Iindaba eziNene ezivela kwi-Children of Alcoholics
Enye yeempawu ababaninzi abantwana abanengxelo yomzali onxilisayo kunzima ukuzonwabisa. Ngenxa yokuba baphatha umsindo omkhulu, okanye ngenxa yokuba baneziganeko ezininzi kunye neeholide ezixhatshazwe ngumzali onxilisayo, abaze balindele ukuzonwabisa.
Abantwana abaninzi abakhulayo kwikhaya elinxilisayo kubonakala benempawu eziqhelekileyo , kwaye omnye wabo akakwazi "ukukhulula" aze ahlekise.
Abavakashele kwi-site ye-Alcoholism site eyaphendula umbuzo othi, " Uziva njani Ukhula Ngokomzali Onxilisayo Utshintshile? " Uchaza oko kufana:
Awuze Akwazi Ukukhulula
Ndisoloko ndiziva ndihluke kwabanye abantu, ndize ndikwazi ukukhulula kwaye ndihlekise kwimicimbi yentlalo, kwaye ndihlale ndiziva ndedwa. Konke ukhuphiswano kum; Ndiziva ngathi ndihlala ndifuna ukuba yinto engcono, okanye ndiyiphumeleli. Ndiyayilwa nolwazi lwam kwaye andisenayo impendulo kuloo mbuzo "Ndingubani"? Ndizama konke okusemandleni akho ukwenza yonke into endiyifumene ngayo, kodwa sele izama kwaye ibuhlungu kakhulu. - JB
Ulonwabo luba neenkohlakalo
Ulonwaba lwam ngoku xa uvakalelwa yintsikelelo kuba ndiyazi ukuba iya kuhlala ifihliwe ngenye isiganeko esiyingozi. Kukho amaxesha apho ndivakalelwa ngathi andifuni ukuhlala ngenxa yokuba intlungu ikhulu kakhulu. Kubuhlungu gqitha. - Uthando
Intukuthelo isekhona
Njengomntwana osemtsha, ndaziva ndedwa kwaye ndonwabile kwaye ndandisoloko ndenza oku kubantu abasondele kum. Ndiza kuthi, "Ndiya kuvuya ngakumbi xa oko kwenzeka, xa ndifumana lo msebenzi okanye ndihambe." Kodwa ngaphezu kweminyaka ndiye ndaqonda ukuba umsindo nentlungu ikhona. - Hailey
Andiyi kuhamba Ndiyolise
Ndakhula ndingazange ndive ngathi ndiqhelekile, ndingaze ndive ngathi ndilungile. Ngoku ndinesidima esinjalo sokuzithoba. Andikwazi ukuphuma kwaye ndonwabe njengabantu abadala "abaqhelekileyo". - Taylor
Iintlungu zam ezintle
Ndicinga ukuba sikhula ngokunyaniseka-utata unqabile imvakalelo yam, kubonakala ngathi ndiba nobuhlungu ngokulula, kodwa imihlali ephantsi kakhulu. Izinto eziqhelekileyo zixhamla phezulu kwaye zingaphantsi malunga nokunganiki umlinganiselo ofanayo wokuzonwabisa. Musa ukungalunganga, ndihlala ndivuyiswa, kodwa kungekhona kwindlela abantu abaninzi abayenzayo. - Biggie
Echaphazelekayo ngabazali boTywala
Ukuba ukhule kwikhaya apho kwakukho ukusela kakhulu, unokufuna ukuthatha le mibuzo ukuze uqaphele ukuba ungakanani na ochaphazelekayo ngamava. Ukuba ubomi bakho buchaphazelekile, unokufuna ukufumana uncedo ngokusebenzisa ukucebisa ngeengcali okanye ukufumana inkxaso kwi- Al-Anon Family Groups okanye iqela lokuxhaswa ngabantwana be-Alcoholic .
Ukuba unengxaki yokusela kwaye unabantwana ekhaya, banokuchaphazeleka ngokusela nokuziphatha kwakho kwengqondo nangokomzwelo kunokuba ungayiqonda. Unokufuna ukuzama ukufumana uncedo lokuyeka okanye ukunciphisa ubuninzi bokusela kotywala obuthelayo.
Buyela kwi: Iimiphumo zoKhula kunye noTywala
Imithombo:
UJanet G. Woititz, "Iziganeko ezi-13 zabantwana abadala," Isiko soLwazi. Fi kelele ngoNovemba 2010.
Abantwana abadala beNkcazo yeNkonzo yeSizwe yeNkonzo yoTywala, "Uluhlu lweMpahla yoLondolozo - Iziganeko ezili-14 zoMntwana omdala onxilisayo," (Kubanjwe kuTony A., 1978). Fi kelele ngoNovemba 2010.