Umzala wam omncinci wayeyindoda ebhinqa elihle kunye nekamva elizayo, kodwa yena wanquma ukuzibulala. Andikuqondi nje. Kutheni abantu bazibulala? Yintoni eyenza umntu abe nomuzwa wokuthi ukuthatha ubomi bakhe yiyodwa impendulo kwiingxaki zabo?
Nangona kukho izinto ezininzi ezinokuchaphazela isigqibo somntu ukuzibulala, eyona nto ixhaphakileyo kukuba kukuba baxinezelekile kakhulu .
Baziva bebuhlungu obukhulu, kodwa abakwazi ukubona nayiphi na indlela yokuyiphulaphula intlungu ngaphandle kokuphelisa ubomi babo. Xa ubuhlungu babo buba nzima kakhulu ukuba bathwale, banokuzibulala ukuze bafeze intlungu.
Ezinye izifo zengqondo ngaphandle kokudandatheka zingadlala indima ekuzibulala. Ngokomzekelo, umntu onokwenza i-schizophrenia unokuva amazwi athetha ukuba abulale. I-bipolar disorder, isifo apho umntu afumana amaxesha athile aphakamileyo kunye namaqondo aphantsi, unokunyusa umngcipheko womntu wokuzibulala.
Iziyobisi kunye notywala kunokuphembelela umntu ozivakalela ukuzibulala, okwenza ukuba afune ukunyanzela kwaye akwazi ukwenza ngokunyanzeliswa kwakhe kunokuba wayeza kuba engqondweni.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bazama ukuzibulala kungekudala kuba bafuna ukufa, kodwa kuba bengazi ukuba bafumana njani uncedo. Imizamo yokuzibulala ngoko ibe yindlela yokumemeza kunye nokubonakalisa ihlabathi nje ukuba umonakalo owenziwe ngumntu.
Ngelishwa, ezi zihlandlo ngoncedo ngamanye amaxesha zibonisa ukuba ziyabulala ukuba umntu ugxeke ukutshabalalisa indlela yakhe yokuzibulala.
Ubuhlungu obungapheliyo kunye nokugula kunokubangela ukuba umntu akhethe ukufa. Ukuba umntu akanalo ithemba lokunyanga okanye ukuhluthwa ekubandezelekeni kwakhe, ukuzibulala kunokubonakala ngathi yindlela yokufumana ukuhlonipha nokulawula ubomi bakhe.
Ekugqibeleni, kukho iimeko apho ukubonakala ukuzibulala ngokuqinisekileyo kukufa ngokukhawuleza, okufana nokuziphatha okuyingozi phakathi kwentsha ebizwa ngokuthi " umdlalo wokukhahlela ," apho ulutsha luzama ukuzithobela ukuze luziva luphakamileyo.
Ngelixa ndingenako ukuphawula ngento enokubangela ukuba umzala wakho azibulale, ndinokuthi ukubonakala kwangaphandle kunokukhohlisa. Ngoxa kwakubonakala ngathi wayenento yonke yokuphila kuyo, mhlawumbi wayengenakuvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela. Kusenokuba kukho iziganeko kunye neemeko ebomini bakhe ongaziqhelanga okanye mhlawumbi bekube kukuba ukuxinezeleka kwakhe kwakusisigxina sakhe isigwebo, okwenza ukuba akwazi ukubona nayiphi na into engekho ebomini yobomi bakhe. Xa umntu evakalelwa kukuba uphelelwe yithemba kwaye akanakukwazi ukutshintsha loo nto, inokusibekela zonke izinto ezilungileyo ebomini bakhe, ukuzibulala kubonakale kuyindlela efanelekileyo. Nangona kubonakala kubonakala kumntu ongaphandle ukuba izinto ziza kuba ngcono, umntu onokudakumba angakwazi ukukwazi ukubona oku ngenxa yokungafihlisi nokuphelelwa yithemba ehamba nale sigulo.
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