Iingcebiso zokuba nencoko nomntu oye waba ne-SAD
Ukungenisa ingxoxo nomntu onamahloni okanye onenkathazo yokukhathazeka kwentlalo (SAD) idinga umgudu okhulu kunxalenye yakho.
Abantu abanamava e-SAD banenkxalabo kwimiba yomntu omnye kunye neqela kunye kwaye badla ixesha badinga ukukhululeka phambi kokuxoxa. Kukho amanyathelo amanyathelo ongayithatha ukukhuthaza umntu ophethe i-SAD ukuba athethe ngakumbi kwaye athathe inxaxheba kwingxoxo.
- Tshela amabali uze wabelane ngezinto malunga nawe ngaphambi kokuba ucele umntu omningi nge-SAD. Uninzi lwabantu abanamahloni okanye uxhalabe loluntu luvuya ngokuphulaphula abanye ngaphandle kokuthetha ngabo.
- Xa uqala ukubuza imibuzo yomntu oye wa-SAD, qiniseka ukuba ubuze iinkwenkwezi ezincokolayo ezivulekileyo ezinjengokuthi "Ucinga ntoni ngo-Oscars ebusuku?" Hlala kude kwimibuzo yeemfuno ezifuna i-ewe / akukho mpendulo njengoko omnye umntu uya kuziva ngathi uphando.
- Xa ubuza imibuzo, qiniseka ukunika omnye umntu ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuphendula ngaphambi kokungena kwiimpendulo ezingaphezulu. Abantu abanamahloni okanye uxhalabe loluntu banokudinga ixesha elide lokuba benze iimpendulo zabo kwiimbuzo.
- Ukuncoma omnye umntu kwimiba ethile yencoko. Ngokomzekelo, tshela "Ndiyithande kakhulu imbono yakho malunga nabazali basekhaya." Ukubonelela ngempendulo emihle kwaye uvumele omnye umntu ukuba uyazibandakanya kwaye unomdla kwintetho iya kuhamba ixesha elide ekukhuthazeni ukwabelana ngokubanzi.
- Ukuba uyazi ukuba umntu ophethe i-SAD unomdla onzulu kwindawo ethile, cela imibuzo malunga nesi sihloko . Unokufumanisa ukuba xa umntu eqala ukuthetha ngento eyaziwayo nokuzibandakanya, incoko ihamba ngokukhululeka.
- Qaphela ukuba ungangeni kwindawo eyakhekileyo yomnye umntu kwaye ugweme ukwamukela "uhlobo lwamaqabane" kwindlela yokuthetha. Qhathanisa ulwimi lomzimba kunye nendlela othetha ngayo nomnye umntu ukuba enze ukuba azive ekhululekile.
- Musa ukubuza imibuzo eyimfihlo yomntu ono-SAD ngaphandle kokuba uyamazi kakuhle. Gcina ezo ntlobo zemibuzo malunga neengxoxo ezithandanayo ezenzeka emva kokuba ufikelele.
- Musa ukuphazamisa umntu kunye ne-SAD xa uthetha. Kudinga isibindi nomgudu wokuvula kunye nokuphazamiseka kuya kuphazamisa umzila wakhe wokucinga kwaye kungabangela ukuxhalabisa.
- Xa ushiya incoko , bonisa ukuba ujabulele ukuthetha nomnye umntu . Ukuba kufanelekile, wandise isimemo sokuba uhlangane nomsebenzi. Uninzi olunamahloni okanye abantu abaxhalabileyo bezenhlalakahle banokukhululeka xa bebandakanyeka emsebenzini omnye kunokuba bathatha inxaxheba kwiintetho ezincinci.
Ukuxhalabisa ngeNtlalontle kunye neengxoxo zophando zophando
Kwisifundo esashicilelwe kwi "Journal of Treatment and Psychiatry" ngo-2016, kwafunyaniswa ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba abaxhalabisayo bancedisa ngaphantsi kwintetho ngaphandle koontanga abangenalo uxhalaba kwaye oku kwabenza ukuba bathande kakhulu. Kwesinye isifundo esashicilelwe kwi-"Chornitive Behavioral Treatment" ngo-2016, kwaboniswa ukuba abantu abane-SAD babekho amathuba okuba bayeke ukudibanisa iso kwintetho.
Ezi ziphumo zifuna ntoni kuwe - umntu othetha nomntu ophethe i-SAD?
Musa ukuzithemba zakho izilwanyana!
Ukuba umntu akayi kukukhangela kwaye akabonakali unomdla kwizinto othethi ukuba unokugqiba ntoni?
A. Loo mntu uphazamiseka kwaye akayi kukunyamekela.
B. Loo mntu unokufumana into yokufihla.
Enyanisweni, ukuba umntu othetha naye uye wafa, ezi zinto zinyaniso. Kodwa ukuxhalaba kwabo kwintlalo okuphazamisayo kunye noko bazama ukufihla-ukwesaba ukuhlazeka okanye ukukhanyeka , soyika ukuba uya kubona izandla zabo zizamazela - nayiphi na into yezinto.
Ngoko khumbula ukuba ube nomonde kwaye ugweme naziphi na izigwebo ze-snap. Umntu onomdla we-SAD unomdla kwizinto othethayo kwaye ufuna ukwazi ngakumbi.
> Imithombo:
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