Ukuxhalabisa kwezenhlalakahle kungenza iimpendulo ezinengqiqo zinzima ukuphumeza
Ukuba unenkxalabo yokuxhalaba kwentlalo , unokuphepha iimeko zentlalo okanye uloyiko lokwenza intloni ngaphandle kokulingana nesiganeko. Unokuba ukhathazekile ngokuthetha into ephosakeleyo okanye ephazamisayo. Unokufumana ukuba oku kuphazamisekile ebomini bakho, ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane kunye nabahlobo kunye nabathandekayo kunye nokwenza ubuhlungu kumsebenzi wakho.
Ukuphepha kuzo zonke iimeko akunakwenzeka kwixesha elide.
Yazi ukuba awodwa; Ukuxhalaba kweentlalo ngenye yeengxaki ezixhaphakileyo ezixhomekeke kubo bonke abesilisa nabasetyhini. Abantu abaninzi bafumana iziganeko zokuxhalabiseka kwentlalo ebusheni babo , kodwa musa ukunyanga unyango kuze kube yilapho bekhulile. Abanye abantu bayeka ukunyango kuba bacinga ukuba akuncedi; Bakholelwa ukuba uxhalaba loluntu luyingxenye yendalo yabantu. Nangona ukuxhalaba kweentlalo kunokuba nzima ukunqoba, unyango kunye nomboneleli wezempilo ojongene neengxaki zokuxhalabisa kunokukunceda ukuba uphathe imeko yakho kwaye usebenze ngokuqhelekileyo nabanye ngaphandle kokwesaba okunjalo.
Ukulawula Ukukhathazeka Kwezenhlalakahle Ngeempendulo Zemibuzo
Ugqirha wakho unokuncoma ukuba ube neengenelelo zokuziphatha, ezinokuquka unyango lwe-cognitive-behavioral (CBT). Ezinye iinkqubo ziya kubandakanya iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuxhalabisa, ezifana nezindlela zokuphumla kunye nokuqeqeshwa kwezakhono zentlalo nezengxoxo, ziya kuqhubela phambili kwiindlela ezininzi zokungenelela eziquka ukulungiswa kwengqondo .
Umgqirha wakho uza kusebenza nawe ukuphonononga iingxaki zokubangela ukwesaba, ezifana nokunikela intetho nokuchonga iingcamango ezixhalabileyo ezihamba nazo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokuthetha koluntu, usenokungacingi ukuba abantu baya kukuhleka xa uhlambalaza okanye inkulumo ephosakeleyo iya kutshabalalisa umsebenzi wakho.
Emva kokuba loo ngcamango engacetywanga, i-yourrapist iya kukunceda ukuba utshintshe ezo ngcamango ngeempendulo zengqiqo. Wena kunye nomcebisi wakho uza kwakha izimpendulo zakho emva kwenkqubo yokuhamba ngeengcamango zakho, ukuphikisa ezo ngcamango usebenzisa iimpikiswano eziphikisanayo kwaye ushwankathele iingcamango eziphambili zenkqubo yokuphikisana.
Ngokomzekelo wokunika intetho, ingcinga yakho ngokukhawuleza ingaba neengcinga zakho ezixhalabileyo malunga nokuhlazeka esidlangalaleni. Ngokusebenzisa unyango lwakho, uya kuqonda ukuba le ngcamango engacinganga ngokuzibuza imibuzo enjengaleyo, "Ukuba ndabona omnye umntu u-stutter, ngaba ndicinga ukuba babengenakukwazi?" Ngokucinga ngeendlela oziphendulela ngayo kwiimeko zabanye kwaye uqaphela ukuba uncinci ukunika loo mpazamo nayiphi na ingcinga, unokukunceda uzinqabise kwaye uvume ukuba ukwesaba kwakho akunakwenzeka. Ungatshintsha olookoyiko ngempendulo yokufunda okunengqiqo njengokuthi, "Nangona ndikhubeka ngamagama am, oko akuthethi ukuba kukho into engalunganga kum okanye ukuba andinakuyenza umsebenzi wam."
Ukucinga ngokucwangcisekileyo malunga neemeko zentlalo kunye nokuthatha isinyathelo sokubuyela emva ukucinga ngeempendulo zakho kunokuthatha isinyathelo esikhulu ekuncedeni ukulawula uxhalaba loluntu kunye neempawu zakho.
Akunjalo into enokuphiliswa ngobusuku obubodwa, kodwa ngonyango olungileyo kunye nophuhliso oluqhubekayo usebenzisa iimpendulo ezinengqiqo, unokulawula ukuphazamiseka. Oku kuya kuhamba ixesha elide ekukuncedeni ukunxibelelana nabanye, ukuhamba kwindlela yakho yemihla ngemihla kwaye ujonge ixesha kunye nabathandekayo bakho.
Umthombo:
Isiko sokuBambisana sikaZwelonke seMpilo yengqondo. "Ukukhathazeka Kwezenhlalakahle Zentlalo: Ukuqwalaselwa, UkuVavanywa nokuPhathwa", ngo-2013.