Ama-Introverts athambekele ekungaqondwa kakuhle kuluntu. Abayithandi abantu, kwaye abafuni nje ukushiywa yedwa. Benza ke, nangona kunjalo, ukuva uxinzelelo kwiimeko ezithile ezithandekayo njengoko zininzi ezithandekayo. Nangona le mihluko ingekho-iyakwazi ukusuka kwizinto ezingabonakaliyo ngokugqithiseleyo, kuxhomekeka apho umntu ewela khona kwi-spectrum-extrovert spectrum-kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokuzazisa kunye nokudibanisa ngokufanayo.
Ukwahlukana Phakathi Kokugqithisileyo kunye neAvenverts
Ukuxhamla kudla ukuzithemba, kubangele, kwaye kunesidingo esikhulu sokuvuselela, ngelixa ama-introverts aphantsi koko, kwaye adinga "ixesha eliphantsi". Nangona i-introverts ihlala ibanwabela abantu ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye bahlala bebahlobo abahle kakhulu kwabo baxhalabileyo, baxhamla ngokusebenzisana kwabantu, ngelixa i-extroverts ifumana ngamandla. Oku kuthetha ukuba ama-introverts angasoloko ehlahlela ukwenza izicwangciso nabanye njengokuba bengakwazi ukuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba ngaba baya kuba namandla okwaneleyo ngaloo mini. Baya kushiya imicimbi yentlalo ngaphambili kwaye bangabandakanyekanga xa besesigubini; Uninzi lwabantu abakhethiweyo bakhetha ukuthetha nomntu omnye okanye iqela elincinci kunokuba ubambe ingqalelo kwisihlwele.
Ama-Introverts angenakukwazi ukukhuthaza iiplani ngaphezu kohlobo lwazo, kunye nokuba banokukwazi ukucima izicwangciso nabanye, nokuba banokuzonwabisa nabanye abantu.
Basenokwenzeka ukuba bacinge kakuhle ngezinto ngaphambi kokuba baxoxe nabanye ngeengcamango zabo, apho i-extroverts ikwazi ukuqhuba iingcinga zabo kunye neengcamango zabo ngokuvakalayo. Zihlala zichaphazeleka kakhulu ngeemeko zabanye, ezinokubangela ukuba "uxinzeleleke" ukunyamezela. Ngalokhu konke, ama-introverts abathanda abantu, anenyamekela kakhulu abahlobo bawo, kwaye adinga uxhulumano ngokubanzi; banokufumana okungakumbi ngaphandle kobusuku obumbileyo kunye nomhlobo ngaphezu kweqela elikhulu kunye nesihlwele esikhulu.
Kwaye kulungile.
Izibango zokungena kwiiNgqungquthela
Ngenhlanhla kubazazisa, kukho ukuthambekela okubonakalayo ukuba baxele amanqanaba aphantsi okonwaba kunye nokwaneliseka komphefumlo. Abaphandi abaphonononga iimpawu zobuntu "ezininzi ezi-Big" baye bafumanisa ukuba abo baphakamileyo kwi-introversion kunye ne-extroversion kufuneka basebenze kanzima ekulawuleni uxinzelelo kunye nolonwabo ngokubanzi, apho kungavela khona ngokwemvelo ukuba kuvelele.
Kutheni le mibuzo
Ngenxa yokuba i-introverts and extroverts ingaba nobomi ngokungafaniyo (kwaye uluntu lwethu ludla ngokubhekiselele kwi-extroverts), izethulo zingenelwa kwiindlela ezithile zokulawula uxinzelelo ezijoliswe ngokukodwa kwiindawo zabo ezizolileyo. Ukuba uyangenisa (okanye ukuba uyamthanda omnye), kubalulekile ukuqonda ezinye zeemfuno kunye neempawu eziza kunye nolunye uhlobo olusungulwayo. Enyanisweni, abo baphakamileyo kwi-extroversion bavame ukuxinezeleka njengabazali. Oku kubangelwa ukuba i-extroverts inamandla ngakumbi kunokuba iditywe ngumsebenzi weqela oza kubazali, okanye ngenxa yezinye izinto. Ngandlela-thile, abazali abangaphantsi koxinzelelo banokuphakamisa abantwana abangaphantsi koxinzelelo, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba baqalise ukufumana iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokulawula uxinzelelo.
Yintoni Enokuyenza?
Kukho izicwangciso ezininzi ezinokukunceda uqalise ukulawula uxinzelelo oluza kuphila ngendlela ebenza ngcono kubo.
Amacandelo alandelayo angancedisa ukuqala ukulwa nokuthethelela okunye okuza kungeniswa kwangaphambili, njengokunciphisa ukutyekela ukusebenzisana kwabantu, nangona inkxaso enxulumene noluntu inxulumene namazinga aphezulu olonwaba kunye nokwaneliseka komphefumlo. Ekugqibeleni, funda amacandelo alandelayo ekupheleni ukuba ufunde ezinye zeenzuzo zokuba u-introvert-zininzi!
Iingcebiso ezicacileyo kwizaziso
Ama-Introverts angazenza zonke iinkqubo zokulawula uxinzelelo ezixhomekeke kumsebenzi, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa ubuchule obuthile bunokuba lunomdla ngakumbi. Ezinye iindlela zifanelekile ukuzazisa.
Ekugqibeleni, ezinye izicwangciso zibalulekile ukunqanda ukutyekela kwemvelo ukuba ungaphumeleli kwezinye zezinto ezinokukunceda zona, eziza kuvela ngokwemvelo ukuba zenzeke. Nazi ezinye iimbono zokuqwalasela.
- Qalisa ukucamngca. Ukucamngca kunokwandisa ukunyamezela kwakho ekuxinezelekeni xa uqhuba ixesha elide kwaye kunokukunceda uzive ukhululekile kwixesha elifutshane. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokwenza ukucamngca, kodwa ngokubanzi, yinto yokuthula. Oku kukuvumela ukuba ukwandise ikhono lakho lokuzimelela xa uzizwa uphonswa ngaphandle koxinzelelo lwendalo yakho, okanye ngabantu abakufutshane nawe.
- Qalisa. Ukubhala kwiphepha-ndlebe kuyindlela enhle yokwenza iimvakalelo zakho okanye uqeqeshe ingqondo yakho ukugxila kwizinto ezilungileyo. Uhambo luzisa iinkonzo ezininzi zezempilo kunye nokulawulwa kwengcinezelo ezibonakaliswe ngophando. Ukugcina i -journal journal processing process , i- journal incidentally , okanye iphepha lokubonga yiendlela ezimbalwa zokusebenzisa ukubhala njengendlela yokucwangcisa, ukuthatha into engqondweni yakho kwaye uyikhuphe. Ukuhanjelwa kungabangela ukukhululeka kwengcinezelo malunga nabani na, kodwa kulungelelaniswa ukuzazisa.
- Hlola Ingcinga Zakho. Iingcamango ezingalunganga zinokunyusa amava oxinzelelo. Ukugqithisa kuthatha ukucinga ngakumbi, kodwa iipatheni zokucinga ezicetywayo zingaphuhliswa. Nazi ezinye iindlela zokunciphisa uxinzelelo ekutshintsheni ukuthetha kwakho kunye nokwakha ukuzinza kwakho kwixinzelelo.
- Ukuhlakulela ngokutsha iimoya ezilungileyo. Uphando lufumene ukuba igalelo elihle-amava okuba nesimo esihle sengqondo-inxulumene nolonwabo kunye nokuzinza. Ngelishwa, izethulo zivame ukufumana impembelelo encinci kwimpilo yabo yemihla ngemihla, kodwa le nto ingatshintshwa. Funda kabanzi malunga namanqanaba akho okuchaphazelayo anokuchaphazela amava akho oxinzelelo , kwaye ufumane iindlela zokuhlakulela umphumo wakho kwimpilo yakho yemihla ngemihla. Kulula kunokuba ucinge, emva kokuba ugxila kulo.
- Hlela indawo yakho. Ama-Introverts bathanda ukuba neendawo zabo, indawo yokuya kwaye bahlawule. Ukuba isikhala sakho sixakekile, oku kunzima kakhulu. Nangona ukucoca kungabi yinto enomdla kakhulu ongayifumana kuyo, ukugcina "indawo enolonwabo" ngokwayo kungakuvuyela ukuphathwa kwengcinezelo, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukuba ucinge ukucoca njengengxaki yokuxinwa nokugcina indawo enokuthula yakho .
- Bonisa Ukubulela Kwakho. Nangona i-extroverts ingazivakalisa ngokuzenzekelayo ukubonga kwabo kulabo abayinyamekelayo (kunye nabo banokuthi badibanise ngokungaqhelekanga), izangeniso zingakufumana ezi binzana zize zenzeke ngokwemvelo. Ukubonisa ukubonga ngabantu ebomini bakho-kubantu ebomini bakho-kunokuzisa inzuzo yokwandisa ubomi bakho kunye nokomeleza ulwalamano lwakho nolwaneliseko. (Abantu bathanda ukuziva baxabisekileyo, kwaye oku kunokwakha abanye ukubonisa ukuxabisa kwabo, nabo.) Ngoko ke mazisa abantu xa uyabaxabisa, kwaye kutheni. Ungakwazi kwakhona ukugcina iphepha lokubonga ukuze wandise ukutyekela kwakho ukuphawula ezi zinto.
- Ukuphuhlisa ukucinga. Kuye kwafunyaniswa ukuba ixhomeke phambili kwaye ijwayele ukulinganisa iingxaki ezintle. Oku kunika ithuba. Abo babheka ubunzima bokuphila njengengxaki "kunokuba" ingozi "bahlala bengagxininiswe kwaye banokusebenza ngokubhekiselele kuzo. Abo bahlala benethemba lokuba nabo baphumelela kakhulu. Ngethamsanqa, ithemba linokuphuhliswa, kwinqanaba. Ukuba uyangenisa, unokunika ithuba lokulawula uxinzelelo kunye nobomi ngokuzakhela ukutyekela kwakho .
- Yazi Imida Yakho kwaye uyihlonele. Abaninzi abanethuba banomuva wokuba bahlale behlala kunye nabahlobo babo abazama ukubonakala bengabanomdla. Ukuba unokuzitshozela ukuba ube yinto engakumbi kunoko, oko akusiyo into embi-uphando lubonisa ukuba xa ama-introverts "enza izinto ezixakile," bafumana ukwanda kwintswelo yolonwabo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukwazi imida yakho kwaye ukhethe imisebenzi yakho ukuze ungazichukumisi kakhulu. Kulungile ukuhlawula.
- Zizibhokoxe Ukuba Zixakeke ngakumbi xa kusebenza kuwe. Njengoko kuthethwe, uphando lubonisa ukuba izangeniso zifunyanwe ukuba zikhuthaze xa zihlala "zenza izinto eziphambili" ngenjongo. Olu uphando olufanayo lufumene ukuba i-introverts iyancipha inani leemvakalelo ezintle abaza kuba nazo xa benza oku. Ngoko ke, xa uwazi imida yethu kunye nemingcele malunga nokuba "ixesha lezentlalo" ungayisingatha ngaphambi kokuba uphelelwe yinto, ingumzekelo omkhulu wokuzitshintshisa okufutshane ukuba ube nobungane nabantu. Unokumangaliswa yindlela othanda ngayo!
- Ziqhelise Ukuzithanda. Ngenxa yokuba ngezinye iixesha ihlabathi libonakala lilungelelaniswa, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo abantu baya kugweba ngokungenakulungile okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukungenisa i-introvert, kwaye uyamkela ukungafani kwakho. Sonke sinamandla kunye nobuthathaka bethu, kwaye ukuba unako ukuchazela abantu ukuba uyabathanda kodwa unokufumana imfuneko enkulu 'yexesha eliphantsi,' banokuthi bamkele ngakumbi ukuba ngubani na. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba uyikhumbule kukuba uvelwano luncedo. Ukuba nomnene kunye nawe kunye nabanye, kwaye ukwakha imfesane kunye nemikhwa efana nokucamngca inceba kunokunceda.
Iindaba Ezilungileyo
Ama-Introverts awanamathuba okufihla iimvakalelo ezimbi-kwaye zingaphantsi koxinzelelo ngenxa yalo. Olunye uphando luhlolisise abathathi-nxaxheba abangama-404 base-Israel kunye neepatheni zabo zokuzifihla nokufihla imizwa yabo. Olu pho nonongo luhlolisise imiphumo yokufihla imvakalelo emibi kunye nokunyaniseka, ukuphawula imiphumo kwintsebenziswano yokwaneliseka kunye nempilo yomzimba, kwaye yafumanisa ukuba izethulo zazingenakukwazi ukufihla imvakalelo engathandabuyo kunye nobudlelwane babo kwaye kungenakwenzeka ukuba zihlupheke ngenxa yoko.
Ukugqithisa kwakunokwenzeka ukufihla imvakalelo engathandabuliyo kunye nolwalamano oluncinci kunye nemiphumo emibi kwimpilo yabo, kwaye le mpembelelo yayibonakaliswa ngaphezu kwemiphumo yokubamba imizwa emihle.
Enyanisweni, ukunyamekela iimvakalelo ezingazange zenze imiphumo emibi kunye, kubonisa ukuba "ukunyanisela kude kube yinto oyenzayo" ukuya kwintlalo yolonwabo kulwalamano kungaba yindlela engcono kunokubamba ukukhathazeka kunokuba uxoxe nabo. Oku kubalulekile ukwazi, kodwa kunyanzelekile ukuba bazise ukuba ukuthambekela kwabo kwemvelo ukuthetha izinto kuzisa izibonelelo zezempilo kunye nolwalamano olwanelisayo ngakumbi.
Kukho nezinye iinjongo ezininzi zokungena, ngoko ke ngokugxininisa ngamandla akho kunokuba ubuthathaka bakho, kunye nokulinganisa izinto kunye neendlela ezifanelekileyo zokulawula uxinzelelo, izethulo zingathula, zixhomekeke kwaye zonwabile.
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