Ziyintlawulo yakho, ngoko ke unako ukufumana uninzi lwayo ekuqeshweni kwakho.
Ukuba uye wakha wonyango , mhlawumbi uye waphawula ukuba ugqirha wakho ubuza imibuzo engacacanga . Enyanisweni, oku kuye kwaba ngumthombo wokuhleka kwezilwanyana kwi-culture. Umbuzo oqingqiweyo kaBob Newhart, "Wenze njani ukuba uzive?", Uye waba yindlela efanelekileyo yokunyanga kweyeza. Kutheni abaphengululi benza oku? Ngaba kukho ngokwenene ukubaluleka kokungaqondakali?
Ukwahlukana Phakathi kwemibuzo evulekileyo neyiValiweyo
Uninzi lwabaphehli baqeqeshwa ukubuza imibuzo evulekile. Imibuzo evulekileyo yiyo ikuvumela ukuba unikezele nayiphi na inkcitho yeenkcukacha ozifunayo, kunokuthi uphendule "ewe" okanye "cha." Imibuzo evulekileyo ikukhuthaza ukuba wabelane ngezinto ezifanelekileyo malunga nobomi bakho, indlela ocinga ngayo kunye neenkolelo zakho.
Cinga ngezi zilandelayo zivakalisi:
1. Ngaba ulwalamano oluhle nabazali bakho?
Ndixelele ngobudlelwane bakho nabazali bakho.
Izinto ezifunyenwe zifana, kodwa iimpendulo ziya kuba zihluke kakhulu. Umbuzo wokuqala ngumbuzo ophelile. Impendulo elindelekileyo kukuba "yebo" okanye "hayi." Ukuba ugqirha uyabuza loo mbuzo aze afumane enye yezo mpendulo, ibhola libuyele kwinkundla yecala ukuba likhuthaze impendulo epheleleyo. Ngombuzo ophelileyo, umthengi angakhetha ukuthetha ngaphezulu, kodwa kaninzi akwenzi.
Kukho omnye umlinganiselo obalulekileyo phakathi kwezi zivakalisi ezibini. Inombolo enye ngumbuzo ophambili. Izisa ingcamango "entle" kwi-consciousness of client. Lo akusiyo umzekelo ophazamisayo wombuzo ophambili, kodwa qwaba umbuzo onjengaye, "Ngaba uyihlo wayixhaphaza ngokoyihlo?" Ngenxa yokuba le mbuzo inokubangela impendulo ethile, abaphengululi abaphephe ukubuza abantu abanjalo.
Umgaqo wokubuza imibuzo evulekileyo ngokumalunga nemibuzo esondeleyo unokusetyenziswa ngumntu ozama ukuthetha. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uthetha nomntu ongazi kakuhle, babuze imibuzo evulekile. Enyanisweni, ukuba ucinga ngombuzo nge "ewe okanye akukho" impendulo, khangela ukuba ungayitshintsha ibe yinguqulo evulekileyo kwaye ucele loo ndawo. Incoko iya kuhamba ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uya kummazi umntu ongezantsi.
Imibuzo Iingcali Engazibuza Ekuqeshweni Kwokuqala
Bonke abagqirha bahluke, njengokuba iindlela abanokuzisebenzisa. Nangona kunjalo, le yimibuzo eqhelekileyo abaphili be-aphili bangazibuza ekuqeshweni kwakho kokuqala. Ezi ziquka:
- Yintoni ezayo apha namhlanje?
- Ngaba ubonile umcebisi / uphando / isazi sengqondo ngaphambi?
- Yintoni oyibona njengengxaki enkulu?
- Ingxaki leyo yenza ukuba uzive njani?
- Yintoni eyenza ingxaki ibe ngcono?
- Ziziphi iinguqu ezintle onokuthanda ukuzibona zenzeka ebomini bakho?
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, ungathi njani isimo sakho sengqondo?
- Ziziphi izinto ozilindele kwiyeza?
- Ziyintoni na izinto eza kuthatha ukukwenza ube nolonwabo okanye ngakumbi uxolo?
Khumbula, U-Therapist wakho Ukhona Kukunceda
Imibuzo evulekileyo ayifanelekanga ukuba ingacacisekanga, ingabikhoyo okanye iyicasulayo.
Kunoko, bayindlela yakho yokufumana ulwazi, njengokuba kukuphazamisa, into ocinga ngayo, yiziphi izibilini, into oyithandayo, nendlela anokunceda ngayo.
Umthombo:
O'Grady, D. (Februwari 2014). Imibuzo Abacebisi Buza.