Ukuxhalaba kwezenhlalakahle yinkinga yengqondo engavamile, kodwa ayiqondwa kakuhle luluntu jikelele kunye nakwezinye iingcali.
Abantu abafumana ukuxhalaba kwentlalo bafana nokuba bagwetywa kwaye bavavanywa xa behlala kwiimeko zentlalo kunye nentsebenzo. Nangona bayazi ukuba ukuxhalaba kunye noloyiko abavakalelwa kukuba alufanelekanga, ukulawula okanye ukuthintela ukuxhalabisa kubonakala kungenakwenzeka.
Ukuba uhlala ufumana uxhalaba loluntu xa ujikeleze nabanye abantu, kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuba ukhululeke kwaye ube nguwe nabanye.
Xa uvakalelwa kukuba wonke umntu ugweba wena, ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala kulula ukukhusela iimeko zentlalo ngokupheleleyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanenkxalabo enzulu yentlalo bakholelwa ukuba bodwa abantu ehlabathini abanenkinga, kwaye abaxeleli nabani na.
Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba unokuba nexhala lezenhlalakahle, eli nqaku liyakunceda uqonde ezinye zeengcamango ngale ndlela yoyiko kwaye wenze isigqibo malunga nokufumana uncedo kwingxaki yakho.
Inkolelo # 1: Ukukhathazeka Kwezenhlalakahle Akukho Okufanayo
Inyani: Abantu abaninzi banokuxhalabisa ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko ethile ebomini babo.
Ingaba bekukho ngexesha lokuthetha abanikezela esikolweni esiphakeme, okanye xa behamba nodliwano-ndlebe lwabo lokuqala, wonke umntu ufumana iigulaneli ngexeshana.
Kulabo bantu, abanye baya kuba nohlobo olubi kakhulu lwentlalo yoluntu.
Phakathi kwe-2% kunye ne-13% yabemi bacingelwa ukuba banenkxalabo yentlalo kwimeko yokuba iya kuthathwa njengengxaki yokuxhalaba kwintlalo (SAD) .
Inkolelo # 2: Ukuxhalabisa kweNtlalo kuphela Kubhekiselele kwiNkoyiko yokuThetha koluntu
Inyani: Ukuxhalaba kwezenhlalakahle kubhekisela kwixhala kunye nokwesaba kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zentlalo kunye nokusebenza.
Ezi ziquka iziganeko ezisemthethweni, ezifana nokuthetha koluntu kunye nokwenza; ukuthetha ngokungacwangciswanga kunye nokusebenzisana, ezifana nokuhlangana nabantu abangaziwa okanye ukuya kwiqela; imeko ezinzima, ezifana nokubonisa ukungavumelani ; kunye neziganeko zemihla ngemihla, njengokutya phambi kwabanye.
Uluhlu olufanayo phakathi kwezi zinto zibangelwa kukuba kukho ukuvavanywa.
Intsomi # 3: Ukukhathazeka Kwezenhlalakahle Kusho Ukuthi Uziva Unomdla
Inyani: Ukuxhalaba kwezenhlalakahle kuletha iqoqo yeempawu, enye kuphela yinto yokuziva.
Ukuba unengxaki yokuxhalabisa abantu uya kuba neengxaki (ingcinga), iingxaki (somzimba) iingxaki, iingxaki zokuziphatha , kunye neengxaki ezichaphazelekayo.
Umzekelo, xa udibana nomntu ongowokungazanga okokuqala unokuzicingela:
"Kumele akwazi ukuxelela ukuba ndingumntu onobudlelwane."
Izandla zakho zinokuqala ukugubha, unokuziva ungazibalekela kwimeko, kwaye uziva ungathembeki malunga nokuhlala uphila kakuhle.
Inkolelo # 4: Ukukhathazeka kweNtlalo kunye neentloni Zizinto ezifanayo
Inyani: Nangona ukhathazeka kweentlalo kunye neentloni zifana kakhulu, azikho into efanayo.
Uxhala lwezenhlalakahle luquka ukwesaba malunga neemeko zentlalo okanye zentsebenzo, kodwa akusoloko iquka ukuthintela, okanye ukurhoxiswa kule miba.
Abanye abantu banokubonakala bephuma kakhulu, kodwa ngaphakathi, banxunguphazele kwaye banokuzifihla kakuhle.
Ngokwahlukileyo, abo banamahloni bathambekele ekuhoxiseni okanye baphephe ukunxibelelana nabantu ngenxa yeemvakalelo zokuxhalaba kwentlalo. Abantu abanamahloni bahlala bexhalabisayo, kodwa abo abanenkxalabo yezenhlalakahle bahlala bengabi namahloni.
Intsomi # 5: Ukuxhalabisa kweNtlalo Ingxaki yokuba Kufuneka Ufunde Ukuphila Nakho
Inyani: Abanye abantu banenkxalabo enzulu yoluntu imihla ngemihla ukuba abanakusebenza okanye bashiye indlu.
Abanye basebenze kakuhle ngokubanzi kodwa banokholo oluthile olufumana indlela yokufezekisa iinjongo, ezifana nokwesaba ukuthetha koluntu.
Akukho imeko ayikho ithemba okanye into emele 'ihlale nayo.' Ngonyango olululo njengamachiza okanye unyango-ukuziphatha , wonke umntu unako ukuhlala ubomi ngaphandle kokwesaba abantu.
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