathi kwezi mpendulo kunye nokuqinisekisa amazwana. Umntwana akavakalelwa nje kuphela ukukhathazeka okuvela ekungagwenzisweni okugugulekayo njengendumiso, kodwa abo abangabandakanyekanga ngokuthe ngqo kwiintlobo zengqungquthela abakwazi ukuyiqonda le nto. Abanye abantu abadala, kunokuba baqaphele impembelelo ezi galelo ezingabonakaliyo njengokuba indumiso inokuba nayo kumntwana, inokuthi ichithe ukungaqiniseki okubangelwa ngumntwana okanye "ukukhathazeka okungaphezu komntu" kunxalenye yomntwana kunokuba kungabi ncamango kwengqondo yomzali.
Iingcamango ziyiNkohlakalo
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba abantu bavame ukufumana ubudlelwane kunye nokusebenzisana ngokwahlukileyo. Oku kuthetha ukuba yintoni umntu onokuyibona njengendawo engafanelekiyo ayifumanekanga nakwezinye. Kungenzeka ukuba iimpembelelo zomntu ngamnye zithintela uvakalelo oluqhelekileyo lomntu ekungavumelekanga, kodwa wonke umntu unamaxesha apho asemngciphekweni okanye athathaka.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukungasebenzi-ngokubhekiselele ekuphuhlisweni kweengxaki zomntu ongapheliyo- kungekhona ngamava ngamaxesha, kodwa ayingqonge. Akunjalo nje ngamava angenakulungeleka okukhokelela kwi-BPD kodwa kunzima ukuchazwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiimeko apho iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango zithathwa nje zingabalulekanga.
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