Izakhono Ezigqithisa Ngaphandle KweMithi kunye neyeza
Ukufunda ukujamelana nokuxhalabisa, ngakumbi kubantu abaneengxaki zokukhathazeka jikelele (GAD) , kubalulekile ukugcina umgangatho wobomi. Ngaphandle kwezilwanyana zonyango kunye neyeza , kukho ezininzi zezixhobo zokubambisana ezisisiseko onokuziphendulela kuzo naxa unesiva sokuxhalabisa.
1. Ziqinisekisile
Ixesha elide, xa sigxininiswe ekuxhalabiseni, sigxininise ngokukhawuleza ukuba asikwazi ukubeka iziganeko ngendlela ebonakalayo.
Ukuba oko kwenzeka, enye yezinto omele ukwenze kukuzikhumbuza ukuba ezi zivezo ozifumene nazo kwaye uzixhomekeke kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Nangona kunjalo uzinzile iimvakalelo, unokufuna ukuphefumula kwaye uziqinisekise ukuba le nto ungayisebenzisa. Njengento eyisisiseko njengokuba oku kunokuzwakala, ukwenza njalo kunokuhamba ixesha elide kukunceda ufumane izicombululo kunokuzivalelwa.
2. Ukuchonga uMthombo
Ubume obunjalo be-GAD bunjalo kangangokuba abantu baya kuba nzima ukufumanisa umthombo wabo wokuxhalabisa. Ezinye zezinto ezinokuthi zibangelwa ngenxa yokuba bangaboni ubuso obunomdla, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokwesaba ukuba inokudambisa ngakumbi iimvakalelo. Oku kulungile.
Xa kuthethwa oko, ngaphandle kokuphanda isizathu, awusoze ufumane iindlela zokulungisa okanye ukujongana nale mizwa. Endaweni yoko, unokufumana kwisimo esiluququzekileyo apho imizwa yakho ikulawula khona.
Ukuba ujamelene noxhala olusondelayo , hambisa kwindawo elithulileyo uze ubone ukuba kwenzekani. Ukunyaniseka nawe, kwaye ungesabi iimvakalelo ezinkulu.
Sombulula iNgxaki
Ukuxhalabisa kusiphoqa ukuba sithathe inyathelo kwaye sisombulule iingxaki. Ukuba ingxaki yinto echaphazelayo, ukuthatha isenzo esicinga ingqalelo kuyindlela enhle yokuzinqabisa kwikota elifutshane.
Ngelishwa, akuzona zonke iingxaki ezinokuzithengisa. Kwimeko enjalo, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokulawula ukungaqiniseki. Esikhundleni sokuvumela yonke into ethi "ntoni ukuba" ijikeleza entlokweni yakho, ukhumbuze ukuba kukho izinto onokuzilawula (njengemvakalelo yakho) kunye nabanye ongenako (njengeminye imizwelo yabantu).
Ukuba kukho inkalo enkulu efuna ukuyixazulula, thetha nomgqirha wakho okanye umhlobo othembekileyo ukuba wakhe iqhinga elifanelekileyo.
4. Bamkele ukungapheli
Njengabantu, ngokuqhelekileyo asifuni ukuba izinto zitshintshe. Kodwa, into elula kukuba ubomi buguqulwa, kwaye ukungaphelelwa yinto into sonke esimele siyamukele.
Kubantu abane-GAD, ukungagxininisi kunokuba ngumhlobo. Inokukukhumbuza ukuba nayiphi na imvakalelo ekhoyo ngoku iya kugqitywa. Ngoxa kubonakala ngathi ingxaki inkulu kangangokuba awuyi kukhawuleza, ngokuvuma ukungapheleli unokuzibonelela ngeendlela zokubeka iimvakalelo zakho kumxholo ofanelekileyo njengesiganeko kunokuba urhulumente.
5. Hlaziya
Xa ephosweni lokuhlaselwa ukuxhalaba, kudla ngokumnandi ukuyeka kwaye ungazami ukwenza izinto ngokukhawuleza. Enyanisweni, unokufuna ukwenza okuchaseneyo kunye nokusebenzisa iindlela zokuphumla ukuvala iingcamango ezixhalabileyo kude kube lula ukukwazi ukujamelana.
Oku kungabandakanya ukucamngca kwengqondo, ukunyusa ukuphefumula kwe-yoga, kunye nokukhangela komzimba ngokugxilwa kweemvakalelo zomzimba kunengcinga ongenakukwazi ukuyenza. Ukubandakanya ezi zinto kumsebenzi wakho wemihla ngemihla kukuvumela ukuba ungakhange uzuze kuphela izakhono kodwa uthathe indlela ehamba phambili kwimeko yakho.