Xa abazali bakho bengavumi ukuba ngubani okhetha ukutshata, umtshato wakho kunye nomtshato wabazali bakho unokuchaphazeleka. Ukongezelela, ulwalamano onalo nabazali bakho lunokulimala kakhulu.
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- Hlonipha nabazali bakho xa ubelana ngezizathu ozithandayo umlingane wakho. Khangela amathuba kubazali bakho kunye nomlingane wakho ukuze wazi kakuhle. Ukutya kunye nabazali bakho kunye neqabane, xoxani ngememori yezingane, amaphupha, iinjongo, njalo njalo.
- Nangona ungeyithandi oko abazali bakho bakutshoyo ngomntu omthandayo, baphulaphule. Ukuphulaphula abazali bakho akuthethi ukuba uyavumelana noko bathethayo. Kufuneka unike abazali bakho inzuzo yokungaqiniseki ukuba iingcebiso zabo zivela kwindawo yothando kunye nokukhuselwa kwakho.
Ukuba ungumntwana, abazali bakho kufuneka banike imvume yomthetho ukuba utshatile. Nangona kukho ukukhulelwa okubandakanyekayo, banokuthi cha. Ungazami ukusebenzisa i-blackmail engqondweni yakho kubazali bakho. Zama ukuqonda ukuzimisela kwabo ukungathandwa nguwe njengesibonakaliso sothando lwabo ngawe.Qinisekisa ukuba ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nithandana, ukulinda iminyaka embalwa ukutshata akusayi kutshabalalisa uthando lwakho komnye nomnye.
Yiba neenjongo zokuya kubacebisi bentsapho nabazali bakho. Injongo yesithathu, njengomtshato onikwe ilayisenisi kunye nosapho okanye umfundisi unokunceda kakhulu ekufumaneni konke ukuphucula uxhulumano kunye nokufumanisa izixazululo ezifanelekileyo ezi zinto zingavumelani. Umcebisi angakunceda ekuququzeleleni ukubunjwa kwesakhiwo esitsha sentsapho esibandakanya iqabane lakho.
- Cinga ngokuya kwiingcebiso ngaphambi kokutshata komtshato okanye "Ukuhlangana Kwintlanganiso" ngeveki. Oku kunokuncedisa ukwesaba abazali bakho ukuba uyatshata ngokukhawuleza, ukutshata ngenxa yezizathu eziphosakeleyo, ukutshata nomncinane, okanye ukutshata nomntu ongafanelekanga.
- Ukuba unesicatshulwa sesibini malunga nolwalamano lwakho, hlela umtshato wakho uze uqiniseke ngobudlelwane bakho. Qaphela ukuba kuyinto engathandekiyo ukucima umtshato kunokuba uqhawule umtshato.
- Ukuba abazali bakho bayaqhubeka bengamthandi umlingane wakho nangemva komtshato wakho, thetha ngemida kwaye ubeke umda wokuba ubeke ubuhlobo bakho nabazali bakho ukwenzela ukuba ukungavumi kwabo kungabi ngumtshato phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho.
- Qinisekisa kunye nokuba umlingane wakho uya kubakho kwiintlanganiso zakho zeentsapho okanye u tyelele abazali bakho kunye nawe, kodwa ungavumeli umlingane wakho akude nawe kubazali bakho. Qaphela ukuba ukuhlukanisa kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho yiflegi ebomvu kumtshato wakho. Ukuba ukhetha ukuya kwimisebenzi kunye neemeko zodwa (okanye kunye nabantwana bakho) ukuze ukhusele umlingane wakho oko kuhlukile.
- Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba ukungathandwa ngumzali womlingane kunokudala ukungathembeki, ukugxeka kunye nokuxabana emtshatweni. Ingaba yinto ephindaphindiweyo yeengxabano zakho ezinokuqhuba umda phakathi kwakho bobabini. Ukuba oko kwenzeka, nceda uqwalasele ukubona umcebisi womtshato.
- Musa ukuvumela ukungquzulana kuqhubekele kwinqanaba lokutshabalalisa ubudlelwane bakho nabazali bakho. Cinga ngemiphumo yexesha elide elivela kubazali bakho mhlawumbi nootatomkhulu, abantakwabo kunye namanye amalungu omndeni osondeleyo. Qaphela ukuba ukubamba ingqumbo nomsindo kungonakalisa impilo yakho.
Umzali ongafuniyo ukhetho lwakho lomlingani akuyona into entsha. Noko ke, kuyabuhlungu. Icandelo lokukhula lenza ukhetho lwakho ngokusekelwe kwiimpawu oye wakhuliswa ngazo. Ungalindelanga ukuba abazali bakho bamkele umntu onomlutha, kuxhomekeke kuwe, kukukhathaza nganoma iyiphi indlela okanye akuphathe kakubi. Kodwa, ukuba kukho ezinye iinkxalabo ezinokuthi zenziwe ngolu hlobo, njengethimba bobabili unokwenza umgudu omkhulu ukwenza inxaxheba yakho ekwenzeni izinto ngcono.