Ukwazi indlela yokwenza izigqibo ezintle-njengento yokugqoka kwintlanonongo okanye umsebenzi wokutshala imali-ingaba yintloko yokuphila ubomi bakho obuhle. Yaye ukwazi ukwenza ezo zigqibo ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwaye uzive unethemba malunga nezakhono zakho zokwenza izigqibo kunokukugcina ixesha elininzi kunye neengxaki.
Ngethamsanqa, wonke umntu unokuthatha amanyathelo okuba zigqibo ezingcono. Ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumenzi wesinqumo esilungileyo, faka le mikhosi yeshumi elinesithoba kwimpilo yakho.
1 - Qaphela Ukuxhomekeka Kwakho
Ukuzithemba ngakumbi kunokukwenza ukuba isigwebo sakho siphumelele. Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba abantu bathambekele ekugqithiseni ukusebenza kwabo kunye nokuchaneka kolwazi lwabo. Mhlawumbi unamaphesenti angama-90 uqiniseke ukuba uyazi apho iofisi ehamba kuyo. Okanye mhlawumbi ungama-80 ekhulwini kwiinxalenye ezithile unokwenza umphathi wakho anikezele ukunyuswa.
Kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuqwalasela izinga lakho lokuzithemba ngokwexesha lolawulo. Uninzi lwabantu lugxininisa ukuba bangayenza njani ixesha elithile. Ngaba ucinga ukuba kuya kuthatha iyure enye ukugqiba loo ngxelo? Ngaba uqikelele ukuba uya kukwazi ukuhlawula iindleko zakho kwi-inthanethi ngemizuzu engama-30? Unokufumanisa ukuba uyazikholelwa ngokweqile kwiziprofeto zakho.
Thatha ixesha lemihla ukuba uqikelele amathuba okuba uya kuphumelela. Emva koko, ekupheleni kosuku, hlaziya uqikelelo lwakho. Ngaba uchanekile njengoko ucinga?
Izigqibo ezilungileyo ziyabona iingingqi ebomini babo apho ukuzithemba ngokweqile kungaba yingxaki. Emva koko, balungisa ukucinga nokuziphatha kwabo ngokufanelekileyo.
2 - Ukuchonga izingozi ozithathayo
Ukwazi ukuvelisa induduzo. Kwaye unethuba elihle lokwenza izigqibo eziphosakeleyo ngenxa yokuba ukhule ngokuqhelekileyo kwimikhwa yakho kwaye awucingi ngengozi okhoyo okanye ingozi oyibangelayo.
Umzekelo, unokukhawuleza endleleni yakho yokusebenza imihla ngemihla. Njalo xa ufika ngokukhuselekileyo ngaphandle kwekitikithi yokukhawulezisa, usuke ukhululekile ngakumbi ngokuhamba ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa ngokucacileyo, ubeka engozini ukhuseleko lwakho kwaye uthatha ingozi yomthetho.
Okanye, mhlawumbi udla ukutya ngokukhawuleza kwamasemini yonke imihla. Ekubeni ungeke ufumane iimpawu ezibonakalayo zempilo ebuthathaka, awukwazi ukuyibona njengengxaki. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, unokwenza ubunzima okanye ufumane ezinye izinto zempilo ngenxa yoko.
Ukuchonga imimiselo yakho yemihla ngemihla eye yahlala yindawo evamile. Ezi zizinto ezifuna ingcamango encinane kwinqanaba lakho kuba zizenzekelayo. Emva koko, kuthathe ixesha ukuvavanya iziphi izigqibo ezinokulimaza okanye ezingekho mpilo kunye nokudala isicwangciso sokuphucula imilinganiselo enempilo yansuku zonke.
3 - Hlela iingxaki zakho ngendlela eyahlukileyo
Indlela obeka ngayo umbuzo okanye ingxaki ibambe indima enkulu ekuphenduleni kwakho nendlela oya kuqonda ngayo amathuba akho okuphumelela.
Khawucinge ngamagqirha amabini. Omnye ugqirha uxela izigulane zakhe, "Abantu abangamaphesenti angama-90 abaphila kulo mgaqo baphila." Omnye ugqirha uthi, "Iipesenti ezilishumi zabantu abaye baphila kule nkqubo bayafa." Iinyani ziyafana. Kodwa uphando lubonisa abantu abava "iipesenti ezili-10 zabantu bafa" babona ingozi yokuba enkulu.
Ngoko xa ujamelene nesigqibo, qulunqa umba ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Thatha umzuzu ukuba ucinge malunga nokuba utshintsho oluncinane kwigama luchaphazela njani ukujonga ingxaki.
4 - Yiba Nomnqweno Wokulala Kulo
Xa ubhekene nobunzima obunzima , njengokungathi uhambela kwisixeko esitsha okanye utshintshe imisebenzi, unokuchitha ixesha elide ucingisisa malunga neengxaki kunye neengxaki okanye ubunobungozi kunye nembuyekezo.
Nangona i-sayensi ibonisa ukuba kukho ubuninzi bexabiso xa ucinga malunga nezinto ozikhethayo, ukuxubusha ngokukhetha kwakho kunokuba yingxaki. Ukulinganisa i-pros and cons long long-time can increase your level stress to the point you struggle to make a decision.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba kukho ixabiso elininzi ekuvumela ukuba ingcamango "iqhube." Ukucinga okungaqondakaliyo kuyamangalisa. Ngoko qwa lasela ingxaki. Okanye, zibandakanyeke kumsebenzi okhumbuza ingxaki yakho. Vumela ingqondo yakho isebenze kwizinto ezisemacaleni kwaye unokukwazi ukuhlakulela iimpendulo ezicacileyo.
5 - Beka ixesha elide lokucinga ngeziphoso zakho
Ingaba ushiye indlu ngaphandle kwe-ambulera kwaye uqhutywe endleleni eya emsebenzini, okanye utshaye uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukumelana nokuthenga okungafunekiyo, cwangcisa ixesha lokucinga ngeempembelelo zakho.
Yenza umkhuba wemihla ngemihla ukuphonononga ukhetho olwenziwe ngalo lonke usuku. Xa izigqibo zakho zingaphenduli kakuhle, zibuze into engafanelekanga. Khangela izifundo ezinokufunyanwa kuyo yonke impazamo oyenzayo.
Qinisekisa ukuba awuhlali kuzo iimpazamo zakho ixesha elide. Ukuhlaziya kwakhona izinto zakho ezimbi ngokuphindaphindiweyo akulungile kumpilo yakho yengqondo . Gcina ixesha lakho lokucamngca-mhlawumbi imizuzu eyi-10 ngemini yanele ukukunceda ucinge ngezinto onokuyenza ngcono ngomso.
6 - Yazisa iifutshane zakho
Nangona kungenakunqweneleka ukuvuma, uhlaselwe ngeendlela ezithile. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uzimisele ngokupheleleyo.
Enyanisweni, ingqondo yakho idale iifutshane zengqondo-ezibhekiselele njengezinto ezihamba phambili- ezinokukunceda wenze izigqibo ngokukhawuleza. Yaye ngelixa iifutshane zengqondo zikugcina ekusebenziseni iiyure ngaphezu kweyonke inqaku elincinane ozenzayo, zinokukukhohlisa.
Ukufumaneka kobugcisa , umzekelo, kubandakanya ukusekela izigqibo kwimimiselo nolwazi olukhawuleza lukhumbule. Ngoko ukuba ubukela iindaba eziqhelekileyo zeendaba ezibonisa umlilo womlilo, usenokuba nomngcipheko wokufumana umlilo ngomlilo. Okanye, ukuba usanda kudla iindaba ezininzi malunga nokuphazamiseka kwendiza, unokucinga ukuba amathuba okufa e-crash crash aphezulu kunokonakala kweemoto (nangona iinkcukacha zibonisa enye into).
Yenza umkhuba wemihla ngemihla ukuqwalasela iifutshane zengqondo ezikhokelela kwizigqibo ezimbi . Qaphela iingcamango ezingalunganga ozenzayo malunga nabantu okanye iziganeko kwaye unokukwazi ukuba nenjongo encinane.
7 - Cinga i-Opposite
Emva kokuba unqume into into eyinyani, unokuthi unamathele kuloo nkolelo. Ingumgaqo wengqondo obizwa ngokuba yintliziyo yokunyamezela. Kuthatha ubungqina obunamandla obunokutshintsha inkolelo kunokuba yenzelwe ukuyidala, kwaye kukho ithuba elihle ukuba wenze ezinye iinkolelo ezingakusizi kakuhle.
Umzekelo, usenokucinga ukuba uyisithethi esidlangalaleni esidlangalaleni, ngoko ugweme ukuthetha kwiintlanganiso. Okanye unokukholelwa ukuba ungalunganga ubudlelwane, ngoko ke uyeke ukuya kumhla. Uye wavelisa iinkolelo malunga namaqela athile abantu. Mhlawumbi ukholelwa ukuba, "Abantu abasebenza ngokugqithiseleyo bangama- narcissists ," okanye "Abantu abazizityebi babi."
Ezi nkolelo ozicingayo zihlala zichanileyo okanye i-100 ekhulwini ichanileyo ingakhokelela. Indlela efanelekileyo yokuyibekela umngeni inkolelo yakho kukuphikisa.
Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba akufanele uthethe kwintlanganiso, phikisa zonke izizathu zokuba ufanele. Okanye, ukuba uyaqiniseka ukuba abantu abazizityebi babi, zichaze izizathu zokuba kutheni abantu abacebileyo banokuba nobubele okanye bancede.
Ukuqwalasela okuchaseneyo kuya kunceda ukuphazamisa iinkolelo ezingenakunceda ukuze ukhangele iimeko nakwezinye izigqibo uze wenze isigqibo sokwenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
8 - Bhala Iimvakalelo Zakho
Abantu bahlala benomdla wokuthetha izinto ezinje, "Ndineendwangu zam esiswini," okanye "Ndineentonga emqaleni," kunokuba ndisebenzise amazwi, njengento edabukisayo okanye ephazamisayo, ukuchaza isimo sabo sengqondo. Abantu abaninzi abadala abanakukhululekile ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zabo. Kodwa, ukubhala iimvakalelo zakho kunokubangela ukwenza izigqibo ezingcono.
Iimvakalelo zakho zidlala indima enkulu kwizinto ozikhethayo. Izifundo zihlala zibonisa ukukhathazeka kwenza abantu badlale ngokukhuselekileyo. Kwaye ukuxhalabisa kuchitheka ukusuka kwindawo enye yomntu komnye umntu. Ngoko ukuba unomdla malunga nesicelo sokubolekisa imali osifake sona, ungase ube nomngcipheko wokubuza umntu ngomhla kuba uya kucinga ukuba kuveleleka kakhulu.
Inomdla, ngakolunye uhlangothi, inokukwenza ukuba uphucule amathuba akho okuphumelela. Nangona kukho ubuncwane obuncinane obuya kuphumelela, unokuba uzimisele ukubeka ingozi enkulu ukuba unomdla malunga neenzuzo ezikhoyo (oku kudla ngokuba yinto yokugembula).
Yenza umkhuba wemihla ngemihla ukubhala iimvakalelo zakho. Qaphela ukuba uziva uhlungu, unomsindo, uhlazekile, uxhalabile okanye udidekile. Emva koko, thabatha umzuzu ukuba uqwalasele ukuba loo mvakalelo inokuchaphazela njani izigqibo zakho.
9 - Xoxa Wena Njengomhlobo othembekileyo
Xa ubhekene nokukhetha okunzima, zibuze, "Ndingathini kumhlobo onalo le ngxaki?" Uza kufumana impendulo ifike kuwe ngokukhawuleza xa uzicingela uhambisa ubulumko kwabanye.
Ukuthetha nawe njengomhlobo othembekileyo uthatha enye imvakalelo kwi-equation. Kuya kukunceda ufumane umgama ukusuka kwisigqibo kwaye uza kukunika ithuba lokuba nenjongo encinane.
Kuya kukunceda ukuba ube nomnene omncinci kuwe. Ngelixa usenokwenzeka ukuba uthetha izinto ezimbi ngathi, "Oku akuze kusebenze. Awukwazi ukwenza nantoni na, "kunethuba elihle ukuba awuyi kuthetha loo nto kumhlobo wakho. Mhlawumbi ungathetha into enje, "Unayo le nto. Ndiyazi ukuba unokukwenza, "ukuba uthetha nomhlobo.
Ukuphuhlisa incoko yentetho engaphakathi ithatha isenzo. Kodwa xa uzenza imfesane yinto yokuziphatha imihla ngemihla, izakhono zakho zokwenza izigqibo ziya kuphucula.
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