Izindlela ezilula zokunceda umntwana wakho aphule kwaye anike ingqalelo
Ukuzala umntwana ongumntwana we-ADHD unokunikela imingeni. Abazali abaninzi bacaphukisa ngenxa yokufumana umntwana wabo ukuba ancitshise, bhala kwaye ulandele izikhokelo.
U-Kirk Martin ungumlawuli olawulayo weSigubha! I-ADHD, inhlangano yemfundo enika uqeqesho kootitshala, abazali kunye nabantwana abachaphazelekayo yi-ADD, ADHD, Aspergers, Autism, Integrity Sensory, Ukunyaniseka okuchaseneyo, Ukukhathazeka ngokuxhalabisa, i-OCD kunye nezinye izibonelelo zokukhubazeka okanye ukukhubazeka.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba abantwana abane-ADH baxakeke kakhulu ngengqondo, "kusho uMartin. "Cinga ngengqondo yengane yakho njengedolophu enezitalato ezithwele ulwazi, iimpembelelo, izongeniso zengqondo, iintetho zothisha kunye nezikhokelo zakho. Kodwa kwisixeko sawo, izibane zendlela zisebenzisayo, zakha i-gridlock kunye neengxabano. "
NoNxibelelwano oluphumelelayo
UMartin uthi kubalulekile ukuba sikwazi ukuthetha kakuhle nangabantwana bethu. Ukhuthaza abazali nabafundisi ukwenza oku kulandelayo:
- Nika iinkcazo ezicacileyo.
Zama ukuphuka imisebenzi kumanyathelo amabini okanye amabini ukuze umntwana angagxinwa.
Nika ukhetho lomntwana.
Buza imibuzo kunokuba wenze ingxelo. Oku kumenza umntwana ayeke aze acinge ngezinye iindlela.
"Sebenzisa imida enomdla kwaye wenze kube ngumngeni. Ukuthi siyahamba emizuzu emi-5 ayinanto, "kuchaza uMartin. Esikhundleni sokubuza umntwana wakho, "Ngaba ucinga ukuba singasetha irekhodi ngokukhetha yonke i-Legos yethu ngemizuzu engama-3 ½?"
Ukongezelela, uMartin ukhuthaza abazali ukuba bathethe ngokukhawuleza baze bahlebe ngezinye izihlandlo. "Inceda umntwana wakho afunde ukuphulaphula ngokunyameko." Uphinde uxwayise umzali ukuba angangeni esicupheni sokufuna umntwana ukuba alondoloze amehlo. "Endaweni, vumela umntwana wakho adlale ngento ethile ezandleni zakhe (ezifana nezinto ezifakiwe) okanye uhambe xa uthetha.
Oku kuya kukwenyusa ukunakwa nokugcinwa, "kuchaza uMartin.
Ngamanye amaxesha sithetha kuze kube yinto ebomvu ebusweni kunye nabantwana abaphulaphuli. Bathi bathuthule ngaphandle. UMartin uthi abantu abadala bangasebenzisa izikhumbuzo ezibonakalayo neziphicothiweyo zokugcina umntwana emsebenzini. "Sifundisa abazali ukuba basebenzise amakhadi ombala (ophuzi ukunyuka, obomvu ukwenzela ukuma, ukuluhlaza ukuhamba) kunye nexesha lokunceda abantwana banqande imidlalo yabo yevidiyo ngaphandle kokucelwa."
I-Fearful Temper Tantrum
Abazali abaninzi abaqinisekanga indlela yokusingatha ukuvutha kwengqumbo engenzeka xa umntwana ekhungatheke kakhulu. UMartin ukhuthaza abazali ukuba bajonge iingqumbo njengethuba lokubonisa ubungqina babo. "Ngokukhawuleza ubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba izibilini zabo azikwazi ukukulawula, ngokukhawuleza bayayeka ukuphosa."
"Abantwana abane-ADHD banomdaka omkhulu ngaphakathi, ngoko bafuna umyalelo kunye nesakhiwo ngaphandle," kuchaza uMartin. "Indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokuzinza umntwana ovakalelwa kukuba sikhumule. Xa umntwana wakho enesiphelo, kufuneka ube yidwala elizolile ebomini babo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ihlabathi liphela kangakanani ukulawula, kufuneka ubonise ukuba wena, njengomntu omdala ebomini bakhe, ulawula kwaye konke kulungile.
Kwaye kufuneka baqaphele ukuba unomoya oqinileyo kangangokuba ngisho neentlungu zabo ezingenakukuhambisa. "
UMartin uchaza ukuba xa sinikela okanye sizama ukufumbathisa abantwana bethu, bafunda ukuba abanako ukusibala. Bafunda ukuba sinokusetyenziswa okanye sihlazeke ngokumemeza nokukhala. Oku kubangela ukungakhuselekanga okungakumbi nokungazinzi.
"Ngoko xa umntwana wakho elahlekelwa yinto, funa uqale ukuzilawula kwaye uhlale uxolo. Ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho uvakalelwa ngokomzimba, akanangqiqo. Kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuqiqa nomntu ongenangqiqo. "UMartin uxelisa abazali ukuba bamncede umntwana abe nokuzola.
"Hlala phantsi uze uqale ukubala ngemibala, ufunde iphephancwadi, amanzi akho izityalo, upheke. Mmeme ekuphumleni kwakho. Oku kuya kumncedisa okokuqala kuba sele esetyenziswe ukukubona udidekile. Oko ukuthethayo, nangona kunjalo, kukuba (1) Izenzo zakho azikwazi ukulawula okanye ukuxhaphaza kwaye (2) Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uphumelele njani ukulawula, ndiyidwala onokuyithemba. "
Abazali banokuthi bahlale beqabulisa ukuba umntwana wabo azibonele xa kukhwaza kunye nokwenza izinto. UMartin unikela umzekelo wento umzali angathi ngayo: "Xa ulungele ukuthetha, ndineendlebe zonke. Kodwa andiyikuphulaphula into enokumemeza ngayo kwaye intukuthelo yakho ayiyi kufumana into oyifunayo. "
Cofa kwiiNqununu zokulondoloza ikhaya elingenakuKhalaza ukuze ufunde kabanzi.
UkuFunda okongeziweyo:
Ukuncedisa i-ADHD Child yakho Ukuphuhlisa ubudlelwane obuhle boontanga
Iinqununu eziPhambili ze-ADHD Management
Ukuhlaziywa kweNcwadi: ADHD - Ukuphila ngaphandle kwamaBrakes
Umthombo:
> Kirk Martin. "Yiyo: Isicelo see-Quotes ze-Expert." I-imeyili ku-Keath Low. 01 Feb. 08.