Ukuba ufuna ukuba iziphakamiso zakho zivelele kwisihlwele, qwa lasela ngeendlela ezizodwa. Izincoma ezithunyelwa kwiindlela ezingavamile ziya kukhunjulwa, kwaye zibonise ukukwazi kwakho ukucinga ngendalo. Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba uhlala neengxaki zentlalo yoluntu (SAD), njengoko izakhono zakho zentlalo zingasweleka.
1. Khetha amagama ayingqayizivele
Abantu bathambekele ekugqithiseni amanqaku afanayo xa bebonga.
Vumela umyalezo wakho ukuba uphume ngokukhetha amagama ayingqalileyo ongaziva ngayo yonke imihla. Imizekelo ingabandakanya ukuba umyeni wakho ukhangeleka "dapper" okanye intombi yakho "ngumdlali ongubala". Qiniseka ukuba amagama akho anyanisekileyo: ngaphandle koko ukunyaniseka kwakho kungafikelela ngaphaya kwe-phezulu kwaye kungenjalo.
2. Sebenzisa amagama avela kwiilwimi ezahlukeneyo
Yintoni enokuba mnandi kunokuba ufunde amagama ambalwa ngolwimi olutsha ukuze ukwazi ukuyisebenzisa ukuze uncome? Iziganeko ezivela kwezinye iilwimi zinceda kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, "i-guapo" ithetha kakuhle kwiSpeyin. Ukuba umntu othetha naye unolwimi lwasekuqaleni ngaphandle kwesiNgesi, ukhetha ukunconywa kulwimi kuya kukunqoba amanqaku amaninzi, kokubili ukuqala kunye nokucinga. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba ulwimi lwangaphandle lubukeka lunzima, kuthini ukuzama isandla sakho ngolwimi lwezandla? Fumana isifundo sevidiyo kwi-Youtube, uze wabelane ngezinto ozifundileyo kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho ukuze baqonde into oyayinayo.
3. Yenza ngokusemthethweni iziphakamiso zakho
Ukulungiswa komntu ngamnye, usebenzisa amahlaya angaphakathi ngaphakathi kuphela oya kuqonda. Ngokomzekelo, xa ufunde ezo zintetho zolwimi lwezandla, zisebenzise ukunika iingconyiso kumalungu entsapho abaya kuqonda kuphela. Baya kuziva bazikhethele ukuba iincoma zenzelwe zona.
4. Yenza uqhathaniso lweMdumo
Ukuba unomdlakazi ozithandayo, cinga ukuxelela enye into ebalulekileyo ukuba uyamkhangisa kangakanani kunokuba lowo mntu. Ngokomzekelo, xelela umyeni wakho ukuba "ukhangele kangcono kunokuba uTro Cruise" okanye "umsila ngaphezu kukaAdam Sandler." Kule meko, kulungile ukutyala inyaniso-isoka lakho liza kuqonda ukuba ziyazi iimpawu kuye ezifunayo.
5. Nika iNkcazo ebhalwe phantsi
Akuyena wonke umntu oziva ekhululekile ukwabelana ngokuncoma kumntu-ingakumbi abo baxhatshazwa ngabantu. Ungaziveki ukuba awukwazi ukwabelana ngokuncoma kwakho xa unesifo. Kunoko, thatha ixesha lokuthumela inqaku elibhalwe ngesandla (ngexesha elifanelekileyo) kumntu onqwenela ukumncoma. Bhala inqaku kumama wakho umxelele ukuba unandivuyela kangakanani ukutyelela kwakho kokugqibela. Thumela i-imeyili kumntu osebenza naye udumisa umsebenzi owenziwe kakuhle eofisini. Thumela ikhadi elibulela umntu owanike isipho. Izibongozo ezinikwa ngokubhaliweyo zinempembelelo eninzi-kwaye kaninzi.
6. Ukuncoma ngokusebenzisa amehlo akho
Ukubukela ixesha elide kukuyincwadana efihliweyo. Ezi ntlobo zamehlo zisebenza kakuhle xa uphume ngosuku. Ngokwenene, uxoxisana nombono wokuthi awukwazi ukuthatha amehlo akho komnye umntu.
Qinisekisa kuphela ukusebenzisa uhlobo lokubonga lokubonga xa kufanelekile, njengokuba ukhona nomntu owaziyo naye ukhangela kuwe.
7. Ukuncoma ngeTekisi
Ngaba unokuyincoma ngombhalo? Ewe kunjalo. Zigcine zifutshane, kwaye ugweme ukusetyenziswa kweetekisi ukuthetha. Qaphela ukuba akusiwo wonke umntu ohlola iifowuni rhoqo, ngoko ungazivumi ukuba awufumani impendulo ngokukhawuleza. Khumbula umyalelo wegolide wokuncoma-awanikiweyo ukufumana nantoni na ngokubuyisela, ukukwenza umntu oncomeke.
8. Ukuncoma okulungiselelwe
Ngaba ufumana imbalela yokuncoma ekhaya lakho? Yenza kube lula kuwo wonke umntu ngokubonga ngokulungelelanisa abantu ukuba babambe kwaye babelane.
Yakha iphepha elikhutshweyo lokulila kunye neenkomfa onokubelana ngazo. Okanye, yakha intlanzi yokubonga, ngeengcamango ezinjengokuthi "Uyamangalisa," "Uyakhuthaza," okanye "Uyamangalisa." Yenza ngokwezifiso intsapho yakho kwaye uya kuba nexesha lokuzonwabisa ngokubelana ngeenkomfa ozicwangcisile kunye.
9. IThekhnoloji yokuNcoma
Kukho neenjongo zokunika iingcomo! Insiza ethi "Kindr" ikuvumela ukuba wabelane ngokuncoma nabanye abasebenzisi be-app. Okanye, ungazama ukwabelana ngokuncoma kwiiwebhsayithi zorhwebo. Ukuba uthumela uncomelo eludongeni lomhlobo we-Facebook, bonke abahlobo bakhe bayakukubona, banike ubunzima obuninzi.
Cela umntu ekuncedeni njengoMncoma
Enye yeendlela ezilula kunye neempembelelo zokunikezela ukuncoma kukucela umntu ukuba akuncede wenze into. Ngokwenene, uxelela lo mntu ukuba uyaluxabisa izakhono kunye nobuchule bakhe, ngaphandle kokubaxelela ngqo. Buza uluvo, uncedo ngeteknoloji, okanye iingcebiso malunga neemeko eziphazamisayo. Omnye umntu uya kujongeka ukuba ucinga ukumbuza.
ILizwi
Ukuba uhlala neengxaki zentlalo, unokufumana kunzima ukunikela imibongo. Qala encinci ngokunika ukuncoma okulula kumntu owaziyo kakuhle. Sebenzela indlela enyukayo esuka kuyo ukuya kwiindidi ezinzima zokuncoma. Ngexesha elide, uya kufumana ukuba isenzo sokunika ukuncoma sikhula lula kwaye sinendalo.
Imithombo:
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