UNxibelelwano oluPheleleyo lunokubangela ukukhathazeka kweNtlalo
Uqhagamshelwano olunxilisayo luhlobo oluthetha ngalo ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo oko ucinga okanye ukufunayo kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kubandakanya ulwimi olungenakuphuculiswa. Abantu abaninzi abanenkxalabo yentlalo baphela kusetyenziswa ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza.
Ingxaki yokuxhalaba kwezenhlalakahle (SAD) ixhaphake kakhulu kwaye ingaba ngumqobo kwimpilo yakho yemihla ngemihla. Ukuba unenkxalabo yentlalo, izakhono zakho zokunxibelelana zingabuthathaka ngenxa yokuba uxhala malunga nemihlangano yentlalo, ukudibana nabantu abatsha kunye nokulwa.
Enye yezona ndawo eziphambili ezinokuchaphazeleka kukunxibelelana. Ngaphantsi kuchazwa indlela ukuxubusha okunyanisekileyo kunye neengxaki zentlalo yoluntu kunokuxhamla.
Ukuchaza ukuNxibelelana koNxibelelwano
Uqhagamshelwano olunzulu luyimodeli yokungabelani ngeengcamango zakho kunye nokungaphumeleli ukukhusela amalungelo akho kunye nokufumana iimfuno zakho. Abaqhagamshelana nabaxhasi abahluleki ukuba baqiniseke baze bavumele abanye bawasebenzise.
Imizekelo yokuNxibelelana
Uqhagamshelwano oluninzi luyakuboniswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
- Abanye abaxhamli beentetho bajikeleza ehlathini, njengokuthi "Ndiyathanda ukuba umntu akhumbule ukuba athathe udoti" kunokuba acele ilungu lentsapho ukuba likhuphe udoti. Amacebo anjengale maninzi ayengabonakali, okwenza i-communicator idibanise kwaye ilungu lentsapho eliphosakeleyo litshintshile.
- Abanye baya kuvumela abantu ukuba banqobe iingcamango zabo neemvakalelo zabo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unomhlaza kunye nabasebenzi osebenza nabo banquma ukudibana kwi-steakhouse, ungakhetha ukuthetha into okanye ucebise enye inketho ngenxa yokwesaba ukubonwa njengenzima okanye ekhethiweyo.
- Abanye abathengisi beentetho bathetha kakuhle okanye baxolise. Basenokuxolisa ngaphambi kwexesha zabo kwimibono yabo okanye bafanele ukufumana ingxelo yabo. Umzekelo, ukuba ubizwa ngeentlanganiso, umnxibelelwano ongenakwenzeka uthi, "Kungaba ngumbuzo osisidenge, kodwa ngaba usuqwalasele le ngxaki?" Oku kuvela ekungabikho kokuzithemba nokuxhalaba malunga nokubonwa njengoluvo okanye ulukhuni.
- Abanye banomzimba ongathandekiyo wolwimi olunjenge-post-slumped posture.
Iimpembelelo zoNxibelelwano oluPhezulu
Abantu abanomxholo wokunxibelelana ongabonakaliyo banga:
- Uziva uxhala okanye ufana nobomi buphezu kolawulo
- Ndiziva ndixinezelekile okanye nithemba
- Uvakalelwa okanye udidekile ngenxa yokuba iimfuno azifumaneki
Iingxaki zoNxibelelwano oluPheleleyo kunye nokuxhalabisa kweNtlalo
Ukuba unenkxalabo yentlalo kwaye ugweme ukungquzulana, ukunxibelelana okungahambi kakuhle kunokubangela ukuba ungakhathazeki nakakhulu. Ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukulungisa iingxabano xa kwenzeka kwaye uvumela izikhalazo ukuba zingabonakali, ukucaphuka kwakho kungakhula.
Ekugqibeleni, kuya kufuneka uvakalise le mvakalelo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba sele ikhulile ixesha elide, inokuphuma kwaye iwonakalise ubudlelwane bakho. Emva koko, unokuziva uzive unetyala, kukubangela ukuba ube nexesha elizayo.
Oku kunokukhokelela ekuxhalabiseni nakwezinye iintlalo xa uxhulumana nabanye okanye uzama ukuzifakazela. Umjikelezo onobuqili unokuziqhubela phambili ixesha elide ukuba akukho nenelelo.
Uqhagamshelwano olunxamnye noNxibelelwano oluxhasayo
Kwabaninzi abanenkxalabo yentlalo, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, nokuzithemba okubi kukukhokelela kwisitayela sokunxibelelana. Oku kunokubangela umjikelo apho unxibelelwano olusisiseko lukhokelela kwiimfuno zakho ezingahambelaniyo, okwenza uzive uxhalabile kwaye okwenza wenze ngakumbi.
Lo mjikelo unokuba nzima kakhulu ukuphula kwaye udla ngokufuna ukungenelela kwezobugcisa.
Ngokwahlukileyo, unxibelelwano oluxhasayo :
- Kuthetha ukuthetha ngokucacileyo malunga nezimvo zakho, iimfuno kunye neemvakalelo ngaphandle kokuphula izidingo zabanye
- Ufezekiswe ngokuzithemba nokuzithemba
- Ukubandakanya ukuzikhuthaza wena kunye nezinto zakho, ngaphandle kokuxolisa
Udokotela ojongene nokuxhalaba kwezenhlalakahle unokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngeemeko ezixhalabileyo kunye nokukunceda uqhagamshelane ngokuthethelelayo nangokuzithemba.
Akuyona into engenzeka ngobusuku; Nangona kunjalo, unonophelo olungumnakekeli wezempilo onemvelaphi yonyango yokuziphatha kwengqondo unokunceda ukuphucula ukhuseleko lwakho kwizithuba zoluntu kwaye kukuxhobisa ukuba uzithethelele.
> Imithombo:
Antony, M. Ubuthixo kunye neNkxalabo yeNtlalo yokuXhalabisa , ngo-2010.
KwiNkcazo yeNtlalo. Ukwenza ngokufanelekileyo.
ICandelo loKhuseleko loLwazi lokuPhathwa kweziTlophu. Iindlela ezine eziSiseko zoNxibelelwano .
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