Iimidlalo zoMnxila
Njengoko ilizwi lihamba, awuyiyo imbangela yenkxalabo yokusela umntu, awukwazi ukuyiphilisa kwaye awukwazi ukuyilawula. Kodwa kukho iindlela onokubangela kwingxaki.
Ngaphambi kokubeka isohlwayo kuzo zonke iingxaki kwintsapho yakho okanye ulwalamano lwakho (okanye) lokusela, kuya kuba sisilumko ukuhlolisisa indlela ukusela komnye umntu okukuchaphazele ngayo, nendlela oye waphendula ngayo.
Ngokomzekelo, ingaba isicatshulwa esilandelayo siyayesazi?
- Andinayo ingxaki ngokusela kwam! Ingxaki kuphela yimoya yakho. Ukuba ubungayiyeka ukukhalazela ngako, bekungekho nto!
Ewe, ngokucacileyo loo ngxelo ayilunganga ngokupheleleyo; emva kokuba konke ukukhanyela ingxaki ngenye yezinto eziphazamisayo zokusela utywala kunye nokulutha. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, le nkcazo ayinakubuxoki ngokupheleleyo. Uyasabela njani xa utywala utywala ?
Ingaba impendulo yakho ingaba yinxalenye yengxaki jikelele? Ngaba uwile "ekudlala umdlalo" kwintsapho? Ngaba kukho into onokuyenza ukuphucula imeko? Oku kulandelayo kuchaza isiganeko esinokuba ngumzekelo wokuziphatha kotywala kunye neminye imizekelo yokuphendula kweso siganeko. Ingaba kukho na enye yezi zizwi eziqhelekileyo?
- Umnxila ufika ekhaya ngokukhawuleza kwaye unxile, unxiliswe ngokwenene ukuze athole isitshixo kwisango lokuvala. Emva kwemizamo emininzi engenamsebenzi, unquma ukuba yinto elahlekileyo. Ekubeni akafuni ukuba nabani na endlini bayazi ukuba unxilisekile ukuba avule umnyango wakhe, wenza isigqibo esicacileyo sokusombulula ingxaki yakhe. Uya kulala egcekeni langaphambili!
Ungasabela njani?
UMhlanguli
"Umhlanguli" akavumeli ukuba isiganeko sibe "yingxaki." Ekubeni sele esilinde kuye, uyaphuma egcekeni, ufumane utywala, ahlambulule, aze ambeke embhedeni. Ngaloo ndlela abamelwane babengazange bambone ephuma etaweni zeentyatyambo!
Akalokothi akhulume ngesiganeko kuye okanye nakubani na umntu.
Ukuba kukho omnye umntu othethayo, uphika ukuba kukho ingxaki. Ulalele, ufihla iimpazamo zakhe, aze amkhusele emhlabeni.
Njengoko iingxaki zanda kwaye ukusela kwakhe kukubi kakhulu , uthatha uxanduva oluye lwaba luseyakhe. Unokufumana umsebenzi okanye usebenze iiyure ezongezelelweyo ukuhlawula iindleko. Ukuba uthe wangena enkingeni ngomthetho, uya kuhambisa izulu nomhlaba ukuba zifike ngebheyili yakhe.
The Provoker
"Umtshutshisi" usabela ngokugweba utywala ngenxa yezenzo zakhe. Umlindela ukuba avuke kusasa kusasa aze amnike yona ngemibhobho yomibini, okanye aphume aze aguqulwe amafafaza amanzi!
Uyakhankanya, uhleka usulu, kwaye uyamncenga. Uguqa. Uyamemeza ngokukrakra ngokukhawuleza ukuze wonke umntu abeva. Ufika kwifowuni aze axelele bonke abahlobo bakhe ukuba ulahlekile. Unomsindo kwaye uqinisekisa ukuba utywala kunye nabanye abantu bayazi. Okanye umnika ihlombe elibandayo kwaye akathethi naye. Usongela ukuhamba.
Akayivumeli ukuba ihambe, nokuba. Intukuthelo kunye nentukuthelo iyaqhubeka ukwakha njengoko ezi ziganeko ziba rhoqo. Akaze amvumele ukuba akhohlwe iimpazamo zakhe. Ubambelela kuye kwaye uyisebenzise njengesikhali kwiingxoxo ezizayo - kwinyanga okanye kwiminyaka kamva.
UMartyr
U "martyr" unamahloni ngokuziphatha komnxila kwaye umvumela ukuba azi ngezenzo zakhe okanye ngamazwi akhe. Umemeza aze athi kuye, "Usihlazisa kwakhona phambi kommandla wonke!"
Uyakhupha, iipotyi, kunye nezodwa. Ufika kwifowuni kunye nabahlobo bakhe aze ahlaziye ngokukhawuleza ubunzima obubangela ukuba lo mzuzu! Okanye uhlazo lwayo uphephe abahlobo bakhe kunye naluphi na ukukhankanywa kwesi siganeko.
Kancinci uqala ukuhoxiswa kwaye uxinezeleke. Akunako ukuthetha kakhulu ngento enxilisayo, kodwa umenza amazi ngezenzo zakhe ezinentloni ngaye. Ngokunyanisekileyo uzama ukumenza abe netyala ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe.
Insiza
Imizekelo engentla ingaba yinto yokunyanyisa, kodwa kwakhona kwakhona inokuba yinto ebonakalayo yintoni eyenziwa kwikhaya elinxilisayo . "Indima" iqabane elingenakunxila lidlala kwiintsapho lingahle lichazwe kakuhle, njengoko lichazwe apha. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko, iqabane lingase liwele kwelinye lemidima okanye litshintshe phakathi kwazo zonke.
Ngoko yiyiphi na yomtshato ochazwe ngasentla inokusiza? Yiyiphi eyona nto inceda intuthuko yotywala kwisifo sakhe? Nguwuphi na, nangona bezama ukwenza izinto zibe bhetele, empeleni kubangele ingxaki? Bonke.
Fumana indlela nganye yezimpendulo ngayo ingxaki yomnxinxeba inceda kwaye ufunde indlela yokuphendula kwisiganeko sakutsha ngaphandle kokuba yinxalenye yengxaki. Le mibuzo ingakunceda uqonde indlela ukuziphatha kwakho kunceda ngayo umhlobo onxilisayo okanye ilungu losapho.