Iibhondi ezithandwayo ngokutsho kweNkcazo yokuQinisa

Indlela esizibophelelayo ngayo ukukhuthaza ukuxhamla, ukunakekelwa, kunye nokufutshane

Ngokutsho kwenkcazo yenkcazo, isibophelelo sothando sihlobo lokuziphatha okuxhasayo omnye umntu onalo kwelinye. Mhlawumbi umzekelo oqhelekileyo wobudlelwane obusondeleyo kukuba phakathi komzali nomntwana. Eminye imizekelo ibandakanya ubuhlobo phakathi kwamaqabane omtshato, abahlobo kunye namanye amalungu entsapho.

Inkcazo yeBond Affectional

Isazi sengqondo sengqondo uJohn Bowlby sachaza eli gama njengoko ephuhlise i- theory yakhe enefuthe kakhulu.

Ngokutsho kwe-Bowlby, njengokuba umama esabela kwiimfuno zomntwana wakhe, umxhesho onothando oqinileyo uyakha. Olu bhondi luba luhlangene nobuntu bomntwana kwaye lusebenza njengesiseko kuzo zonke izibopho ezizayo.

Kamva, umlingane kaBoblby uMary Ainsworth uchaza iindlela ezinhlanu zokubambisana:

1. Izibophelelo zothando ziqhubekayo kunokuba zenzeke. Bahlala behlala ixesha elide kunye nokunyamezela kunokuza nokuhamba.
2. Izibophelelo ezinomdla zijoliswe kumntu othile. Abantu babe nemizwa enamandla yokuqhagamshela kunye nomdla kubantu abathile ebomini babo.
3. Ubudlelwane obandakanyekayo kwisibophelelo esithandanayo sinokubaluleka komoya. Izibophelelo ezinomdla zinempembelelo enkulu kubomi balabo ababelana nabo.
4. Umntu ufuna umnxibelelwano kunye nobudlelwane nomntu onothando lwakhe. Sinqwenela ukuba sisondelane ngokwenene nabantu esibelana nabo.

1. Ukuhlukana ngokungahambiyo kumntu kubangela uxinzelelo. Ukongezelela ekufuneni ukusondelelana, abantu bayathukuthela xa behlukana nabo baqhotyoshelweyo.

I-Ainsworth icetyise ukuba ukongezwa kwendlela yesithandathu-ukufuna induduzo kunye nokukhuseleko kwintsebenziswano - yaguqula ityhelwa kwisibophelelo sokuthandana sibe nobuhlobo bokwenene.

_Imithombo:

_{Bowlby, J. (2005). Ukwenza kunye nokuPhula kweebhanki ezithandwayo. Routledge Classics.}

_{Bowlby, J. (1958). Ubume bomngane womntwana kunina. I-International Journal ye-Psychoanalysis, 39 , 350-373.}

_{Ainsworth, MDS (1989). Iziqhotyoshelwano ezingaphantsi kweentsana. I-Psychologist yaseMerika, 44, 709-716.}