Ubuhlungu Bokuba Nomzwelo Bungaba Nje Ukuphazamisa noKwenzakalisa Njengezibuhlungu
Intlungu yomzwelo inokuba ngumlutha kwabanye abantu. Ukukhathazeka ngeemvakalelo ezinjengokudakumba, ukudandatheka, inetyala, uhlazo okanye ukwesaba, ezi zivakalelo zihlala ziqhelekileyo kwaye zihlale zivakalelwa kukuba ziyinxalenye yakho kwaye awukwazi ukucinga ubomi ngaphandle kwayo.
Xa uhlala ubonakaliswe entlungwini yentlungu, kukho utshintsho kwingqondo evelisa ukuxhomekeka kuloo mvakalelo. Kwaye nangona le ntlungu ebonakalayo ingabonakali kwaye iyancipha, xa iqhubeka ixesha elide, iyakwazi ukuphelisa impilo yakho yempilo. Kwezinye iimeko, iintlungu zentlungu zingabangela intlungu.
Nangona uvakalelo lwengqondo luvame ukugxothwa ngokungathí sina kunokuba lubuhlungu obungokwenyama, kubalulekile ukuba intlungu yomsindo ihlale ithathwa ngokungathí sina. Kwezinye iimeko, unokufuna ukubona ugqirha ngaphambi kokuba intlungu ibuhlungu ibe nemiphumo engapheliyo.
Nazi ezinye iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo ezinxulumene nentlungu yomzwelo engenokuchaphazela impilo yakho.
Buhlungu
Usizi luquka iimvakalelo zokubandezeleka okanye ukudideka. Ukuzibuyisela emuva iinyembezi kuthatha amandla amaninzi, kukushiye uziva unxinzekile, unxinzekile kwaye udeyy okanye unzima. Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive ucocekile okanye unobuthakathaka, okanye unjengezitho zomzimba zakho zenziwe zikhokelo.
Ukudabuka akufanele kudideke kunye nokudakumba , okunokuphathwa ngempumelelo ngemichiza echanekileyo.
Ukuba ukudabuka kuqhubeka ngaphezu kweentsuku ezimbalwa kwaye kuthintela ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, kunokufuneka ukuba ufune ukungenelela kwezokwelapha. Kufuneka uqhagamshelane nodokotela wakho kwaye uthembeke ngokupheleleyo malunga naluphi na utywala okanye iziyobisi ozisebenzisayo ukujongana nokunyanga.
Ukuba unesifo sokudandatheka, ukungazinzi kunokuncedisa ukuphucula, njengokuba ngezinye izihlandlo ngenxa yokusetyenziswa kotywala okanye ukusebenzisa iziyobisi. Thetha ugqirha wakho malunga nokuba le nto inokwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba uthathe uxinzelelo.
Intukuthelo engachangekiyo
Intukuthelo inokukhupha i-adrenaline, eyenza ukuxhatshazwa kwemisipha kwaye ijonge ukuphefumla. Leli liqela 'lokulwa' yempendulo "yokulwa / yendiza / yeqhwa". Ngaphandle kokubonakaliswa, umsindo udala uxinzelelo lwexesha elide, kwaye xa ungakhange ukhululwe, unokuphelisa ukuqhuma okanye ukugquma.
Ukuxhalabisa
Njengomsindo, ukuxhalabisa, ukukhathazeka okanye ukwesaba kukhulula i-adrenaline. Oku kubangelwa ukugquma, ukutyekela ukuphazamiseka lula, ukungakwazi ukuphumla ("indiza" inxalenye yempendulo "yendiza / yendiza / ifihliweyo" okanye umva wokungafihli okanye unamathele (inxalenye "yeqhwa" ukulwa / ukuhamba / ukukhwabanisa "impendulo).
Kwamanye abantu, uxhalaba luphawu lwesifo sokuxhalabisa, kwaye unyango lonyango lunokunceda. Nangona kunjalo, amanye amayeza anxamnye noxinzelelo anomlutha, ngoko ke amayeza aqhelekelelwe kunye kunye neengqondo zokuziphatha. Ulwaphulo lunokunceda ukufundisa iindlela zokulungisa ukuphucula kakuhle iimpawu zokuxhalabisa.
Ukuxhalabisa kunokushukunyiswa ngotywala okanye iziyobisi, kwaye ukuyeka utywala kunye neziyobisi kunokusombulula iimpawu. Tshela ugqirha wakho malunga naluphi na utywala okanye usetyenziso lweziyobisi ukuqinisekisa ukuba ufumene kakuhle kwaye uphathwa.
Ihlazo / ukuthotywa
Ihlazo neentyala zivame ukuvelisa umvakalelo we "ibhathane" okanye isisindo esiswini. Ngokuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu abaneengxaki kunye neentlungu ezingapheliyo, iintloni zibuhlungu kakhulu ngenxa yesidingo sokufihla kunye nokukwazi ukuzenzela izinto.
Ukuba azincitshisiwe, ukuhlazeka kunye netyala kunokubangela isicarucu nezinye izifo zesisu.
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