Ingaba unomntu onxinekayo ohlala kwintlalo, ufuna ukukunceda umntu onentlalontle, okanye ufuna nje ukukwenza abahlobo abaxhalabileyo bezenzo bazive bekhululekile, uludwe olulandelayo lweengcebiso luya kukubeka endleleni yokuba ngumhlobo onesihawu .
Xa Unayo Indlu
Ngoko, unendwendwe yendlu exhalabileyo ezayo ukuza kulala ubusuku kwaye awuqinisekanga ukuba ungenza njani ukhululeke.
Nazi ezinye izicwangciso zokuhamba ngokuhlwa kwaye wazi isivakalisi sakho kangcono.
- Ukubonelela ngesakhiwo: Ukuba umntu oxhalabileyo uya ku tyelela ikhaya lakho, nceda loo mntu ukuba azive ekhululekile ngokubonelela ngesakhiwo esithile sokutyelela. Oku kungathi kube lula nje ukuxelela loo mntu ukuba akubize ntoni (umzekelo, "Hayi, nceda undibize uMary." UMks. Jones unina. "), Okanye ngokucacileyo njengoko kuchaza naluphi na uhlobo olunzima lwezindlu ezifana nendlela yokujika kwisitya okanye kwindawo yokufumana ithubhu. Ukwamkeleka ngakumbi kunye nokuthe ngqo ukuba ube kunye neendwendwe zakho, ngaphantsi koko kuya kufuneka ukuba uqikelele-oko kuya kukuvumela ukuthuthuzelwa okukhulu.
- Yiba novelwano: Zama ukuzifaka ezicathulweni zomntu onenkxalabo yentlalo. Yintoni eyenza loo mntu aziva ekhaya kakhulu? Imizekelo inokubandakanya ukutya kwakhe okuthandayo okanye ukunikela ngezihloko zokuxoxa malunga neendawo azithandayo. Cinga ukuzama ukufumanisa oko unokukwazi malunga nomntu ngaphambi kokufika ukuze ukwazi ukuhambela ukuhambela kwakhe.
- Yiba ngumphulaphuli omhle: Nika ingqalelo, ubuze imibuzo, uze ubonakalise oko uvelayo xa uthetha kwisitye sakho. Nangona umntu onenkxalabo yentlalo unokuxubusha ngaphantsi kwezindlu zakho eziqhelekileyo, oko akuthethayo mhlawumbi uye wacingisisa.
- Dlala imidlalo: Thatha ingcinezelo yomntu ngokuxhalabisa kwentlalo ngokucwangcisa imisebenzi ethile ngexesha lokutyelela, ukuze ungenakuqhuba inxaxheba lonke ixesha. Cinga imidlalo engabandakanyekanga uxinzelelo oluninzi kwaye inokunceda umntu ukuba axhalele ukuhlakulela, njengokufana nomdlalo onobuchopho beCoption okanye uPhuculo olubi. Ukuba iindwendwe zakho zikhetha ukuba zingadlala, kodwa zihlale eceleni - makube ngokufanelekileyo. Angatshintsha ingqondo yakhe xa umdlalo uhamba.
Ukulungiswa kweNtlalo
Hayi, ngokuqinisekileyo awukwazi ukulungisa omnye umntu ' ukungabikho kwentlalo . Nangona kunjalo, unako ukunika isandla sokunceda ukubonisa ukuba umntu unxibelelwano ngeendlela ezincinci kwabanye. Ngezantsi ezinye iingcebiso ukuba uncede umntu onenkxalabo yentlalo azive engacaci.
- Bonisa indlela yokwenza ngayo: Umntu onenkxalabo yentlalo kungenzeka ukuba akanalo amava amaninzi kwiimeko zentlalontle, kwaye unokungaqiniseki ukuba uza kuhamba njani. Uncede loo mntu ngokuba ngumzekelo omhle. Yazi indlela yokulawula izethulo, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwintetho encinci, kwaye uphume ingxoxo, kwaye umhlobo wakho omtsha unokufunda ngokukujonga.
- Hlangana nabantu abatsha: Uncedise umntu oxhalabileyo ekusebenziseni ezo zakhono ezintsha ngokummisela kwiqela lakho lentlalo kunye nokumnika ithuba lokuziqhuba. Khetha abahlobo kuye apho kuya kuba neminqweno, ukuze kube lula kubo bobabini ukuba bathethe. Umngeni nomntu onenkxalabo yentlalo ukwenza isakhono esisodwa sezentlalo, njengokunikela isicatshulwa malunga nendlela yokuxhaphaza izandla xa uqala ukudibana nomntu.
- Ukunikezela indumiso: Umntu onenkxalabo yoluntu unokuvakalelwa kukuba akafanelekanga ukuhamba ngeemeko zentlalo - ke unokuqiniseka ukuba unika indumiso. Mxelele ukuba wonk 'ubani wayemthanda ibali lakhe malunga nawaphi na oqala ukudibana okanye abanye babenomdla wokummazi kangcono. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanenkxalabo yokuxhalabisa abantu, bazama ukubeka irekhodi ngqo.
Ukwenza Abanye Bathuthuzele
Yiba loo mntu owenza wonke umntu azive ekhululekile , kwaye umntu oxhalabileyo loluntu uya kubaxabisa ngokukhethekileyo. Ngezantsi ezinye iingcebiso zokuba ngumntu.
- Sebenzisa ulwimi olufanelekileyo lomzimba: Qinisekisa ukuba ulwimi lomzimba lwakho lubonisa ukuba uvulekile kwaye unobungane, ukumnceda umntu ngokuxhalabisa kwentlalo. Ngaphandle kweengalo zakho, zithembele xa uthetha, kwaye unikezele ukubonisana kakuhle kwamehlo. Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into, nikela ngokumomotheka okubanzi ukuba ubonise ukuba uyamkela omnye umntu.
- Bonisa uvelwano: Xa umntu onenkxalabo yentlalo ekwabelana ngeengcamango okanye iimvakalelo, phulaphulaphula ngokukhawuleza, uze ubonakalise oko uva ngeentetho zentlungu. Umzekelo, ukuba umhlobo uthi "Ndiyaxhalaba ngokusebenza kwam okuzayo, andiyazi ukuba ndiya kulawula njani," ungaphendula ngokuthi "Kuvakala ngathi uninzi engqondweni yakho." Ukunika ingxelo ebonisa ukuba uphulaphule kwaye uyanyamekela konke okufunekayo.
- Bonisa ukuba ulalele: Qaphela malunga nolwimi lomzimba xa uphulaphule - kufuneka ubonise ukuba unika ingqalelo yakho ngokupheleleyo. Into eyona nto ungayenza kumntu onenkxalabo yentlalo kukuba "siqingatha-mamela" - ukuba ube ngumsindo wokuphulaphula ngelixa uthabatha kude kwifowuni yakho okanye gcina iliso lakho kwiwashi. Kunoko, thobela kwaye ugxininise kulowo omnye umntu athethayo.
- UMtyholi usezi nkcukacha: Ukuba uyazi umntu othile kwiqela lakho unokukhathazeka kwentlalo, zama ukubandakanya xa uthetha . Ungayisebenzisi ngaphakathi amahlaya angayayiqondi loo mntu. Zama ukubandakanya loo mntu kwingxoxo ngokuthetha ngezinto anokuzichaza.
- Yiba nesineke: Qaphela ukuba awunamonde xa uthetha nomntu onenkxalabo yentlalo. Musa ukubuza imibuzo yangasese ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ungabi msindo okanye ungabi nantoni. Qaphela ukuba omnye umntu unokufuna ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwizigaba zokuqala zobuhlobo. Qaphela kwakhona ukuba umntu onenkxalabo yentlalo unokuba yimpembelelo emva kwemiqobo yobomi-njengokuba unomdla malunga nomhla wokuqala xa bonke abahlobo bakho batshata okanye baqhawule. Zama ukunyamezela nokuqonda nangona kubonakala ngathi iziganeko zobomi bakho ziyaqhubeka kwizinga ezahlukeneyo.
- Fumana indawo efanelekileyo: Umntu onenkxalabo yentlalo akanakuziva ukhululekile ukuthetha kwindawo ephakamileyo okanye exakekile. Ukuba ufuna ithuba lokuxoxa, zama ukweba kwindawo epholileyo apho obabini unako ukuthetha ngomntu omnye.
- Fumana izinto ezithandekayo: Enye yezindlela ezilungileyo zokubangela ukuba umntu abe nexhala lezenhlalakahle uzive ukhululekile kukuba ukhangele izinto ezithandekayo zokuxoxa ngazo. Buza imibuzo evulekile ukuze uzame ukufunda okungakumbi ngomnye umntu kunye noko unokufumana ngokufanayo.
- Yiba nobungane ngokukhawuleza: Awukwazi ukuba ungaphi na umntu ukuxhalabisa intlalo. Smile kubantu abangaziwayo, unikeze intetho encinci kwaye ngokubanzi ufudumale emzame ukwenza ukuba abo bajikelezayo baziva bekhululekile. Ukuba kwenzeka ukuba uwele emikhondweni nomntu onenkxalabo yentlalo, usenokuba nje ukhanyise usuku lwakhe.
- Fumana i-loner: Ngokufanayo, kwiimeko zeqela, yenza iphuzu lokufuna umntu ohleliyo ngokwakhe kwaye engabonakali nazi nawuphi na umntu. Ingaba loo mntu unenkxalabo yentlalo okanye ayikho, ukuncedisa ukumbandakanya kwiqela okanye nokuba nencoko yangasese ukuze amazi kangcono isenzo sokholo oluhle kunye nento enobungane abenzayo ukuze abanye bazive bekhululekile.
- Hlalana ekuthinteni: Indlela elula yokubangela abanye uxhalabe loluntu luziva lukhululekile kukuba uhlale unxibelelwano. Lo mntu unokufuna ukuthetha, ukwenza izicwangciso, okanye ukufumanisa indlela ozenza ngayo kodwa ngexesha elifanayo uxhala lungamthintela ekukhetheni ifowuni okanye ngokuthumela i-imeyile. Yiba ngowokuqala ukungena kunye kwaye ungabacaphukisi. Usenokumangaliswa ngelinye ilanga umhlobo abuyele kuwe, ngenxa yobuhlobo bakho.
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