Yiyo yonke into ebomvu yomzali ukuba ngelinye ilanga unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho uya kudakwa kwaye uya kufuneka uyisebenzise. Nangona oku kuba ngamava abavakalelwa kubazali, kubalulekile ukuba uxhase umntwana wakho kwimeko. Kwaye ngoku kubekho ixesha apho kukho iindlela ezilungileyo nezimbi zokuphendula njengomzali. Nantsi indlela yokujongana nomntwana onxilisayo okanye umntwana osemtsha, kwaye ulunge.
1 - Hlale Ucocekile
Oku kunokwesabisa, ukucaphukisa nokuthukuthela ukubona umntwana wakho enxiliswe okokuqala. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuhlala uxolo kwaye ulawulwe ngokwakho xa usebenzisana naye. Umntwana wakho usemngciphekweni, emzimbeni nasengqondweni, kwaye nangona unokuba nomsindo ngaye, ufuna ukhathalelo lwakho kunye nexhala ngeli xesha.
Yenza:
- Thetha ngokucacileyo, ngoxolo nangomntwana wakho.
- Thatha uxanduva malunga nempilo yengane yakho nentlalo-ntle.
- Hlala kunye naye ade ahlalise ngokupheleleyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhathele kangakanani.
Suku:
- Yell, ugxeke, ugxeke, usongele okanye usebenzise kakubi umntwana wakho.
- Ukuhleka, ukuhlekisa okanye ukuvakalisa ukuzonwabisa ngexesha lakhe lokuxila.
- Mkhuphe ngaphandle kwendlu okanye uzame ukumgweba xa exiliswe.
- Mthinte ngaphezu kokuyimfuneko; abantu abanxilisayo bavame ukuqonda ukuthintela njengokuba besongela kwaye baphume. Mcebise ngomlomo ngaphambi kokuba umthinte, umzekelo, "Johnny, ndiza kukunceda uhlale."
- Mkhuthaze ukuba adle okanye atye nantoni na into.
2 - Khangela ukuba Ingakanani Umntwana Wakho Udlale
Abantu abancinci bangabonakala banxiliswe emva kokudla kakhulu ubuncinane besiselo sotywala kuba banokunyamezela kakhulu kotywala. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho unxilise utywala obuninzi kunokuba umzimba wakhe unako ukuyisebenzisa, unokusengozini yokutywala utywala.
Ukuba uyakwazi ukuthetha, zama ukufumanisa ukuba unxila kangakanani ngendlela engayi kumkhuthaza ukuba axoke ngamanani. Unokuzijonga kunye nabalingane bakhe okanye iqela okanye uphuhliso lokusela xa wayelisela ukufumana ingcamango yokuba usebenzise kangakanani. Sebenzisa uqikelelo lwamaxholongwane egazi lwamadoda (kubafana) okanye abafazi (ngamantombazana) ukuvavanya umgangatho wengane yakho yokuxila . Qaphela ukuba abaninzi abantu banqabileyo ukuba baninzi kangakanani utywala, ingakumbi kwiziselo ezizithengiswa ekhaya.
3 - Fumana Uncedo lwezonyango xa luyimfuneko
Thatha umntwana wakho kwigumbi lexakeka ukuba:
- Akakwazi ukuthetha okanye akayiyo.
- Uhlanza. Lo ngumzimba wakhe wokuqala wokuzikhusela ngokugqithiseleyo .
- Unayo-okanye ucinga ukuba unako-uthathe amanye amachiza, kuquka neyeza zonyango.
- Ulahlekelwe ingqondo (idlulelwe ngaphandle okanye ikhutshwe ngaphandle) nayiphi na into ukususela ekuqaleni kokusela.
- Uye wawa okanye waxhasa nayiphi na enye inzakalo.
- Yena okanye omnye umntu ubonisa ukuba unokudla utywala obunamandla, njenge-vodka okanye i-whisky, kwiyure elidlulileyo; unokuxiliswa kamva.
- Unenkxalabo malunga nempilo yengane okanye impilo yakho nayiphi na isizathu.
4 - Biza amaPolisa ukuba ulwaphulo-mthetho luphazamisa
Ingozi yobundlobongela bentsapho ikhula ngokusetyenziswa kotywala. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyasongela okanye abundlobongela abantu okanye ipropati, biza amapolisa ngokukhawuleza. Olu hlobo lwemiqathango lunokugqithisa ngokukhawuleza kwintlekele. Amapolisa aqeqeshwe kakuhle ekusasazeni nasekulawuleni ezi meko.
Kwakunjalo ukuba omnye umzali, okanye omnye umntu okhoyo, unobundlobongela kumntwana wakho. Abazali banokuba nomsindo kakhulu xa abantwana babo beselula banxila, kwaye anifuni ukubanjelwa emlilweni ngokuzama ukuwaphula. Khumbula, unokwenza iinkcukacha zendlela oqhubela ngayo njengentsapho kusasa xa wonke umntu engqondweni.
5 - Hlaziya kwakhona
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba aphule amanzi ngokukhawuleza ukuze abuyele emzimbeni, kodwa ulungele ukuba ngamanye amaxesha inqubo yokusela ngaphezulu (kwanamanzi) kunokukhuthaza ukuhlanza ebusheni obunxilayo. Ukuba uyahlanza, mthabathe egumbini lexakeka ukuba unyango.
6 - Gcina Umntwana Wakho Vukani
Enye yemingcipheko enkulu i- asphyxiation ukusuka ekuhlanjeni ngexesha lokulala xa itywala. Ingabonakala inqabile-intuitive ukugcina umntwana wakho ephapheke xa udakile, kodwa yinto ekhuselekileyo yokwenza. Umntwana wakho unokuxiliswa kakhulu kotywala osele kwindlela yakhe. Ukuba ubonakala ephuza kakhulu njengoko ixesha liqhubeka, mthabathe ekamelweni eliphuthumayo. Ngokufanelekileyo, ufuna ukumbona egxeka ngaphambi kokuba amvumele "alele."
7 - Faka umntwana wakho kwindawo yokubuyisela
Ukuba unyana wakho unxila ukuba angasimanga okanye awukwazi ukumthabatha kwigumbi lokuxakeka, mbeke kwindawo yokubuyisela (ecaleni lakhe) kwaye ubize i-ambulensi. Ukuba uye wakhawuleza kwaye uziva ukuba uya kuphepheka ukuya kulala, qiniseka ukuba uya kulala kwindawo yokubuyisela. Ngaloo ndlela, xa ehlanza ebusuku, akanako ukunyusa umhlanza.
> Umthombo:
> Ukugqithisa kotywala kotywala: Ingozi yokusela kakhulu. ISizwe lesiZwe malunga nokuTywala kotywala nokuNxila.