Indlela esinokuvakalelwa ngayo nangokwempilo
Usenokuba uyazi ukuba ubudlelwane buhle kwimpilo yakho, ixesha elide kunye nokuphila kwexesha. Ngokubanzi, loo nto inyaniso, ngaphandle kokuba ubuhlobo bubi. Nabani oye waqhawula umtshato onzima, ojongene nabazali abanzima okanye abantwana, okanye unomhlobo "oswele" uya kukuxelela ukuba akukho bonke ubudlelwane obuhle kwimpilo yakho. Sonke sinomntu oyedwa ebomini bethu obomsebenzi kuphela obonakala ubangela uxinzelelo kunye neengxaki.
Oku kufuneka kube nefuthe elithile kwintlalo yethu, akunjalo?
Yintoni Uphando Esixelela Ngayo
Abaphandi bakwazi ukulinganisa umgangatho wobudlelwane ekufundeni amadoda namabhinqa angama-9 000 kwi-Civil Service yaseBrithani. Abathathi-nxaxheba bahlolisiswe ngobudlelwane babo kunye nemibandela eyahlukileyo ekhoyo kubundlelwane babo obusondeleyo. Abathathi-nxaxheba bekwajongwa ngokukhawuleza kwiingxaki zempilo.
Abo babika ukuba baneengxaki ezingaphezulu kwezobudlelwane babo obusondeleyo babe nokwanda kweepesenti ezingama-34 engozini yokuphuhlisa iingxaki zentliziyo, nangona emva kokulinganisa, ukuxhaswa kwezentlalo, kunye nezinye izinto. Iipesenti ezingama-34: Linyuka kakhulu.
Olunye uphando nge-Institute of University of Portland State malunga nokuguga okuhloliswe ngabantu abadala abangama-650 ngaphezu kweminyaka engama-2 kwaye bafumanisa ukuba ukuxabana okude nabanye abantu kwakunxulumene kakhulu nempilo engaphantsi kunye nemicimbi enempilo.
Nawuphi na uhlobo loxinzelelo, nokuba lubangelwa ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nomntu onobuqili okanye umsebenzi onzima, unempembelelo ephawulekayo ekusebenzeni kwe-immune system.
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Ukuxinzelela iimvakalelo zakho ziphilileyo, ngakumbi xa loo mvakalelo inomsindo okanye intukuthelo.
Olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba izibini zithandana nokufa komncinci xa omnye umlingane ecindezela umsindo; Ulwalamano apho bobabini abalingani banqanda umsindo wabo banokuhlala ixesha elide kunabo bonke.
Kwezinye izidlelwane, umntu omnye akanakho ukungahlali ngokupheleleyo, ngelixa omnye umntu engazi ngokupheleleyo umba. Ukungquzulana kukungenakunqandwa, kodwa ukusombulula ngokufanelekileyo kunokulungisa ubuhlobo.
Indlela yokuphatha ubudlelwane obubi
Ukusebenzisana nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho yinto entle. Yandisa ixesha lokuphila kwakho kwaye likhusela ingqondo yakho, ngaphezu kweeninzi ezininzi. Kodwa ukusebenzisana nabanye abahlobo bakho abathandekayo kunye namalungu entsapho - uyazi ukuba ndithetha ngani- ngokwenene angenza ube nempilo encinci.
Yenza okusemandleni akho ukwandisa ixesha elichithwe kunye nabahlobo kunye nentsapho othanda ukuhlala kuyo, kunye nokunciphisa ukusebenzisana kwakho nalabo abangabonakaliyo. Unokwenza oku nje ngokuphepha abantu abathintela ukungabi nantoni ebomini bakho. Ngelishwa, aba bantu abanakuze baphephe, ngokukodwa ukuba bentsapho. Ngaloo ndlela, sebenzisa iindlela zokuphucula ukuyeka uxinzelelo emva kokudibana naba bantu kwaye ufunde indlela yokuphatha ukusebenzisana kwakho nabo ngenzondelelo ukuze babe nempembelelo encinci kwimpilo yakho nangobomi.
Ingxabano ibonakala ngathi ulwalamano lomntwana wokufa, kodwa luyakwazi ukuphucula ubuhlobo. Oko kukuthi, ukuba isisombululo siphumelele . Ingxabano engaphendulwanga yinto engalunganga, kodwa ukuzama ukufikelela kwisisombululo kukubi kakhulu. Indlela oyikhethayo yokulungisa ingxabano iya kuthintela nawuphi na ubudlelwane obandakanyekayo kuwo.
Ezi zakhono zolawulo lweengxabano ziya kukunceda ukulungisa ingxabano ngokwakho ngendlela ekhulileyo kunye nephilileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxabana kunzulu, kwiimeko ezifana nomtshato. Ukuba ujongene neengxabano ezigqithiseleyo, unokufuna ukufumana iingcebiso zomtshato okanye unyango ngamnye.
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