Indlela Yokuyeka Ukukholelwa Ukuba Ukugqibelela Kuya Kukuvuyisa
Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba i-lottery iyidlala. Udlala amanani akho ngeveki kunye nethemba lokuba ngumqhubi omkhulu. Ngelishwa, kubantu abaninzi, loo midlalo ayiyi kuhlawula.
Ukuphepheka njengento yokukhathazeka kwengxaki yentlalo (SAD) ibhekisela kwizinto ozenzayo ukuzikhusela ekubeni uzive uxhalabile. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kuthetha ukuthintela ukujongana neemeko zentlalo kunye nokusebenza ngokupheleleyo, okanye ubhekane nabo "nezenzo zokuphepha" ezifana nokufihla izandla zakho, ubuso bakho, ukuthetha ngelizwi elithulileyo, njl.
Kwimeko yokuxhalaba kwezenhlalakahle, ukuphepha kunokucatshulwa njengento yokudlala. Yiyiphi indleko kwaye yintoni inzuzo?
Kubantu abaninzi, udlala ingcakaza nethemba lokuba ukuba unako ukuhlala ukhuselekile, akukho mntu uza kukubona ubenesidenge, wenze iphutha okanye uhlazeke. Awusoze unike intetho kunye neflub ngamazwi akho.
Awusoze ube yindibano kwaye akukho mntu unokuthetha naye. Awusoze waphalaza isiselo sakho ngenxa yokuba isandla sakho sagubha kakhulu. Uya ku gqibela .
Siyakuvuyisela, uyiphumelele. Kodwa ucinga ntoni? Umvuzo akusikho oko ucinga ukuba kuya kuba. Ukufezeka kuya kuba yintolongo yakho. Umdlalo onokukwazi ukuhlala uphelele xa ukhusela naluphi uhlobo lokusebenzisana luya kudla ubomi bakho. Yaye ubomi bakho buncipha.
Yintoni enye? Nazi iindlela ezi-3 zokuyeka ukugembula kwixesha elizayo lobungqibelelo.
1. Qaphela ukuba akukho mntu ufezekileyo
Qaphela ukuba ukugqibelela kukukhohlisa. Abantu abanenkxalabo yentlalo banamathele ngombono wokuthi "indlela efanelekileyo" kunye nendlela "engalunganga" yokwenza konke.
Ngaba wonke umntu owaziyo wenza ngendlela efanayo. Ngaba bonke bayayiphendula ifowuni ngendlela efanayo?
Thetha kumqulu ofanayo? Ukuhleka kwinqanaba elifanayo? Ihlabathi liyindawo enokuthethelela ngakumbi kunokuba uyinika ityala. Kukho uluhlu olubanzi lokuziphatha oluthathwa njengoluntu olwamkelekileyo. Ngethuba nje ungeyintlanu, ukujongana, ukunyamekela, ukulimaza, okanye nayiphi na enye impawu enokubangela abanye kakubi, abaninzi abantu baya kukunquma.
Zinike ngokwendlela efanayo ukuba ube yinto-kilter. Bona ukuxhalaba kwakho njengento ethandekayo kunye nendima ekhethekileyo. Zihlaziye ngokuzenzekelayo. Yinyani kwaye ingaphelelekanga. Unokumangaliswa ngempendulo oyifumanayo.
2. Khangela iimeko ezintsha njengezifundo zokufunda
Khawucinge ukuba uthathe yonke ipenki owake wayichitha kwi-lottery kwaye uyifake kwi-akhawunti yebhanki endaweni yoko. Ngoku, khawucinge ukuba i-akhawunti yebhanki yayihlawula umyinge wenzala, kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha isamba sakhula saba yindleko enkulu. Ekugqibeleni, usenokungayiphumeli i-lottery, kodwa uza kubeka imali ngokukhuselekileyo kwaye ube nento yokubonisa ngayo.
Kuyafana okufanayo ngokuphepha. Esikhundleni sokugembula kumntu ngamnye onokuhlangabezana nentlalo yoluntu okanye imeko yokusebenza njengethuba 'lokuhlala uphelele' kwaye 'ungenzi iphutha,' kuthini ukuba uqokelele nganye kwezi meko ngokuhamba kwesikhathi njengamathuba okufunda? Ubungakanani obuya kukhula ngexesha elifanayo?
3. Qaphela ukuba Ukuba noluntu olududuzayo kuthatha ixesha
Unokubhalisela ingcamango yokuba ukuba unokukhathazeka kwentlalo, isikhumba sakho asinakunjengezinye abantu-ukuba uzivelele kwiimeko ezibangele ukuxhalaba, uxinzelelo, intlungu kunye nokuhlupheka. Yeka ukucinga kwangaphambili.
Njengomgijimi wokuqala, ngaba ubhalisela i-marathon? Ukuvezwa akuthethi ukuxhuma kwisiphelo esicacileyo se-echibi. Yakha ukuzinza kwakho ngokukhawuleza. Thatha isinyathelo esinye esincinane ngexesha lokuba ukhululeke ngakumbi.