Ufuna Ukuhleka? Masibe 'Ngomhla Woba' Namhlanje!
Abantu abaninzi baziva behlazekile xa bejonga emva kweempazamo abazenzayo, kwanabuntwaneni. Nangona iimeko ezingekho phantsi kweentlalo kunye nempembelelo enenjongo eziqhelekileyo ziqhelekileyo kwaye zingenakukhunjulwa kwixesha lokuphila, abaninzi bethu bazibetha ngenxa yezinto ezihlazo esizenzayo ngaphambili. Oku kunokuba ngumthombo obalulekileyo wokuxinezeleka, ngakumbi kulabo abafumana ubuninzi bexhala, ngokukodwa ukhathazeka kweentlalo.
Abantu abaninzi baye bafumana induduzo ngcamango elula yokuba, "ngelinye ilanga siza kujonga emva koko kwaye sihleke."
Xa sikwazi ukuhleka malunga nezinto ezihlazo esizenzayo ngaphambili, sithatha ihlazo ngaphandle kweememori kwaye sitshintshele ngokubambisana, okanye ubuncinane imilinganiselo emihle. Oku kunokunyanzelisa uxanduva kunye nememori yalo. Ukufumana iqela labahlobo, okanye nokuba ngumhlobo omnye omhle, onokukwazi ukuxhamla umthwalo wokuhlambalaza ngokuhleka kakuhle , unokuguqula. Ukufunda ubuchule bokukwazi ukujonga iimemori ngale ndlela kunokusenza sikwazi ukuxolelana nathi nabanye. Oku kunokusenza sikwazi ukuthobela ngaphantsi kweentloni nangaphezulu kunye neentloni ezilungileyo kwiimpazamo esizenzayo ngoku, ngokukodwa xa sicinga ukuba "ngelinye ilanga" xa siza kuhleka ngoku, ngaba namhlanje.
Ukuhleka kwizinto ezixinzezelayo okanye ezihlazolayo kukuba sinamandla okuzalwa kwabanye, kodwa singaba nobuchule bokufunda kwabanye.
Unokuphucula amandla akho okwenza oku, ngoko kuba ngumkhwa oza ngokulula nangokuzenzekelayo. Ukuba ungathanda ukwandisa ikhono lakho lokuhleka kwiimeko ezixinzeleleyo, iingcebiso ezilandelayo ziyakunceda ukuba uqhubeke nokuphuhlisa olu buchule.
Thatha Isinyathelo Emuva
Enye yeenjongo eziphambili zokufumana ukuhleka kweemeko kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo kukusebenzisa amahlaya ukudala umgama phakathi kwakho kunye noxinzelelo olujongene nalo.
Ukuhleka kweziganeko ezihlaziyekileyo zengxaki kunokukunceda ukuba ugcine izinto ngendlela ebonakalayo kwaye ukhumbuze ukuba oko akufumaniyo kungeyona nto eyona nto enokubakho. Ukuba unenkathazo ekufumaneni ukuhleka kweemeko kwimeko yakho, kunokukunceda ukufikelela kwizinto ezivela kwinqanaba elihlukile: endaweni yokusebenzisa amahlaya ukuze ufumane ingqiqo, ukubeka izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo ukuze uvumeleke ukuba ubone ukuhlaziywa. Ukuba ulinganisela uxinzelelo lwakho kwisikali esivela ku-1, emela "kungekho konke okuxinzelelekileyo" ukuya kuma-10, emela "njengengcinezelo njengokuba le nto ingaba," unokuzikhumbuza ukuba le nto ayiyiyona ingxaki ojamelene nayo kwaye izinto zibe zibi. Oku kufaka isikhala phakathi kwakho kunye neemeko, kwaye eso sikhala sinokudibanisa ubuchule obuninzi kwiimeko, kwaye kwenze kube lula ukuba ubone ukuhleka kwezinto apho kunokwenzeka khona.
Khangela i-Absurdity
Ziziphi amathuba? Ziziphi amathuba ukuba ezi zinto zinokungaphumeleli, okanye ukuba zihamba kakuhle ngale ndlela ngqo? Ingaba kukho ingxaki kwiimeko zakho? Ngaba le nxalenye yechungechunge lweemeko ezibi? Ngaba yinto nje enokuyilindela, ukuba le nto yayingumdlalo we-slapstick?
Funda iMemorous Mememoirs
Kungaba ngumthombo okhululekileyo woxinzelelo wokufunda iincwadi ezihlekisayo ngokuphathelele kwabanye ubomi bomntu, kwaye oku kunokwenza umgangatho ophezulu ngokuzimela ngokwakho.
Iincwadi ezibhalwe kakuhle ziyakwenza iphosakelo elihlazo njengengqungquthela engasinceda sonke siziva sizilungele ngeempazamo zethu. UDavid Sedaris i-Mindy Kaling bobabini baneencwadi ezigqwesileyo ezenza oku kubonakala kulula.
Khawucinge ngolu hlobo njengesiqendu okanye iSahluko
Ezinye zeendlela ezilungileyo kakhulu zininzi zeengxaki ezingaqhelekanga njengenxalenye yesalathiso, kodwa umdlalo omkhulu ungabangela nemingeni yomntu. Ezi ziindaba ezilungileyo kuba, nokuba nantoni na ukujamelana nayo (mfutshane yentlekele), usenokufumana ukuhlaziya. Kunceda ukubukela iifilimu ezihlekisayo kunye nemiboniso okanye ukufunda iincwadi ezimnandi ngokuthe rhoqo. Oku kukukunceda ugcine isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, kodwa kunokukunceda ukuba ube nesakhelo sengxelo malunga nendlela abantu abanokujamelana ngayo neengxaki ezixinzelelekileyo kunye nokuhleka.
Khawucinge nje ubhekane neemeko ezixinzelelekileyo ezinokuthi ziluhlu lwesicatshulwa kwenye yemiboniso yakho oyintandokazi okanye isahluko kwintando ethandekayo. Ukucinga indlela abalinganiswa obathandayo abangayiphendula ngayo le meko, unokukunceda ukuba ufumane impendulo enomdla ngakumbi, kwaye unokunceda ubuncinci ukubeka ukummotheka emlonyeni wakho lula.
Shintsha Amanqaku Ngamhlobo-Uze Uzikhumbule!
Ukuthetha nabahlobo kunye nokufumana inkxaso yenkxaso yoluntu xa ugxininiswe isicwangciso esilungileyo sokuzama ukulandelela. Ukuba ufumana umhlobo okunceda ukuba ufumane ukuhleka kweemeko kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, okanye ude uhlekise kwezinye izinto, ubambelele kubo kwaye uxabise le mgangatho! (Qinisekisa ukuba ubuyela kumnxeba xa kunokwenzeka, kwakhona; oku kunokuba kukuhle kubo bobabini.) Akunakunceda kuphela ukuba ukwazi ukubiza umntu, ukucwangcisa imeko yakho, nokwabelana ngokuhleka, kunokukunceda njengoko ujongene Izimo zakho ezixinzelelekileyo ukwazi ukuba unomntu ngaphandle apho oza kuhleka kunye nawe kamva, kwaye kunokukunceda ukhumbule konke oye wabelana ngako ukuhleka ngexesha elidlulileyo. Ukuba nomnye onjalo ngumhlobo unokukunceda ukuba uhlale unomdla kakhulu.
Yenza Uhambo Uhambo
Ukuba uye wakujabulela ukufunda iimemo zabanye abantu okanye ukuva amabali abahlobo. oku kunokukunceda ukuba ukhululeke ngokwakho. Oku kuvula enye ithuluzi ekulahlwayo: ukuloba. Ziqhelise ukubhala amabali akho ngendlela ehlekisayo. Unokuqala ukubhala njengoko uye wawafumana, kodwa uguqule kwindlela yokubhala yokudala kunye nam amava akho amahlazo kwaye uphinde ubhale kwisitayela sombhali wakho ozithandayo. Ukuba akukho nto enye, oku kunokukunceda ukuba ufumane izibonelelo zokuloba .
Ukugxilwa Kwakho
Ngamanye amaxesha unokuba nobunzima ukufumana ukuhleka kweemeko kwiimeko zakho, kodwa unokuhleka ezinye izinto - oku kulungile kakhulu! Shift ingqwalasela yakho kwizinto ezinokuthi uhlekise okanye uhleke - amavidiyo ahlekisayo, amanqaku malunga nento oyifumanayo into ebalulekileyo, nantoni na into enokuphakamisa indlela ovakalelwa ngayo - uze ubuyele kumngeni wakho kunye nomoya okhululekile. Ngenxa yokunyamezela kwakho ukuphazamiseka, oko kwakubonakala ngathi yintlekele ebonakalayo inokuvakalelwa njengengxaki encinci, eyincinci kakhulu, into elula ukuyihleka.
Gxininisa kwi-Stress Management
Xa unezinye izicwangciso zokusebenzisana ezisebenzayo, unokufumana lula ukuhlaziywa kwiimeko ezixinzeleleyo. Ukucamngca, ukuvuthwa, ukucutshungulwa kwengqondo kunye nezinye iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo kunokukunceda uhlale ungena kwindawo apho izinto zivakalelwa khona kwaye kunzima ukuhleka. Nazi ezinye iindawo ezintle zokuqala .
Yenza Uthotho Ingxenye Ehlala Yobomi Bakho
Phambili ukugcina uvakalelo xa ungakhange ubhekane noxinzelelo, kwaye kuya kufumana lula ukubuyela kwisimo sengqondo, nangona uziva unxinekile kwaye ukhululekile. Yenza kube yinto ephambili yokuhleka xa unako kwaye ungeze umdlalo kumhla ngalunye . Uya kufumanisa ukuba uxinzelelo luyancibilika ngakumbi.