Kungakhathaliseki ukuba awuyi kuphephelela ukukhupha isisombululo esinzima
Siyazi ukuba kunye nomngcipheko wobuntu bomda (BPD), iimpawu zenziwa zibi kakhulu ngeemeko ezithile, abantu, okanye iziganeko. Ngokomzekelo, abantu abaninzi abane-BPD bafumana ukuba iimpawu zabo zibangelwa ukugxekwa kwabathandekayo, izikhumbuzo zeziganeko eziphazamisayo, okanye iziganeko ezibonakalayo zokushiya okanye ukulahlwa. Ezi zikhumbuzo okanye iintshukumo zingazisa kwiimpawu ze-BPD , ezifana nokuphendula okunyamekisayo kunye nokulawulwa kwempembelelo embi .
Ukuphepha Ukuphazamisa Abantu abane-Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Isicwangciso esisodwa ongasisebenzisa ukulawula iimpawu zakho ze-BPD kukugwema ukuphazamisa ngokupheleleyo. Oku kudla ngokucetyiswa kumanyathelo okuqala okucwangciswa kwe-BPD njengoko uqala ukufumana isibambiso kwiimpawu zakho. Ukuphepha ukukhusela kungabangela isinyathelo esibalulekileyo ukuze uzinze ngakumbi xa ufunda izakhono zokubaluleka ezibalulekileyo ngexesha lokunyanga. Ngokuziyeka kude nezinto ezishiye iimpawu zakho, unethuba lokusebenzisa izakhono zakho kwiimeko ezinobungozi obuphantsi kuwe. Ukuba uyagxuma kwiimeko zokuqala ngaphambi kokuba ube nesiseko esiqinileyo kunyango, unokuba awukulungele ukuphatha kwaye mhlawumbi ufumane iimpawu zakho eziqhelekileyo ze-BPD okanye ukugquma.
Ukuqonda ukuChukumisa
I-BPD ibangela iziganeko, abantu, okanye iziganeko ezinokudambisa iimpawu zakho zeBPD. Nangona i-BPD ethile ibangela ukuhluka ukusuka kumntu kumntu, kukho ezinye eziqhelekileyo.
Zingaba zangaphandle, zenzeka kwihlabathi elikujikelezayo, okanye ngaphakathi, zivela kuphela kwiingcamango zakho.
Izinto ezibangela ukuba uya kuxhomekeka kwimbali yakho. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unobundlobongela njengomntwana, izinto ezinokubangela ukuba ezo zikhumbuzo zibe phambili zingabandakanya ingxelo yeendaba zokuxhaphazwa kwabantwana, inqaku elikwiphepha, okanye nakwi-movie.
Ukuchonga iziphumo zakho
Ukuba awuzange wenze njalo ngaphambili, thatha isikhashana ufunde indlela yokuchonga i-BPD yakho . Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungaqala kuphi, zama ukucinga ngamanye amaxesha adlulileyo xa uziva uvakalelwa ngamandla, unomdla, okanye unomdla wokuzilimaza. Emva koko jonga emva kweziganeko ezaphambi komzwelo. Iingcali zihlala zikhuthaza ukuncoma uluhlu lwezinto ezibangelwa, ezilandelwa yimvakalelo ezibangele, kunye nendlela oye waphendula ngayo loo mvakalelo.
Indlela Yokugwema Ukubangela I-BPD
Ekuqaleni kwonyango, kunokukunceda ukuyila ubomi bakho ngendlela ongayenza ngayo ukunciphisa. Abanye abantu bafumanisa ukuba kufuneka baqede ukubukela iindaba ezivela kwimini yabo, kwaye mhlawumbi banokuphelisa iintlobo ezininzi zeendaba ngokubanzi. Ukuba kukho abantu ebomini bakho obangela ukuba ungene, ungadinga udibaniselwano oluphantsi okanye ungathintana naye ngelixa usebenza kwiinqanaba zokuqala zeBPD yakho.
Kukhona ezinye izinto ezibangela ukuba ugqirha wakho uncome ukuba uqhubeke nokukhusela nokuba kamva kwiplani yakho yonyango . Ukuba indawo ethile ye-movie ikhumbuza isiganeko esibuhlungu sabantwana, akukho nto yokuyijonga okanye ukuphoqeleka kuyo; kuya kubangela intlungu engadingekile. Ukususela kwiimvumi ukuya kwiingoma ezibuhlungu, ezi ziintlobo zezinto ezincinci onokuziphepha ngaphandle kokuphazamisa ubomi bakho.
Ezinye iindlela zokujongana neengxaki
Ukuphepha ukukhupha akuyiyo yonke into eyenzekayo okanye kucebise, ngoko ke ukufunda ezinye iindlela zokujamelana neBPD kubangela ukuba kubalulekile.
Ukuphepha ukukhupha kuyindlela eyodwa yokufumana kwakhona kwaye akusiyo isisombululo sesikhathi eside kuyo yonke into. Ngelixa kunokuba luncedo gqitha xa uqala ukusebenza kunye neengcali , kufuneka usebenzise esi sicwangciso ngokumodareyitha. Ukuphepha ukukhusela kunokubaluleka kakhulu xa ukukhusela okukukhuselayo kuqikelelwa kwaye ukukhusela akuyikunciphisa ubomi bakho ngeendlela ezibalulekileyo. Kodwa ukuba i-trigger ayinakulinganiswa okanye iquka inxalenye enkulu kakhulu yobomi bakho, ukuphepha ukuba akunakwenzeka okanye ayizinzileyo.
Ngokomzekelo, abantu abaninzi abane-BPD baqaliswa yimpikiswano ebuhlotsheni babo . Indlela yodwa yokuphepha ukungquzulana ngokupheleleyo kwiintsebenziswano, nangona kunjalo, kungabikho ulwalamano kuzo zonke, kuba ingxabano iyinxalenye engenakukuphepha kuyo yonke ubudlelwane. Ngelishwa, abantu abaninzi abane-BPD bafumana bexoshe abathandekayo ngenxa yesi sizathu; banokuthi bagweme ulwalamano ngokupheleleyo ukuze baphephe ukukhubaza iimpawu zabo. Esi sicwangciso asisebenzi. Yenza kuphela iimvakalelo zokuchaswa kunye nobuthixo bube nzima ngakumbi, ukuzisa kwiimpawu ezinzima.
Ukugqiba indlela yokusingatha iziphumo
Kubalulekile ukusebenza kunye nogqirha wakho okanye ugqirha xa ugqiba indlela yokusingatha iziphumo. Uya kukunceda ukuba uhambe okanye akunakwenzeka ukuba uziphephe. Ukuba ukuphepha ukhuphaza kukuphazamisa ubomi bakho ngandlela-thile, njengokukugcina ekusebenzeni okanye ukungahoyi umlingane wakho, ukuphepha kukuyinto enokuyenza. Umncedisi wakho uya kukunceda ufumane enye indlela yokujamelana ne-trigger, efana nokuphuhlisa isicwangciso sesenzo sokuqala.
Ngaphantsi koKhusela okanye ukujamelana neBPD
Abacebisi banokumisa okanye banwebe ngakumbi iimpawu zomngcipheko wobuntu bomda. Ukuba uhlala ne-BPD, ukufunda ukufumanisa ezo zinto kubangele inxalenye ebalulekileyo yokulawula iimpawu zakho. Ukuphepha ukuphazamisa ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba luncedo, ngokukodwa ekuqaleni xa ufunda ukujonga imeko yakho. Ngexesha, nangona kunjalo, ezinye iindlela zokujamelana nezibangela zibaluleke kakhulu ukwenzela ukuphuhlisa nokuphucula ubuhlobo bakho nabanye.
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