Iintetho ezincinci zentetho ziyimvelaphi engcono yintetho phakathi kwabantu abangazi kakuhle. Ukuba uhlala neengxaki zentlalo yoluntu (SAD) , ukwenza intetho encinci kunokuxhalabisa. Ukufunda ukwenza intetho encinci kunokunceda ukwakha ukuzithemba kwakho ukuze uqale ukuthetha, udibane kunye nokuphuhlisa izakhono zentlalo.
Enye indlela efanelekileyo yokunciphisa uxhalaba kukulungiselela iintlobo zezihloko eziza kuvela. Ukwenza intetho encinci akubandakanyi nje kuphela ukwazi oko kukuthethayo, kodwa nokuba yintoni efanelekileyo yokugcinwa ngasese. Ngexesha elifanayo, kubalulekile ukunqoba isifiso sakho sokuziphepha ngokupheleleyo. Esikhundleni sokwesaba intetho encinci, yenza ingongoma yokulwa noyiko lwakho.
1 - Eyona ndawo: Imozulu
Nangona ukuthetha ngesimo sezulu kunokubonakala kungabonakali, kuyinto efanelekileyo engathathi hlangothi nayo wonke umntu anokuxoxa ngayo. Ngaba isiqhwithi esikhulu sagubha? Ngaba ungaphakathi kwintlanga? Khangela akukho ngaphaya komnyango wakho kwintetho evulekileyo yokuvula ingxoxo.
Ngezantsi zikhona ezinye iingcamango zengxoxo zokuqala ongazisebenzisa:
- Usuku oluhle, awucingi na? "
- "Kubonakala ngathi imvula ibonakalayo."
- "Ngaba wayalawule le mozulu ehle?"
Ziqhelanisa ukwenza intetho encinci ngemozulu ngokucela omnye kumbuzo ngeli xesha elizayo xa ufumana ngaphakathi phakathi kokuthula.
2 - Eyona ndawo: EzobuGcisa noLonwabo
Izihloko zobuGcisa kunye nezokuzonwabisa eziqalile ukuqala incoko ziquka
- amafilimu kunye nemiboniso yeTV
- zokutyela ezidumile
- umculo odlawayo
- iincwadi
Ukulungiselela ezi zihloko, ukuxubha kwizinto ezithandwayo kwaye uhlale uphakathi kokufunda incwadi enhle. Zama ukubuza umntu, "Ngaba ubonile na iifilimu ezilungileyo kungekudala?" Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ucele abantu aba-10 ngaphambi kokufumana umntu onomdla ekuthetha nawe-kulungile. Yilungele ukukhishwa, okanye uyifunde. Yonke isenza nje, emva koko konke.
3 - Eyona ndawo: Ezemidlalo
Izihloko zemidlalo onokuxoxa ngazo nabanye ziquka
- maqela ozithandayo
- imicimbi yezemidlalo
- iikhenketho
- imidlalo
Qaphela ukuba yeyiphi i midlalo edlalwa ngexesha lonyaka, njengebhola lebhola, ibhola lebhoksi, ihockey kunye negalufa, ngoko ukuba ungaphezulu kwezenzo zangoku. Umzekelo, xa iiOlimpiki zenzeka, wonke umntu uyaqiniseka ukuba uyazibuza. Ukuba awuyithandi imidlalo, thetha ngesizathu sokuba ungazithandi.
Buza umntu, "Ngaba ufumene umdlalo wegalufu ngeveki?" Nangona le nto inokuziva ikhululekile kumaxesha ambalwa owenzayo, ekugqibeleni, kuya kuziva ukuba yendalo ngokwakho.
4 - Eyona ndawo: Iindaba
Indlela enkulu yokulungiselela intetho encinci ukufunda iindaba zonke iintsuku. Qaphela ukuba kwenzekani kwihlabathi nakwiidolophu. Nangona iphephandaba lamaphephandaba liphuma ngesitayela, iindaba zedijithali ngokuchanekileyo ukusuka kwimithombo yeendaba okanye ezondliwa ngamajelo asekuhlaleni ziye zaba ziindlela ezidumileyo zokugcina ezikhoyo.
Ngezantsi ezinye iingcamango zeengxoxo ezivulekileyo:
- Ngaba uvile ngeehotele elitsha abayakhayo edolophini?
- Ucinga ntoni ngootitshala abaya kwisiteleka?
- Ndiyifunde ukuba baya kuphakama ukuhamba kweendleko, ngaba uvile oko?
Khumbula ukuba intetho encinci malunga nokwakha ibhuloho phakathi kwakho nomnye umntu. Akunandaba nokuba uthetha ntoni, kodwa kunokuba uqale ukuthetha.
5 - Eyona ndlela: Iintsapho
Abantu banokukubuza malunga nosapho lwakho. Ingxoxo evulekileyo malunga nosapho ingaquka oku kulandelayo:
- "Ngaba unabo abazalwana okanye odade?"
- "Utshatile ixesha elingakanani?"
- "Ngaba unabantwana?"
Yilungiselele le miba yemibuzo uze uphinde ucele abanye ngeentsapho zabo. Ukubandakanya lolu hlobo lweentetho ezincinci kubonisa izakhono zakho zokunxibelelana, kwaye kukunceda ufunde okuninzi ngomntu ngexesha elifutshane.
6 - Eyona ndawo: Umsebenzi
Esinye isihloko esicatshulweyo sesicatshulwa ngumsebenzi. Unokucelwa ukuba wenze ntoni na nokuba uthanda umsebenzi wakho. Ukuba wenza into engaqhelekanga enzima ukuyichaza, cinga ukugcina amakhadi omashishini kwisikhwama sakho. Oku kusebenza ngokukodwa ukuba inkampani yakho okanye umsebenzi unayo iwebhusayithi ebenokuvakatyelelwa ngabantu.
Ezinye iingcamango zentetho encinane enxulumene nomsebenzi ziquka ezi zilandelayo:
- "Ude usebenze ixesha elingakanani (faka isihloko somsebenzi)?"
- "Uthanda umsebenzi wakho?"
- "Lo ngumgca womsebenzi othakazelisayo, ungene njani kuwo?"
Njalo gxininisa kwizinto othanda ukuzenza ngabanye kunye nezinto ozonandiphayo ukuthetha ngazo. Oku kuya kwenza inkqubo yeentetho ezincinci zive ngathi zizonwabe ngaphezu komsebenzi.
7 - Eyona ndawo: Ukuhamba
Abantu bathanda ukuva malunga neeholide. Ukuba uhamba, lungele uphendule imibuzo uze unike izimvo zakho malunga neendawo ozivakatye kuyo. Beka ndawonye i-albhamu yokuba ungabonisa abantu abavelela ikhaya lakho.
Buza abanye ngeendawo ezihambayo zokuhamba kunye nezinto abacebisa ngazo. Ininzi abantu banqwenela ukunceda kwaye baya kuvuyela ukwabelana ngamava abo.
Njengengongoma eyongezelelweyo, ukuba uzama ukungena kwingxoxo yeqela, qho qhelanisa ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo, ukumomotheka, kwaye uzenzele kuqala. Emva koko mamela kwaye ukhumbule amagama abanye abantu kwiqela.
Ungakhumbula njani amagama abantu? Gxininisa, phinda igama, cinga ngomntu owaziyo ngelo gama, sebenzisa igama kwincoko, kwaye ushiye kwakhona xa ushiya intetho.
8 - Eyona ndawo: I-Gossip
Akuyimfuneko ukulandela inkohlakalo yokudumisa ukuba wenze intetho encinci. Nangona kunjalo, kuluvo oluhle ukukwazi okufutshane malunga nabanye abadumileyo ekugqibeleni ukuba isihloko sivela.
Londoloza olu hlobo lwencoko encinci kwimibutho engaqhelekanga okanye amaqela angaqhelekanga. Ngaphandle kokuba wonke umntu kwinkomfa yakho yomsebenzi exoxa ngodumo, kulungile ukukhokela ngenye into.
9 - Eyona ndawo: Ukuzilibazisa
Abantu bathanda ukuthetha ngezinto zabo zokuzonwabisa kunye nokuba banomdla kwiwe. Ukuba awunanto yokuzonwabisa, cinga ukuzama into entsha. Akunakukuphela nje into enokuthetha ngayo, kodwa ukuzonwabisa kunokunika ithuba lokuhlangabezana nabanye abanomdla ofanayo.
Qiniseka ukuba ubuze imibuzo yokulandelelana njengoko uphulaphule ngezinto zokuzilibazisa zomntu. Mamela phakathi kwemigca. Ukuba umntu uthi, "Kwakuyixesha lokugqibela ndidlula," kubuza isizathu!
10 - Eyona ndawo: Indawo yasekhaya
Unokubuza malunga nekhaya lakho. Umzekelo:
- "Uphi na owakhula khona uvela kwindawo ohlala kuyo ngoku?"
- "Kutheni uhambe?"
Buza abanye ngeendawo zabo zokuhlala. Awukwazi ukuba ngubani onokuvela kwindawo efanayo nawe kunye nendlela onokuqalisa ngayo ukuqhagamshelana. Lindela ukuba abanye bakubuze malunga nawe ngokwakho, kwaye ube ne-anecdote enomdla okanye ibali lifunde ukuxelela.
11 - Okubi kakhulu: ezeMali
Ukubuza imibuzo yezemali yabantu abantu oye wahlangana nabo ayifanelekanga. Kuhle ukubuza into eyenziwa ngumntu okanye yintoni imiba emihle yolu msebenzi, kodwa ungabuzi imibuzo malunga nomvuzo. Uninzi lwabantu luya kufumana lo mbuzo uphephe kwaye awufanelekanga.
12 - Okubi kakhulu: Izopolitiko
Ingxaki ngokuthetha ngezopolitiko kukuba awukwazi ukuba ngubani phakathi kwesihlwele unokuba nemibono enamandla. Hlala kude kwesi sihloko ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukubeka umngcipheko ekupheleni kweengxoxo.
13 - Okubi kakhulu: Inkolo
Inkolo yinye isihloko esibucayi kakhulu kwaye esinokuthi sinokuzikhusela.
14 - Okubi kakhulu: Ukwabelana ngesondo
Ukuthetha ngesondo okanye ukubuza imibuzo malunga nesimo esithandanayo akufanelekanga ngexesha lentetho encinci. Xa uthetha nabantu abangaziwayo, thintela ukuthetha ngokucacileyo malunga nesondo okanye ukwenza izivakalisi zesondo. Bobabini banokwenza abanye bangakhululeki.
15 - Okubi kakhulu: Ukufa
Ukufa esinye isihloko esinzima esifanele siphephe ngexesha lentetho encinci. Xa uhlala kwiinkampani zabantu abangaziwayo, musa ukuvelisa izihloko zemizwelo enokukwazi ukuphazamiseka.
16 - Okubi kakhulu: Ubudala / Ukubonakala
Ngaphandle kokuba wazi umntu kakuhle, gwema izihloko ezinxulumene nobudala nokubonakala.
Musa ukubuza ubudala bomntu. Nangona umbuzo ungase ubonakale ulula kuwe, unokuba ngumxholo oshushu kwabanye.
Ukongeza, thintela imibuzo enxulumene nokubonakala. Musa ukucela umfazi ukuba ukhulelwe, okanye uluvo lokuba umntu ulahlekelwe isisindo. Awukwazi isizathu sokufumana ubunzima okanye ukulahleka, kwaye unokushiywa kwisimo esingenakukhathazeka.
17 - Okubi kunazo zonke: Ingxowa yomntu
Nangona iindawo ezidumileyo zidlala umdlalo othethekileyo ngexesha lentetho encinci, ukuhleka ngabantu ngabantu owaziyo ngabanye. Ukuhleka ngezinye izinto kungekhona nje kukupaka ngokukhanya okubi, kodwa awukwazi ukuba ngubani onokukwazi. Gwema abanye ababi.
18 - Okubi kakhulu: iiJokes ezihlaselayo
Gcina amahlaya akho avumileyo kubahlobo bakho abalungileyo (okanye ungcono, kodwa ubeke endaweni yazo ngamahlaya angenayo ixesha kunye nemimiselo yendawo). Ngokukodwa, ukwenza amahlaya ngokobulili okanye amahlaya ehlaselayo kukukhubekisa kwaye indlela esheshayo yokuphelisa intetho nabantu abangabazi .
19 - Okubi kakhulu: Izihloko eziluhlu
Gwema ukuthetha ngokude malunga nezihloko ezisezantsi. Ukuba akukho mntu ubonayo i-movie, ungayi kwi nkcukacha malunga neqhinga okanye izinto ezihlekisayo. Jonga ngempawu yokuba abanye baye balahlekelwa ngumdla kwaye bafumana ukuphela ngokukhawuleza kwibali lakho.
20 - Okubi kakhulu: Ubudlelwane obudlulileyo
Gwema ukuthetha ngobudlelwane obudlulileyo ngosuku lokuqala . Ukwenza ukuthelekisa okanye ukuthetha ngokungapheliyo ngothando oludlulileyo luyi-turnoff kwaye indlela esheshayo yokuqinisekisa ukuba awufumani umhla wesibini.
ILizwi
Iintetho ezintle kakhulu ezincoko zentetho ngabo bonke abantu abanokuzichazela kwaye abanakho ukukhubekisa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iintetho ezincinci kakhulu ezincokolayo, zidala ukungahambi kakuhle, kwaye zikhawuleze ziphelise iingxoxo. Funda umehluko phakathi kwezi zibini, kwaye uya kufumana kulula ukuthetha nabantu abangaziwayo-ngaphandle kokuziva unxinekile.
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