Emva kokuba abantwana belele embhedeni uhamba phantsi kweqabane lakho kwaye ubuze, "Wathini na usuku lwakho?" Baphendula bathi, "Bulungile." Baya kuhamba iinkcukacha okanye bangenako. Ungakhohlwa ukuba wade wabuza umbuzo ngelixa uhlawula.
Lo mntu owenza ubomi kunye naye ubaluleke kakhulu. Uyakwazi oko. Kodwa emva kosuku olude lomsebenzi, ukuhlamba abantwana kunye nasekubhedeni, kunye nokucoca indlu encinci, inxele lakho lingenamandla okuxhuma kunye neqabane lakho. Kuyafana nabo, nabo. Nithandana, kodwa usebenza nabazali. Uphelile.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngamanqanaba akho wamandla, kufuneka omnye nomnye. Uhlala kulobu bomi kunye uze ufe. Ngoko ukukunceda ukuqinisa ukukhonkxa kwakho apha iindlela ezithandathu onokuzidibanisa kunye neqabane lakho kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhathele kangakanani ukusuka kumsebenzi wakho wesine.
1 - Buza Imibuzo Evulekileyo Ukukhubaza Ingxoxo
Umbuzo ophelileyo uza kubangela impendulo yegama elilodwa njenge "Ulungile" okanye "Ucocekileyo". Sinokuyisebenzisa njengolufudumeleyo kwingxoxo enzulu engathanda ukuyiqala kodwa, yeqa. Yilungele ngqo kwaye ungaphuli ixesha lakho namandla.
Okokuqala, qwa lasela iqabane lakho, ingakumbi ukuba sele likhutshwe ngekhompyutha. Zijonge emehlweni, zithi hi, uze usebenzise ulwimi loluthando. Yiya kubanga! Hayi, ngoku sithetha! Uqhagamshelwano lwenziwe.
Ngoku, zibophe kwingxoxo kwaye ubuze umbuzo othi, "Yintoni eyona nto iyona nto ingcono kakhulu kumhla wakho?" Ukuze baxoxe ngento evuyayo endaweni yento ebenxibe ngayo . Omnye umbuzo onokuthi ungathini "Ukubambisana kwakho kubaluleke kakhulu namhlanje?" Ukuze ufunde abo badibene nabo kunye noko kwakunjani.
Emva koko, inxalenye ebalulekileyo, phulaphula ngentliziyo yakho yonke. Melana nomnqweno wokuthabatha ifowuni yakho uze uyithulule iTV ukuba kufuneka. Shiya ukukhanya kubo ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka ukuwahambisa.
2 - Sebenzisa uLwimi loLuthando
Amagama akuphela kwendlela yokudibanisa nomlingane wakho emva komhla omude. Ukuba awunalo amandla okwenzela uthando kukho ezinye iindlela. Unokubamba ixesha elide xa uqala ukubonana. Xa uziva uthanda ukuhamba, thintela eminye imizuzwana embalwa uze uzive uxhamlwano phakathi kweentliziyo zakho. Uziva ulungile, akunjalo? Okanye unike umlingane wakho wamanga ubusuku bonke xa bengalindelanga! Awubonisanga ngeeyure ezisibhozo. Ba bonise uthando!
Ukuba lo mboniso woluntu luyabakhathaza abantwana baqhagamshelana ngendlela eqondayo. Unokubamba izandla ngelixa ukhangele iTV okanye uhamba ngesandla ngesandla uthabatha abantwana ukuhamba. Ukuba iqabane lakho lenza izitya (yippee!), Yenyuka emva kwazo uze uzibeke iingalo zakho. Oku kunokuba kukuhlekisayo, kodwa leyo yinxalenye yomdlalo wothando, akunjalo? Enye imbono ngexesha elithile kwiipilisi zakho okanye ii-laptops, uthinte iinyawo okanye imilenze ngeenyawo.
3 - Qinisekisa NgeeNtsuku Ezintle Zokudala
Ukuba awunomuzwa wokuthi uphumele intetho yakho yosuku malunga nenkumbulo ethile yamnandi okanye yothando owabelwana ngayo. Umzekelo, unokubuza, "Uyakhumbula na ixesha eHawaii xa sasiziva sagula ngethuba lokuqala lokuhamba ngeenqwelo-moya?" Bese ujabulele uhambo oluya kwi-memory lane.
Ukukhunjulwa kukuthintela uxinzelelo lokugaya kwansuku zonke . Ikubuyisela kwixesha elonwabileyo kwaye ngaloo ndlela ikunika amandla amakhulu xa ufuna kakhulu, ekupheleni kosuku lwakho. Uya kuziva unombulelo ukwazi ukuba naloo mava kunye neqabane lakho. Ixesha lakho elidlulileyo likuncede ukuzisa kokubili apho ukhona namhlanje.
4 - Yiya kwiBhedlele yokuqala - kunye kunye
Phinda uqhawule ngosuku olushushu ngokulala embhedeni kwaye ngexesha elifanayo. Ngoko lungela usuku olulandelayo kunye kunye nokwenza ikhofi, ukukhupha isidlo sakusasa okanye ukupakisha isidlo sasemini ndawonye. Emva koko uqhubise amazinyo uze uhlasele. Uyazi, vele uhlale ucebile! Emva koko gxuma ngaphantsi kweembobo kunye ne-snuggle.
Ixesha le-Snuggle lenza uzive ukhuselekile nothando. Ekupheleni kosuku yonke into oyifunayo ngumlingane wakho, kunene? Akukho magama adinga, nje ukufudumala nokukhululeka ukulungiselela ubuthongo obuhle bobusuku.
5 - Bomama Ngamanye amaninzi
Masithi uye ekhaya uvakalekile. Nangona lakho iqabane lingenalo nantoni na ukuba sithatha ukukhupha iingxaki zethu kulabo esibakhathalelayo kakhulu. Ngalo mbono engqondweni, ukuba ufuna ukugqithisa le mimoya embi uze ukwazi ukudibanisa neqabane lakho ngendlela enhle, bamomotheka.
Isazi sengqondo kunye nobungcali besikhombiso sombuso, uPaul Ekman, wafumanisa ukuba xa uthetha ngomlomo wakho kunye namehlo, nokuba oko kukukhohlisa, kuya kukubeka kwimeko engcono . Kwakhona, ekubeni sithandwa ukuba sibe noluntu xa iqabane lakho likubona uncumo, abakwazi ukumelana nokumomotheka. Beka oku kwi-toolkit yakho xa ufuna ukufumana iqabane lakho ngaphandle kwemoya yabo embi!
6 - Qalisa uluhlu lweBucket ndawonye
Ufuna ukuthini ngaphambi kokuba ufe? Umlingani wakho wenzani ngaphambi kokuba afe? Emva kokuba abantwana belele baqalise uluhlu lwamabhakethi. Zingaphi izinto ezifanayo ofuna ukuzenza?
Le ngxoxo idibanisa ngokuphupha ngamathuba. Ezi zinto akumele zenziwe kule veki. Ziziphi iinjongo othanda ukuzifezekisa ngexesha lokuphila kwakho. Lo mbono uthatha uxinzelelo ukukhangela uluhlu kwaye endaweni yoko uphupha kunye. Ukwenza izicwangciso ngandlela-ndlela kunokukunandipha bobabini kwaye kukunike olunye uhla lwamandla ekupheleni kosuku olude.