Kungaba nzima ukwazi ukuba umntwana wakho uhamba nobunzima bokubandezeleka kwengane, okanye uhlala phantsi kwexeshana nje. Ukwenza ngokukhawuleza ukunceda umntwana wakho, nokuba yintoni imeko yakhe, kubalulekile.
Amahomoni abo akhaba, iimbopheleleko zabo ziyanda, kwaye iishedyuli zabo ziphezulu. Ukwenza izinto zibe nzima nakakhulu, i-tween okanye i-preteens ilwabalalisa nokutshintsha ubudlelwane beentsapho kunye nomhlobo, ukuxinezeleka, ukudidanisa iindalo zenkcubeko kunye nokuxhalabisa okuvame ukuza kunye nokusondela kwabo.
Akumangalisi ukuba abantwana abaninzi banenkxwaleko ngezinye izihlandlo okanye mhlawumbi, nangona ukucindezeleka kwabantwana.
Abantwana abanesifo sokudandatheka kwabantwana banokusetyenziswa kakhulu kotywala kunye neziyobisi. Baye basengozini yokubandakanyeka kwezinye iindlela zokuziphatha eziyingozi.
Ukuqaphela ukuxinezeleka eTweens
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokunceda umntwana wakho uyaqaphela ukuba kunokuba neengxaki. Ukudandatheka kwizinto ezi-12 kungabonakali ngokukhawuleza nguwe. Iimpawu zinokuba nzima ukuzibona kwaye zidideke kunye nezilingo eziqhelekileyo kunye neengxaki zokukhula.
I-Tween ihlala ixhala. Iimodmoni zabo eziguqukayo kunye neemvakalelo zingenza kube nzima ukwazi ukuba bahamba ngesigaba okanye into enzulu.
Nangona iimpawu zoxinzelelo kwizinto ezihlukeneyo ziyahlukahluka kumntu ngamnye, akuqhelekanga ukuba i-tweens ecindezelekileyo ukuba ibonise iimpawu ezininzi ezilandelayo, ngezinye iinkcukacha:
- Utshintsho lwesondlo (ukutya okuninzi okanye okwaneleyo).
- Ukushiya kubahlobo kunye nemisebenzi.
- Ukulala ukuphazamiseka njengokulala kakhulu, ukungalali kakuhle okanye ukuphepha ukulala.
- Ukuhla kweebakala esikolweni.
- Ukuqaphela ngomfanekiso wabo womzimba.
- Ukuvakalelwa.
- Ukungakwazi ukugqiba imisebenzi elula.
- Ukuthotyelwa inetyala kunye neemvakalelo zokungabi nalutho.
- Utshintsho kwiindlela eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha okanye utshintsho lomntu.
- Ukuzibandakanya ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yoluntu.
- Intukuthelo kunye nezinye izidumbu zengqondo.
- Iziqu eziqhelekileyo okanye iintloko ezingaphenduliyo kunyango.
- I-aches aches engakwazi ukuchazwa okanye ukuphathwa.
- Ukungakwazi ukuzonwabisa ubomi kunye nokungabikho komdla kwixesha elizayo.
Amaninzi amaninzi aya kujikeleza ngeempawu ezi ngasentla ngokuqhelekileyo, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba bahlupheke ngenxa yokudandatheka kwabantwana.
- Ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana kwakho kudlula iiveki ezingaphezu kweebini, kungabonakalisa ukuba iingxaki zakhe zingaphezu kwexesha elifutshane.
- Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngokuziphatha komntwana wakho, unganqikazi ukumbuza umntwana wezilwanyana, isazi sengqondo, okanye isifo sengqondo ngenxa yombono kwaye mhlawumbi uviwo.
- Kwakhona, cela amanye amalungu omndeni, utitshala womntwana wakho, kunye nomnye umntu omdala oqhagamshelana rhoqo nomntwana wakho ngeengcamango zabo malunga nokuziphatha kwakhe.
Ukudandatheka kwabantwana, xa kushiywe kungakhange kulandelwe, kunokukhokelela kwezinye iingxaki ezinzulu kuquka ukusetyenziswa kakubi kwezidakamizwa notywala, iingxaki zobudlelwane kunye nokuzibulala.
Yintoni Ebangelwa Ukuxinezeleka Kwabantwana?
Lo ngumbuzo weligidi wezigidi. Ngokwemibini, ukuxinezeleka kunokubangelwa ukungabikho kwamathambo (oku kukunceda uzive unonwabo).
Ukuhlanganiswa kweziganeko ezibuhlungu (umtshato, ukufa, ubunzima beentsapho, ukunyuka kweentsapho, njl.
Yikholelwa okanye akunjalo, ukuxinezeleka kuqhelekileyo ngokuqhelekileyo kubantu abaninzi abaneminyaka eli-1 kwi-30 abajongene nesi sifo.
Iindaba ezilungileyo ukuxinezeleka kunokuphathwa ngempumelelo. Ngoqwalaselo olululo kunye nenkxaso, umntwana obandezelekayo unethuba elihle kakhulu lokulwa nesifo.
Ndingenza ntoni?
Ukutyelela ngogqirha wengane yakho kuyimfuneko. Unokucebisa ukuba umntwana wakho afune ukucebisa, ngokunokwenzeka ukuba unomdlali wezempilo yengqondo.
Kwezinye iimeko, ukululekwa ngokwaneleyo kunokunceda umntwana onenkathazo ngexesha elibi. Kwezinye iimeko, iyeza lingalawulwa.
Kwakhona, ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho ucindezelekile okanye udidekile, qiniseka ukuba uzifundise ebomini bakhe bentlalo yoluntu. Iphepha le-Facebook okanye le-Twitter okanye iphrofayili yabo ye-Instagram ingabonisa ukuba kukho into eyenziwa ngabahlobo okanye esikolweni.
Naluphi na uhlobo lwezenzo oogqirha bathetha ukuba bathathe, inxaxheba yakho njengommeli kunye nenkxaso yothando ngomntwana wakho.
- Mamela umntwana wakho xa ekwabelana ngolwazi malunga neemvakalelo zakhe kwaye akwazi ukugweba.
- Mxelele ukuba ukhona kuye, rhoqo kunye nanini na akufunayo.
Qhubeka umxelela oku, nangona ucinga ukuba ufumene iphuzu. I-tweens ecindezelekileyo kufuneka ive ukuba uya kuba khona kunye nokuba uthando lwakho alukho mfuneko.