Yintoni enokuyenza Xa iTeknoloji iyisidya soKhetho
Ukuthandana kubalulekile ukuba kumnandi kwaye kuyonwabe. Kodwa kukho amaxesha apho ukusetyenziswa gadalala kunokungena ngaphakathi kwaye ukutshatyalaliswa ngokukhawuleza kuya kumnyama kwaye kuyatshitshisa. Xa oko kwenzeka, akukho nto iyonwabileyo. Kunoko, uzele umona, ulawulo, ukunyanzelisa, ukuthotywa, kunye nosongelo. Kwaye kuqhelekile kunokuba ungacinga. Enyanisweni, abafundi abayizigidi ezi-1.5 eziphakamileyo kwilizwe lonke baphathwa kakubi kumlingane wokuthandana ngexesha lonyaka.
Xa abaninzi abantu becinga ngokusetyenziswa kakubi, bacinga ukuba inkwenkwe ihlala emzimbeni okanye isenzo esinogonyamelo. Kodwa ngexesha le-intanethi, iteknoloji iyakhawuleza ibe yinto yokuzikhethela abanye abaxhaphazayo. Enyanisweni, amaninzi amaninzi okuthintela ulwaphulo-mthetho abonisa ukunyuka okukhulu kwinani lentombazana eliselula elisichaza ukuxhaphazwa kobudlelwane bedijithali ebuhlotsheni babo.
Ukuchonga Ukuxhatshazwa KwamaDatala
Ukutshatyalaliswa kobudlelwane obudibanisa kwenzeka xa umlingani ohlukumezayo usebenzisa iteknoloji, njenge-smartphone, imidiya yoluntu, inkqubo yokulandelela okanye olunye uhlobo lwethekhnoloji, ukusongela, ukuxhatshaza kunye nokusongela umlingani wakho wokuthandana. Ezinye zeendlela eziqhelekileyo oku kwenziwayo kubandakanya ukuthumela iitekisi ezigqithisileyo okanye imilayezo, ukutshintshisa iqabane kwi-media media, okanye ukufuna ukuba iqabane libandakanye ukuthunyelwa kwe-imeyile.
Ngokomnye uphando, omnye kwabafundi abalishumi elinesibhozo abangaphezu kweminyaka eyi-16 uye wafumana ubuncinane uhlobo oluthile lokuxhaphaza ukutshatyalaliswa kohlobo lwe-digital.
Uhlobo oluqhelekileyo lokusetyenziswa gadalala lunenjongo yokwenza intloni nge-intanethi ngumlingani wamanje okanye wangaphambili. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, abafana kunye namantombazana banokufumana ukuxhaphazwa kobudlelwane bedijithali. Awuphelelanga kumantombazana nje.
Ngaphezu koko, inani labasesikolweni esiphakamileyo lixelele ukuba xa bengaphenduli kwimilayezo yesicatshulwa ngokukhawuleza, bahlala bexakeka iziphumo ezinjengobundlobongela basekhaya, ukuxhaphazwa ngokomzwelo, ukubiza amagama okanye ukusetyenziswa kakubi ngomlomo.
Okwangoku, i-adolescents ixelele ukuba i-boyfriends okanye iintombi zabo zenze i-akhawunti ye-intanethi ye-social media ukuvavanya ukuba ingaxhatshazelani na ngesini esahlukileyo kwi-intanethi. Kwaye abanye baye baxela ukuba i-boyfriend zabo zifuna ukuba zilande uhlelo lokusebenza lokulandelela i-GPS ukuze bazi ukuba ziphi na maxesha onke. Akukho nanye kule nto inempilo okanye inxalenye yobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo bokuthandana. Kwaye ukuba kwenzeka kubudlelwane bakho, okanye ukuba ubona ezinye iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa ngokuthandana, kufuneka ucinge ngendlela yokuphelisa ulwalamano ngaphambi kokuxhatshazwa kakubi. Unokuba usisisulu sokuxhaphazwa kobudlelwane bedijithali ukuba iqabane lakho:
- Ithumela inani elininzi ngokwemiyalezo yombhalo nangona usesikolweni, emsebenzini okanye ulele kwaye uyacaphuka xa ungaphenduli ngokukhawuleza
- Ulindela ukuba ufumaneke kuzo zonke iiyure zomhla ukuba uthetha okanye ubiza; usongela ukukulimaza ngandlela-thile ukuba awukho
- Ithumela imiyalezo embi, ehlambalazayo, esatshisayo okanye esongelayo, imiyalezo ye-intanethi okanye amavoyisimeyili
- Usebenzisa iindawo ezifana nezine, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter kunye nezinye izingosi apho "ungangena khona" njengendlela yokugcina iithebhu kuwe
- Kufuna ukuba ufake ifowuni yokulandelela i-GPS kwifowuni yakho okanye ufune ukuba "wabelane ngendawo yakho" ukuba nonke unama-iPhones
- Ukufaka i-spyware kwi-smartphone yakho, ithebhulethi, okanye ikhomputha ngaphandle kokuba uyazi malunga nayo
- Ukuxelela wena onokukwazi kwaye awukwazi ukuba ngumhlobo kwi-media media
- Ukuseta i-akhawunti ye-media yefayile njengendlela yokuzihlola nge-intanethi ngokungachazwanga
- Uzenza wena kwi-intanethi ngokukhahlela kwi-akhawunti yakho yeendaba zentlalo nokuthumela izinto ezenza imiba kuwe
- Iifayile okanye izithuba ezimbi, ezihlazo okanye izinto ezihlambalazayo ngawe; Kwakhona kunokuhlekisa ngawe kwi-intanethi
- Ufuna ukuba neephasiwedi kwifowuni yakho nakwii-akhawunti zakho zentlalo
- Ujonga ngefowuni yakho, ufunda imiyalezo yakho yesicatshulwa, uhlola iifoto zakho, okanye uprogram ngokusebenzisa iifowuni eziphumayo njengendlela yokubeka esweni umsebenzi wakho
- Ufunda i-imeyile yangasese okanye imilayezo yemidiya yoluntu ngaphandle kwemvume yakho
- Ithumela iifoto okanye ividiyo ezicacileyo ezingafunekiyo
- Iingcinezelo ozozithabatha kunye nokuthumela iifoto zesini okanye iividiyo; usenokusongela ukusebenzisa ezo zithombe kunye namavidiyo ngokuthi "ukuziphindezela" xa uphula
Indlela yokuhlala ngokukhuselekileyo kweDititally
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, kunokuziva unxilisayo ukuba iqabane libonise inzala eninzi kuwe ngokuthumelela kakhulu. Kodwa ubudlelwane obunempilo bunemiida. Baqulethe abantu ababini abanomdla kunye nabangane ngaphandle kobudlelwano. Ukuba akunjalo, ngoko kufuneka uqaphele iimpawu zokuxhaphazwa. Yaye ukuba iqabane lakho libonakala lilawula ngokukhululekileyo ngeteknoloji ebomini bakho, qiniseka ukuba uthathe amanyathelo okuzikhusela. Nazi ezinye iindlela ezongezelelweyo ongazikhusela ekusebenziseni ukutshatyalaliswa kobudlelwane bedijithali:
- Musa ukwabelana ngamaphasiwedi akho nabani na.
- Qaphela ukuba ukhangele kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo; yenza kube lula ukuba abantu bakutyelele.
- Ungaqwalasele okanye uthabe abahlobo bakho kwizithombe ngaphandle kwemvume kuba bafuna indawo yabo igcinwe ngasese.
- Khumbula ukuba ulahlekelwa ukulawula kwanoma imuphi umyalezo okanye ifowuni emva kokuba ushayile ukuthumela; musa ukuthumela nayiphi na eyimfihlo ngekhompyutha. Amaxesha amaninzi, imiyalezo kunye nezithombe zisetyenziselwa ukuhlazisa okanye ukuhlazisa umntu emva kokuphuka.
- Musa ukubeka ifowuni yakho kunoma ubani kubandakanye nomlingane wakho wokuthandana naye; le nto iyimpahla yabucala kwaye awunayo ukwabelana nayo.
- Yazi izicwangciso zobungasese kwaye ugcine izixhobo zakho zekhompyutha, ii-akhawunti ze-intanethi kunye ne-akhawunti yezokuhlalisana yoluntu ngokukhuselekileyo kunokwenzeka
- Khumbula ukuba unelungelo lokuziva ukhuselekile kwaye uhlonishwa kubuhlobo.
Ulwalamano oluhle, iqabane lakho liya kuhlonipha imida yakho. Kwakhona uya kukunika indawo kunye nexesha ngaphandle ngaphandle kokufuna ukwazi apho uhlala khona kwinqanaba lemihla. Kwaye, uya kuqonda ukuba kufanelekile ukuba uphendule ifowuni yakho okanye ingafumaneki ngamanye amaxesha. Nabani ongayihloneli le nto ubonisa iimpawu zokulawula. Kwaye, ukufuna ukulawula omnye umntu kukubonakalisa ulwalamano oluxhaphazayo.
ILizwi
Ukuba wena, okanye umntu owaziyo ujongene nokuxhaphazwa kwamademoni, kukho uncedo olukhoyo. AWUKHO wedwa. Ngokomzekelo, Uthando alubuxhatshazi linikeza intetho, itekisi, kunye neenketho ze-intanethi kwi-intanethi kubantu abasebenzelana nokuxhaphazwa kwamanxeba. Unokuthumela itekisi ye-loveis ukuya ku-22522 ukuba unemibuzo kunye nexhala malunga nokuxhaphazwa kobudlelwane be-digital. Kwaye, ukuba ungaziva ukhuselekile usebenzisa idivayisi yakho, fumana kubo usebenzisa isixhobo somntakwabo okanye ikhompyutha kwilayibrari. Unokubiza umnxeba we-National Domestic Violence Hotline ngo-1-800-799-UKUPHILA naliphi na ixesha losuku okanye ubusuku ukuthetha nommeli. Okanye, tyelela iwebsite yabo, www.hotline.org, ukuze uxoxe ngokuhlala.
> Imithombo:
> "Emva kweZikrini: Yintoni edibeneyo yokutshatyalaliswa kobudlova?" Ulwaphulo-mthetho lwasekhaya lwasekhaya. http://www.thehotline.org/2014/03/18/what-is-digital-abuse/
> "Ukutshatyalaliswa kokuShatshazwa kweziNani." Uthando alububi. http://www.loveisrespect.org/reources/dating-violence-statistics/