Iikhowudi ezili-12 ze-AA ne-Al-Anon
Injongo ephambili yeli qela eli-12 liza kuthwala isigidimi sayo kwaye lithuthuzele abanye abasengxaki. Oku kuchazwe kwiNkcubeko 5.
- Utywala Ongaziwayo Inkolelo yesi-5: " Iqela ngalinye linenjongo eyodwa ephambili: ukuhambisa umyalezo walo kwisiselo esinxilisayo."
- I-Al-Anon Tradition 5: nganye I-Al-Anon Family Group ine injongo enye: ukunceda iintsapho zezidakwa. Senza oku ngokuziqhubela i-AA ezilishumi elinambini ze-AA ngokwayo, ngokukhuthaza nokuqonda izihlobo zethu zotywala, nangokuwamkela nokunyamezela iintsapho zezidakwa.
Injongo yamaQela angama-12
Amalungu ngamnye azisa iimfuno zawo kwii -12 zamagumbi amanyathelo kwaye nganye iyaqhubeka ngoluhambo lokubuyiselwa kwinqanaba lawo. Wonke umntu uhlukile. Ilungu ngalinye linesizathu sokubuyela emva kweveki emva kweveki.
Kodwa njengeqela baneenjongo enye, ukuze bafikelele kwabanye abahlala behlupheka. Injongo yabo kukuba ukwabelana nabanye ngamava, amandla kunye nethemba lokuba bafumene ngaphakathi kwamagumbi.
Ixesha elidala labuzwa ukuba kungani eqhubeka ebuyela emva kwayo yonke le minyaka. Impendulo yakhe yayilula. "Kungenxa yokuba kwakukhona umntu apho mna xa ndiza kuvela kuloo minyango."
Uthando Nenkonzo
Amaqela e-AA akhiwe ngabantu abahlukahlukeneyo abathi, kwiimeko ezininzi, akunakwenzeka ukuxuba ukuba kwakungengenxa yoxinzelelo oluqhelekileyo lotywala. Bayazi ukuba ukuze bahlale bengenangqiqo kufuneka bancedise utywala olandelayo ngomnyango.
U-Maryann uthi, "Akukho nto ibaluleke ngakumbi kwizinto zakho ezintle- kungekhona inkolo yakho, ezopolitiki, okanye izinto ozenzayo ukuze uphile.
Ingqwalasela yeqela ayikwazi ukuyiyeka kwiinjongo zayo eziphambili okanye iqela lizahlukana kwaye liba ngabanye kunye neendwendwe zabo, ngoko akusekho kumntu omtsha okanye kumalungu. "
Ixesha elidala
Amanye amaxesha amandulo athi akufuneki iintlanganiso. Kodwa nangona bengayidingi iintlanganiso, iqela liyakudinga.
Omnye umphathiswa uthi "Ukuba ufuna i-timer endala kwintlanganiso yakho, qhubeka ugcwalisa isihlalo sakho kwaye ngolunye usuku kuya kuba nomdala kwiintlanganiso zakho."
Inkqubo yokuKhula koBuntu
ULin, ilungu le- Al-Anon lichaza ezi zinto zibalulekileyo zeNkolelo 5. Inxalenye yokuqala yesiko icela amalungu ukuba "ancede iintsapho zezidakwa." Oku akuthethi ukuwanika imali. Kuthetha ukuba nobubele kubo, phulaphule oko bathethayo, bakhuthaze xa bexhalabile, kwaye ubonise ukuba unomdla okwenene. Ukuphulaphula kubaluleke kakhulu. Njengoko uphulaphule into enye ilungu elithethayo, uyaqonda ukuba abanye banemvakalelo efanayo kwaye bahlala kwiimeko ezininzi ezifanayo. Inokukunceda uzive ungenawe.
Xa abanye bekuphulaphule, kukunceda ukwazi ukuba baqonda into ohamba ngayo kwaye uhlala phi. Uyabona ukuba abanye abantu banzima kakhulu kwaye into encinci inokuphazamisa ukuthula kwabo. Ngamanye amaxesha ngokubaxelela nje "Kulungile" okanye "Ndiyayiqonda" yonke into abayidingayo ukuze baphinde bahlalise. Yabelana ngamandla akho nabo.
Icandelo lesine sale nkcubeko likucela ukuba ukhuthaze kwaye uqonde isihlobo sakho esinxilisayo . Oku kunokuba kwenziwe lula xa lowo mntu ehlaziywa, kodwa kunzima nakakhulu xa kubuya.
Kodwa unako ukuqonda, uqaphela ukuba utywala ngumzimba . Kanye njengoko ubonisa imfesane kwisihlobo nomhlaza okanye isifo sikashukela, unokufunda ukubonisa inceba efanayo kumntu onxilisayo. Uyakwazi ukumthanda umntu kwaye uyayithiya isifo. Xa bethetha izinto ezilimazayo, fundani ukuba ningayithathi. Cinga: "Siyisifo, kungekhona yena, uthetha oku."
Inxalenye yokugqibela yesithethe sesihlanu "uyamkela kwaye uyathuthuzela iintsapho ezidakwa." Ukwamkela abatsha kwiintlanganiso kuyinxalenye yale nkcubeko. Usihlalo wentlanganiso unokwamkela abo batsha, kodwa amanye amalungu kufuneka enze njalo.
Unokukhumbula ukuphelelwa yithemba kunye nokungafihliyo okukulethele iingcango-kuphela ukufumana uthando olungenammiselo, inkxaso, uxolo kunye nethemba ngaphakathi.
Xa unika induduzo kwiintsapho, uziva uziphucule. Unokubathuthuzela abanye ngokuhlanganyela kwiintlanganiso, kuquka iindlela eza kukunceda ukujongana neemeko ezahlukeneyo. Yenza umntu azi ukuba uyaqonda. Ukuxhasa i-newcomer kuya kukunceda ukwamkela nokuthuthuzela umntu. Ukugxininisa komnye umntu endaweni yokuzixhalalisa kunokukunceda ufumane impilo.
Isithethe sesihlanu sisilula kodwa iquka iinkalo ezininzi ze- Al-Anon ukukhula . Ijongene nothando, ukuqonda, ukuthuthuzela nokusebenza ngamanyathelo. Iyakwenza lula ukufikelela ekuhambisaneni kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakho.