Iingcebiso ezi-9 zokujongana nokukhathazeka kwezenhlalakahle xa ufumana umtshato

Ukuxhalaba komtshato kunokunyuka xa unenkxalabo yokuxhalaba kwintlalo (SAD) . Ingaba ufumene unyango lwe- SAD , ufumane unyango , okanye unobungozi kodwa ungakhange ufune uncedo, imbono yokucwangcisa nokuthatha inxaxheba emtshatweni inokuba nzima.

Abantu abaninzi abane-SAD abayi kuba nomtshato omkhulu, bakhetha ukugcina izinto zizolile kwaye zizimeleyo, okanye zize zigqibe ukucacisa.

Nangona kunjalo, kulabo abaneembopheleleko zentsapho okanye iqabane elifuna umkhosi osesikweni, ukuphuma emtshatweni wakho kungenakukhetha. Ngombulelo, kukho amanyathelo onokuthatha ukuthatha ukunciphisa uxhalaba olujikeleze umtshato.

Kuzo zonke izibophelelo zentlalo ezinokufaka isisu sakho kwiqhina, ezi zizinto ezinzima.

Ukucwangcisa uMtshato

1. Cinga ncinane. Cwangcisa intlanganiso encinane engafanelekanga esikhundleni somcimbi omkhulu. Amancinci asenokuthetha nje wena kunye nomdla wakho. Umtshato kufuneka ubonakalise oko ufuna, kungekhona into ocinga ukuba wonke umntu ulindele.
2. Cela uncedo. Cela uncedo lomntu othembelayo ukukuncedisa kwizigaba zokucwangcisa. Thetha naloo mntu malunga nokuphatha iifowuni eziyimfuneko ukwenzela ukuba imini ibe yimpumelelo. Ukuba uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali luvumelekile, unokuba uqeshise umcwangcisi womtshato. Abacwangcisi beMitshato banxulumano olukhoyo kunye nabarhwebi abavumela ukuba iingxoxo zilula.

1. Khetha iindlela zakho. Qhagamshelana newebsite efanelekileyo yokucwangcisa i-intanethi uze ubone ukuba awukwazi ukwenza uqeqesho oluninzi kunye nokulungiselela ngendlela elula. Esikhundleni sokutyelela ivenkile enkulu yomtshato, khangela ukuba umnqamle okanye umhlobo wendawo unokukwazi ukugqoka. Esikhundleni sokubiza kwiinkathazi ezahlukeneyo, abafaki beefoto, kunye nabaflorisi ukuthelekisa amanani kunye nemveliso, benze ukhetho ngokusekelwe kwiingcebiso ezivela kubahlobo okanye kwintsapho okanye ngophando lwe-intanethi.

1. Xelela kwi-officer. Ukuba ukudibana nomphathi wenkonzo yonqulo kunciphisa uxhalaba, cinga ukuzithemba kuye ngokukhathazeka kwakho. Ukuba nesigqeba kwicala lakho kunye noxanduva lwakho lokuxhalabisa kunokuncedisa ukunciphisa ingxaki kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngexesha lomkhosi.
2. Musa ukuvumela ukungabi nantoni kukuchaphazele. Kukho ukungahambisani nokungaqondani xa ucwangcisa nayiphi na ubukhulu bomtshato. Kuwuphi na umtshato, amathuba okuba umntu akanakuvuyela into oye uyiceba. Ngaphandle kokuba loo mntu unesikhalazo esisemthethweni esineenkqubela ecacileyo-vumela ukuba sihambe.

Ekugqibeleni, ukuba uhlupheka kunye ne-SAD kwaye uceba umtshato-mbulela! Kuthetha ukuba sele usudlulile umqobo wokufumana umntu okhethekileyo ukuba asebenzise lonke ubomi bakho. Jabulela imini yakho kwaye uziqhenye ngokufezekisa kwakho.

Indlela Yokukhetha Umtshato Womtshato

Ngokwesiko, iqela lomtshato lihlanganiswa ngabazalwana kunye noodade bomtshakazi nomyeni, kunye nezihlobo ezihlobo kunye nabahlobo. Ukuba unabahlobo abasondeleyo okanye izalamane-wenzani?

1. Hlanganisa u-mingle. Gcwalisa iqela lomtshato kunye nabantakwabo kunye neentsapho zabo zombini nomyeni nomyeni. Oodade boomantombazana bakho banokwenza izicakakazi ezintle, kwaye umntakwenu uya kuba novuyo lokuba ngumthunzi. Kwaye indoda eyindoda ebhetele kunye nentombi yodumo ayikho ngaphandle kombuzo.
   

1. Yiba nomtshato ongalinganiyo. Amathuba ukuba iindwendwe aziyi kubona. Qiniseka ukuba wenze amalungiselelo eemeko apho ukudibanisa kudla khona, njengokuhamba nge-aisle, izethulo, iifoto kunye nemidaniso yokuqala. Ngaba omnye wabafazi bahambahamba kunye nabafazi abafazi abahamba kunye, okanye bonke abafazi abafazi bahamba bebodwa. Yenza iqela lomtshato omnye ngomnye endaweni yeebini.
   
2. Hamba ngaphandle. Ukuba akunjalo wena kunye nomyeni wakho onentsapho esondeleyo okanye ngabahlobo bakho, u-forego ube neqela lomtshato ngokupheleleyo. Oku kwenza ingqiqo xa ukhetha ukuba nomtshato osisiseko esiphantsi okanye elope. Ngokutshintsha isitala somtshato ukusuka kwendabuko ukuya kwixesha langoku, okanye ngokuba nomhlangano omncinci, iindwendwe azikufumananga ukuba akukho mcimbi womtshato.
   

1. Sebenzela ubuhlobo. Ukuba umtshato wakho usesekho ixesha elide, qwa lasela abantu obaziyo kunye nokuba ngaba naziphi na ezi zinto zingenziwa zibe ngabahlobo.

Ekugqibeleni, sisigqibo sakho sokucwangcisa le nxalenye yomtshato wakho. Akubalulekanga ukuba unabantwana abafazi abasixhenxe, kodwa kunoko ukuba usuku lunentsingiselo kuwe. Khumbula kwakhona, ukuba ungayithathi xa umntu ehla. Ukuba kwindawo yomtshato ngokubanzi kufuna ukutyalomali kwexesha kunye nemali, kwaye kungekhona wonke umntu ozimisele okanye okwazi ukuzinikela.

Yenza Umtshato Wakho Ungakhathazeki

Khumbula, imitshato ibangela uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalabisa abantu bonke kungakhathaliseki ukuba uxhalaba loluntu luyingxaki.

Ungabi nzima kakhulu ukuba uziva ukhululekile kwaye unxungupha. Yenza ingqalelo yokukhathazeka kwakho kwentlalo ibe yinto ephambili ukuze ube namandla kunye nesigxina sokusingatha ukuhlaselwa komtshato.

Ukuba awuzange ufumane ukufunyanwa, yenza isiganeko kunye nodokotela wakho. Ukuba awuzange ufumane unyango, fumana okunye malunga neendlela ezifana nezonyango kunye neyeza . Nangona izicwangciso zinokukunceda ekulawuleni iimbilini zakho, akukho ndawo ithatha indawo yonyango lwe-SAD.

_Imithombo:

_{Nina Calloway. Amanyathelo okuQala ekuCwangceni uMtshato wakho.}

_{Nina Calloway. Uninzi lwabafazi abancinci kunye neGroomsmen ukuba unayo?}