Xa sithetha ngophuhliso lwabantwana, sisoloko sithetha ngezinto ezibalulekileyo abantwana ababetha ngayo kwiminyaka ethile. Ngoko ke yintoni le nto ibalulekileyo? Isiganeko esiphuhlisayo sinobuchule obufezekiswa ngabantwana abaninzi ngeminyaka ethile. Iziganeko eziphuhlisayo zingabandakanya ukuziphatha ngokomzimba, kwezentlalo, ukukhathazeka, nokuqonda, nezakhono zonxibelelwano ezifana nokuhamba, ukwabelana nabanye, ukubonisa iimvakalelo, ukuqonda izandi eziqhelekileyo kunye nokuthetha.
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Ngokomzekelo, phakathi kweenyanga ezili-9 ukuya kwezi-12, abantwana baqala ukufezekisa izinto ezibalulekileyo ezifana nokuma okanye ukuhamba. Nangona ubudala bexesha apho umntwana efezekisa khona into ekhethekileyo kunokungafani, abazali banokukhathazeka ukuba umntwana wabo akaphumelelanga ubuchule obuninzi lwabahlobo bakhe abaneminyaka efanayo. Ukuba umntwana akafundile ukuhamba ngeenyanga ezili-18, umzekelo, abazali kufuneka babonane nodokotela wengane yabo.
Unokucinga ngemigqaliselo yophuhliso njengoluhlu lokuhlola. Bamele ukuba umntwana oyingqingqele angenza malunga nobudala obukhulu nangona kukho ixabiso elincinane. Ngokomzekelo, abanye abantwana bangase baqale ukuhamba ngeenyanga ezili-9 okanye ezili-10 ngelixa abanye bengasayi kuhamba ukuya kwiinyanga ezili-14 ukuya kwezi-15. Ngokujonga iinjongo eziphambili zentuthuko, abazali, oogqirha kunye nootitshala bayakwazi ukuqonda kangcono indlela abantwana baqhubela phambili ngayo kwaye bagcine iso kunye naluphi na uphuhliso lwengxaki.
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Kukho iindidi ezine ezisisiseko kwiziganeko zophuhliso:
- Izinto ezibalulekileyo zibandakanya izakhono ezinkulu ezinkulu kunye nezakhono ezifanelekileyo. Izakhono ezinkulu ezinkulu zihlala ziqala ukuphuhlisa kwaye ziquka ukuhlala phezulu, ukuma, ukukhwela, nokuhamba. Izakhono ezintle ezihamba kakuhle zibandakanya ukunyakaza okuchanekileyo njengokubamba isipuni, ukubamba irayrayoni, ukuloba imilo kunye nokuthatha izinto ezincinci.
- Iziganeko ezinzulu zengqondo zijoliswe kumandla omntwana okucinga, ukufunda nokusombulula iingxaki. Intsana yokufunda indlela yokuphendula ebusweni bomntu kunye nokufunda isikolo sokufundela iilfabhethi yimizekelo yezinto ezibalulekileyo zokuqonda.
- Iintlalontle zentlalo kunye nemvakalelo zijoliswe kubantwana abafumana ukuqonda okungcono zabo iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zabanye. Ezi zibalulekileyo ziquka ukufunda indlela yokusebenzisana nokudlala nabanye abantu.
- Unxibelelwano olubalulekileyo lunxibelelwano lwimi nolwimi olungabonakaliyo . Umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa ukufunda indlela yokuthetha amagama akhe okuqala kunye nomntwana oneminyaka emihlanu ukufunda ezinye zezinto ezisisiseko zegrama ziyimimiselo ebalulekileyo yezonxibelelwano ezinkulu.
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Ngelixa ubuninzi beempawu ezinzima ngokuqhelekileyo zenzeka ngethuba elithile le window, kukho enye i-caveat ebalulekileyo. Abazali nabanakekeli kufuneka bakhumbule ukuba umntwana ngamnye uhlukile . Akunabo bonke abantwana abaya kutshitshisa le nto ibalulekileyo ngexesha elinye. Abanye abantwana banokubethelela iminyango ethile ngaphambili, njengokufunda indlela yokuhamba okanye ukuthetha kakhulu ngaphambili kunontanga yabo yobudala. Abanye abantwana banokufikelela kule miba yenkqubela phambili kamva. Oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana omnye unesipho okanye omnye ulibazisekile.
Imelela nje ukungafani komntu okukhoyo kwinkqubo yophuhliso.
Ezi zakhono zentuthuko nazo zakha ukwakha omnye nomnye. Izakhono eziphambili ngakumbi ezifana nokuhamba ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka emva kwamakhono afana nokukhwela kunye nokuhlaliswa sele sele kuphunyeziwe.
Kungenxa yokuba umntwana omnye waqala ukuhamba ngeenyanga ezilishumi elinesibhozo akuthethi ukuba omnye umntwana "ungasemva" ukuba akahambanga ngeenyanga ezili-12. Umntwana ngokubanzi uqala ukuhamba nayiphi na ixesha phakathi kweminyaka eyi-9 neye-15, ngoko nayiphi na ixesha phakathi kwala mabini kuthathwa njengesiqhelo.
Ukuba umntwana uneminyaka engaphezu kwe-15 kwaye engakwazi ukuhamba, abazali bangaqwalasela ukubonisana nodokotela okanye uphuhliso lweengcali ukufumanisa ukuba ngaba kukho uhlobo lophuhliso olukhoyo.
Ngokuqonda ezi zinto ziphuhlisayo, abaxhasi kunye nabaqeqeshi bempilo bayakwazi ukugcina iliso ekukhuleni kwabantwana. Xa iingxaki ezinokuthi zibonwe, ukungenelela kwangaphambili kunokunceda ekukholeni kwiziphumo eziphumelele.