Phawula izinto ezinentlonelo ebomini bakho
Uyakhumbula okokugqibela xa ufumana inzenzeko enkcenkcesha - ixesha xa ufumene into ethile efunekayo, ngokuqinisekileyo xa uyenayo? Sonke sinamava okubambisana rhoqo kodwa ngamanye amaxesha anxibekile kwaye axakekile ukuba azibone okanye asebenzise amathuba anikezela ngawo.
Amakholwa kuMthetho woKhenketho aqinisekisa ukuba ezi zinto zihlangene kunye namathuba anenhlanhla zihlala zikhona kuthi, kwaye ngakumbi xa sizisebenzisa, ngokuqhelekileyo ziya kuzibonisa.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho enye inkcazo yenzululwazi yeendlela ezi zidlala ngayo. Uphando olwenziwe ngabathengi kunye nabantu abonwabileyo kubonisa ukuba bathabathe ukufumana impumelelo eninzi kunye nokwaneliseka ebomini (kunye nezinye iintlobo onokuzifunda ngazo kweli nqaku kubantu abonwabileyo). Esinye sezizathu zokuba banandipha le thamsanqa kukuba baqaphela amathuba kwaye bawasebenzisa. Sonke sijamelene neentlontso ezinenhlanhla ezenza amathuba, kodwa ithemba liyakwazi ukulubona ngakumbi kwaye libone iimeko ezintle ezizisayo.
Yenza Umyalezo Wakho
Indlela elula yokuba uqaphele ngokulula kunye nokwandisa izilungelo zentlekele ebomini bakho - kwaye ujonge iintlawulo zokupapashwa ngexesha elifanayo - kukugcina 'i-journal incident', apho ubhala khona ezi ziganeko ebomini bakho njengoko kwenzeka. Nantsi indlela yokugcina i-incident yakho ingxelo:
- Ekupheleni kosuku ngalunye (okanye ngexesha eliqhelekileyo apho ungathatha imizuzu embalwa ukubonisa), cinga emva kwaye urekhode zonke iimeko apho wafumanisa okokufunekayo, ngeendlela ezingalindelekanga okanye ezingenakuzimela. Ngaba ubone into oye wayifuna? Ngaba omnye umntu wayethetha ngokukhawuleza kwingxoxo ngolunye ulwazi oluluncedo kakhulu ngengxaki okhoyo ngoku? Ngaba kwenzeka ukuba uthabathe incwadi okanye iphephandaba elithetha nawe? Ezi zinto zingabalwa njengezinto ezizifihlakeleyo, amathuba anokuthi ungayisebenzisa ukuze usebenzise inxaxheba xa uthabatha isenzo.
- Kwakhona, jonga indlela efihlakeleyo okanye ecacileyo ezi zihambelanayo. Ngaba baye baxhuma ngaphandle kwakho, okanye ngaba ufanele uqaphele ukuba uqaphele amathuba azinikezele wona? Njengoko ugcina iphepha lakho, unokubona ngaphezulu kwezi zivumelwano kunye namathuba abonisayo, kuba uyaziqaphela ngoku ngoku.
- Njengoko ubhala iingxaki kunye namathuba kwiphephancwadi lakho, cinga ngezinto ezilandelayo kuwe. Cinga ngezinto othanda ukuzibona zingene ebomini bakho, ucinge ngeendlela onokuzifumana ezi zinto. Yenza into onokuyenza, kodwa uyeke uhambe uye uvule kuzo zonke izinto ezintsha ezingabonakalisa wena ngomso. Emva koko, lungele usebenzise inzuzo!
Umthombo:
ULyubomirsky S, u-King L, u-Diener E. Iintlobo zeempembelelo ezinokuthi zithinteke ngokukhawuleza: Ngaba uvuyo lukhokelela ekuphumeleleni? I-Psychological Bulletin . Novemba 2005.