Indlela yokujongana nentsingiselo yonke into engacingi
Ukucinga konke-akukho nto, ngamanye amaxesha okubhekiswa njengokucinga okumnyama-kunye-mhlophe okanye ukucinga okucatshulwayo , iyona mpazamo eyaziwayo ngokugqithiseleyo ndiyazibona kwizigulane ezine- bulimia nervosa kunye nokutya okuxilisayo . Xa Uvakalelwa Kulungile: Ulwaphulo olutsha lwe-Mood (1980), uDavid Burns uchaza iintlobo ezilishumi zokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, okanye iindlela ezingahambiyo neengxaki zokuzijonga kunye nehlabathi.
Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kungakhokelela kwimvakalelo engalunganga kunye nokuziphatha okuyingxaki. Ziyintloko ekujoliswe kuyo yonyango -yokuziphatha.
Eminye yemizekelo eqhelekileyo yezinto zonke okanye akukho nto ezicinga kwizigulane ezineengxaki zokutya zidala i-dichotomy eqinile yokutya kunye nokutya okubi kwaye ichaza ukuziphatha kokutya njengokulungileyo okanye okubi. Makhe sibone indlela ezi zingabangela ngayo iingxaki, ezifana nokutya okudliwayo , kwisifo sokugula kwesifo.
UJane: Ukutya okulungileyo ngokutya okubi
UJane unombandela wokutya othi akayidli i-candy kuba "ukutya okubi." UJane ufumana ukumangalelwa kweSuku sikaValentine: yebhokisi yee-chocolates. UJane ukholelwa ukuba i-tsholeta ayinqatshelwe, kodwa uyagqiba kwelo xesha kanye , ukuba ayenze.
Unentshokolethi enye, ibe enye. Yenza into enxenxisayo kuba "ayivunyelwe" ukuba idle i-tsholeta. Emva kweeqhekeza ezimbini, uJane uvakalelwa ngumsindo. Uyazi ukuba uphule umthetho wakhe wokutya - "ulungile." Emva koko uJane ucinga ukuba, "Hayi kakuhle, sele ndiyidumbile, mhlawumbi ndinokuyeka kwaye nditya enye." Unokucinga ukuba, " Kungcono ukuqedela ibhokisi ngenxa yokuba abayi kuba apha ukuba bangilinge kusasa.
Ndiza kubuya ngokulungileyo ngomso. "
Isandi esiqhelekileyo?
UJim: ukuziphatha kakuhle nokuziphatha okubi
UJim uhlala ephuma e-burger kunye nabahlobo bakhe emsebenzini. Xa eyenzayo, ufumana isaladi eluhlaza (xa esondla kwaye "ulungile"), okanye une-cheeseburger kabini, i-fries, kunye nokuxubha (xa engadliyo).
Uyabona ukuba xa esondla kwaye ephethe isaladi eluhlaza nje kuphela xa bonke abahlobo bakhe besidla i-burgers, uya kugcina eziva edabukile kwaye eswelekile kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uya ekhaya aze adle i-ice cream. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngamaxesha atya i-cheeseburger kabini, i-fries, kunye nokugubha, uyagula aze azihlasele ngenxa yokutya okungahambi kakuhle. Ngandlela-thile, imigaqo yakhe imshiya evakalelwa kukuba ayiyonto.
Ukufunda ukuhlala kwi-gray
Ukubuyiselwa kwisifo sokutya kukubandakanya ukufunda ukucinga nokuhlala kwimithunzi yegrey. Ukuhlala kwindawo ebomvu kuthetha ukuvuma ukuba zonke ukutya ekumodareyitha zingaba yinxalenye yokutya okunokulinganisela kunye okunempilo. Kuthetha ukutya ngendlela eguquguqukayo ngokwaneleyo yokuzinzileyo. Kuthetha ukuvuma ukungenakwenzeka.
Yintoni eyofana noJane noJim?
UJane angasebenzela ukuphumla umgaqo wakhe onzima ngecolethi "kubabi" kwaye usebenza kuzo zonke ukutya kungathathi hlangothi. Xa zonke ukutya zivunyelwe, kulula ukuyeka emva kwesahlulo esiqhelekileyo kwaye akayi kujongana noxinzelelo lokuphula umthetho. Unokufunda ukuba neengcelele ezimbalwa kunye nokuzonwabisa.
UJim unokufunda ukuba akadingeki ukuba atshabalalise phakathi kokunciphisa okanye ukugqithisa xa esetya kunye nabahlobo bakhe. Ukuba ufuna ukufumana i-cheeseburger, unokufumana enye i-cheeseburger ene-salad yecala.
Ngale ndlela akayi kuziva ephucukileyo kodwa uya kukwazi ukunandipha ukutya okunokulinganisela. Ekugqibeleni uya kukhululeka ekuhlazweni ngokutya.
Ukujongana neengcamango ezingasebenziyo ezifana nento-okanye akukho nto yokucinga yinto eyodwa yonyango-yokuziphatha, inkokeli ekhokelela ekunyanzeleni izidlo zokutya. Abaqeqeshiweyo bokutya izifo zengxaki banokuncedisa abathengi ukuba baqikelele ukucinga ngokulinganisela kunye nokuziphatha okunempilo kokuziphatha.
Imbekiselo
Ukushisa, UDavid, ngo-1980, Ukuva Okulungileyo: Ulwaphulo olutsha lweMaod .